Topic : 10/29 Gender Confused Children

I totally agree with you, this type of attitude and ignorance is the same thing as verbal abuse.

i am late to my son's halloween party, but i have to say something. asking Focus on the Family to share their research on this topic is like asking the KKK to share their research and perspective on interracial marriage!!!!!!  could dr phil not  find a more reputable research source??? i think i am so fired up about this b/c i love dr phil, but as a west coast liberal civil right person, and a LMT therapist, I've been unclear on dr phil's feeling about gays and lesbians.(which is not today's topic). he seems awkward. of course, so far, i have seen extremely bizarre gays and lesbians on his show. young woman pissed off at her parents, gay men cheating on their wives, a narcissistic pig of a transgender father and his 2 daughters: a creep man or woman.!!  i'd love it if he had on gay families raising kids, or 'out' politicians. perhaps i've missed these shows. but if he considers Focus on the Family as an expert on sex/identity issues, then it is all over between us. i will be heart broken, as it shows his bias. such right wing organizations breed hypocricy : live your life in this one way, and portray only this as 'right', but live your secret feelings and desires is the most extreme perverted ways. have you noticed that these moralists are the ones who are caught in the most EXTREME behaviors. when they stray they stray way far away. so dr phil, say it isn't so. i have not read these message boards prev, i hope there are some levle headed people here. some other message boards are full of jr hi IQs and silly off the wallcomments. im counting on a conversation.

Maybe God created a girl with a boys exterior. Some children are born with both sets of genitalia. Who gets to decide whether children with ambiguous genitalia are boys or girls? Isn't it the mind and spirit that defines a human being, not the flesh that surrounds it? Who made you God's official spokesperson, anyway?

This isn't like telling a child no when they ask for a piece of candy, or if they want to stay up late. Parents should be the biggest sport and biggest cheerleader in their children's lives while guiding them through life, not shaming them and telling them their feelings aren't right and their feelings won't be tolerated.

That is so not putting real life into prospective!!!  No parent ever lets their children have sex, doesn't matter what age they are!!!  Well if that parent is sane!!!  My point is, kids are having sex younger and younger!!!  and not all parents know about it!!!!  Did I go to my mother when I was 17 and tell her, beforehand, hey, I'm going to go have sex it happens!!!  If that child is raised right than no they shouldn't have sex that young!!!! Girls get their periods at 8, these days.  Hormones changes, making girls having to mature quicker than boys due to having their period so early!  Yes, the parent did choose to let their son wear girl clothing play with girly toys!!  BUT, they did it for a reason!!!  1st 3 years, he dressed as a boy, played with boy toys, than even after he expressed the whole girl situation, they still tried to press you have to be a boy!!!!  You know how hard it must've been for the father to not be able to play football or whatever, stereotypical thing a dad does with his son!  But he realized when his son wore a dress to a halloween thing for school or whatever, he saw the glow on his face, he hadn't seen him that happy!  Not with boy toys, boy clothes etc... so as a parent do you keep pushing being a boy, doing boyish things?  Making your child depressed or do you love and cherish your child?  I have a 20 month old who walks around with my purse on his shoulder but also, plays with his older 6 year old brother's action figures, spiderman, etc.. and he crashes cars too!  Both my boys, played with a doll, and my younger one now plays with it, he kisses it and puts it to sleep and feeds it.  All boys should be given dolls, I gave him the little baby one, to teach him how to treat people, he's really nice and caring.  So should I take that away from him, because he may turn gay or think he is a girl some day?  No, I'm not!  Because, he's happy and seeing my children smile and laugh makes my day, makes me smile and laugh.  So, I wish everyone was just like me, even the Christian parents, and the ignorant people/parents, that are so against the parents who had to decide this.  Seeing my kids smile and happy; I don't spoil them with possessions, they are happy to play with a sock and whatever.  The point is, a good parent nutures, unconditionally, supports, disciplines, shows them the right direction with life!  You teach your children to be leaders not followers, to be their own person, to be themselves!  Not what the world around them as they get older, would stereotypically hate if they were gay, or if they were transgender!  Or if you're not white, than you're not quite right ,<---tgere are people out there that do that!!!  That is what is wrong with this world and the USfreakingA.  No one respects other peoples' beliefs, cultures, race, because, it isn't what they teach themselves or what they grew up as or was taught!  Because it's wrong, I will not judge someone elses upbringing but I'm not going to judge someone total existence.  Because, they would not exist if it wasn't for their mothers and fathers. 

