Topic : 10/29 Gender Confused Children

I absolutely disagree with the doctors who say that the parents are at fault. When one of the doctors said that they run a clinic that changes children and makes 'normal'. I completely disagree with them! You can NOT prevent children from being homosexual or being gender confused. Being closer to one parent or the other is normal and would have no effect on them being homosexual or confused. I think the mother you have on this show is amazing and she has a good head on her shoulders and I applaud her for what she is doing. She presents as a very loving mother and she holds her own very well. I hope that you will not have those ridiculous 'doctors' on your show if they can not even try to understand where people are comming from.

                                       Sincerely,

                                           Krista

Please, leave the Focus on the Family Christian Cult off of your show Dr. Phil.  I am sick to death of the Christian Right being allowed to have a voice in American Society.  I'm 100% behind this mum and what she has done by loving her child as God made him as gay, bi-sexual, transgendered etc.  To these crazy Christians it is a Biblical issue.  For those of us who see the Bible as a book only no different than any other, and these lunatic Christians who see the Bible as "God's Holy Word" when it is just another book, that is at the heart of the matter here.  God made this child perfect as he/she is and why do these Christian fanatics have to impose their beliefs on the rest of us?  Cult is a cult whether Christian or not either way it is madness.  Human Sexuality is completely healthy and natural. If Christian conservatives want to raise their children under false beliefs of their religion that is their lawful right. However how dare they push their bogus beliefs which are completely unfounded on the rest of us! 

Thank-you for at least having the voice of reason/sociological study on the other side of the sofa.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with being gay, lesbian, bi-sexual, transgendered etc all fall within the healthy range of human sexuality.  Human beings are the only animal species that wrestles with this and I think it is all because of religion, how stupid. : (!!

This lady needs to look at all the possibilities not just the two that are on her side.  All children have fantasys of wanting to be someone else.  If they are re-directed enough times they get the message.  I feel that when the mom was having trouble with her husband she probably was showing more attention to the boy than she thought and was probably turning to him more than she thinks.  Mom's who are having marriage trouble tend to turn to their children even if they do not realize it.
She needed to turn him more toward his dad and not away from him and she needed to find him a good male role model.
She needs to be less invasive.

Let me assure you there is nothing you can do to influence your childs gender identity either way. I am almost 60 years old and wrestled with gender identity from the time I was 3 until I had surgery at age 39. I always wanted to know why me....why me of all the things that could happen to anyone why do I have gender dysphoria.

I was not raised or encouraged to want to be female. My father was a very masculine man and my mother expected us to be typical boys. My Father was even openly homophobic. He expected us to be typical boys. My brother is very masculine. Me however could not understand this need within me to always feel drawn to be female.

I did my best to deny these feelings for years. I took on very masculine work like building houses. I wore a beard and long hair for a long time and looked like a hells angel. I was married and did all the things that an independent male usually does. Fixed my own cars, raised my own food, built my own house. Had a loving wonderful wife and two beautiful children.

After an accident at work where I damaged my shoulder and could barely swing a hammer any more....my world began to colapse. In may ways I had everything I could want......except my true authentic self. I wanted to finish out the rest of my life as female and couldn't without disrupting the lives of three other people directly and others a little less directly.

Gender Identity disorders are real. Toni is right you can brow beat a child into anything....they will always be miserable until they get to be who they really are.

I lost everything to finally get to where I am I only wish that society was more understanding many years ago it would have spared me and many others all of this pain. I feel completed as a human being now. I no longer struggle with who I am. My only regret is hurting my children.

By the way being a transsexual is not at all the same as being gay. As a twenty something I had plenty of oportunities to be with same sex folks.....but I knew that is not who I am. I now have many gay friends but the ones I am closest to are other transsexuals only we know what we go through. I have been celibate for 22 years now. This has nothing to do with who you want to sleep with. Its about how you see yourself in the mirror with no clothes on.

There are many folks who are Hermaphrodite, some who are folks who have testicular feminization syndrome. The body just does not respond to testosterone. In my mind I would say what happens to we who are transsexuals is a form of testicular feminization of the brain instead of the body. 

The best day of my life was the day I started hormone therapy. It began puberty all over again. I became more sensitive than I already had been. laughed more easily, cried more easily. Became guidy like 14 year old girls do. My voice began to change my skin became softer. I still had to suffer through months of electrolysis to get rid of facial hair.

I cannot fathum anyone of my children wanting to become the opposite sex so that part of it i cannot comment on as I dont know the feelings of my child asking or behaving like the opposite sex however I feel the mother will find her answers as to why this happened to her by looking straight into the mirror! I feel she should watch back the show and see just how overbearing she is to other people who are experts on the subject. If she is like that with strangers you can only imagine how she was with her son.  I question why her husband wasnt on the show,  could it be the mother chased him out too by acting the same way?? I can understand why her son is the way that he is,,,Look in the mirror mom!!!!