 Yes, the parent did choose to let their son wear girl clothing play with girly toys!!  BUT, they did it for a reason!!!  1st 3 years, he dressed as a boy, played with boy toys, than even after he expressed the whole girl situation, they still tried to press you have to be a boy!!!!  You know how hard it must've been for the father to not be able to play football or whatever, stereotypical thing a dad does with his son!  But he realized when his son wore a dress to a halloween thing for school or whatever, he saw the glow on his face, he hadn't seen him that happy!  Not with boy toys, boy clothes etc... so as a parent do you keep pushing being a boy, doing boyish things?  Making your child depressed or do you love and cherish your child?  I have a 20 month old who walks around with my purse on his shoulder but also, plays with his older 6 year old brother's action figures, spiderman, etc.. and he crashes cars too!  Both my boys, played with a doll, and my younger one now plays with it, he kisses it and puts it to sleep and feeds it.  All boys should be given dolls, I gave him the little baby one, to teach him how to treat people, he's really nice and caring.  So should I take that away from him, because he may turn gay or think he is a girl some day?  No, I'm not!  Because, he's happy and seeing my children smile and laugh makes my day, makes me smile and laugh.  So, I wish everyone was just like me, even the Christian parents, and the ignorant people/parents, that are so against the parents who had to decide this.  Seeing my kids smile and happy; I don't spoil them with possessions, they are happy to play with a sock and whatever.  The point is, a good parent nutures, unconditionally, supports, disciplines, shows them the right direction with life!  You teach your children to be leaders not followers, to be their own person, to be themselves!  Not what the world around them as they get older, would stereotypically hate if they were gay, or if they were transgender!  Or if you're not white, than you're not quite right ,<---tgere are people out there that do that!!!  That is what is wrong with this world and the USfreakingA.  No one respects other peoples' beliefs, cultures, race, because, it isn't what they teach themselves or what they grew up as or was taught!  Because it's wrong, I will not judge someone elses upbringing but I'm not going to judge someone total existence.  Because, they would not exist if it wasn't for their mothers and fathers. 

 

Those who have been medically diagnosed with alcoholism----is a real physical disease.  One has LOST the choice.  Good for you that you can choose.  You will KILL the alcoholic who needs help, so please don't try.

My heart goes out to the couple on today's show, I have no idea what I would have done if faced w/their situation, nobody knows unless they've walked a mile in their shoes. I would have tried to be as understanding, compassonate and knowledgable as they are.  I was blessed w/3 boys, all grown now.  However when they were growing up they goofed around with my high heels and played dress-up, even put balloons under their t-shirts for fake boobies, Big Deal, none of them are gay, they were playing. [This is for you Muslim parent's on the show] All three of my boys had Cabbage Patch Kid babies too!!  Are you kiddin me that playing with certain toys means someone is going to become gay or makes them a sissy? Whatever!!  My husband of 28 years works at the railroad and was gone alot of the time during their growing up.  It was up to me to be the decision maker, mother/father, friend, etc, and I think I did a damn good job. BTW all 3 played Varsity Football in H.S.  I raised my kids to be responsible, kind, caring [christian] adults, and to be respectful of whatever other ppls gender relations are, you see they have a Aunt and a Uncle that are gay. They accept it, and love them and their partners.  Too bad there are so many ppl out there that are ready to crucify anybody that's different than they are.  The world would be a much better place if there were more compassion and understanding, and fewer stones being thrown!

Dr Phil has, in the past,  had shows that have featured young men and women who have had body dysmorphia and anorexia/bulimia.  In these shows you have people who truly deeply and passionately believe one thing despite the fact that their physical circumstances say some thing totally different. (For example:  someone who looks perfectly normal can truly believe that they are horribly disfigured or someone who is of average or below average weight and build may see themselves as disgustingly obese.)  Why are these seen as obvious disorders which are treated with medication and therapy and something like gender confusion is seen as a choice.... for a 3 year old to make...?!  I can see no difference in the external circumstances of these groups and I wonder why its ok to treat these (body dysmorphia and anorexia) as mental disorders but we aren't allowed to even broach the idea that maybe someone who is physically a boy who believes that they're a girl might also have a mental disorder.  Instead we're considered enlightened and wise if we let them be what they believe.  Should we then let an anorexic starve themselves?  Should we let someone with body dysmorphia plastic surgery themselves into collapse so that they can make their external characteristics match their internal perception?

I have never once seen this comparison made on the Dr. Phil show or anywhere else and I wonder why that is?  I'm calling Dr. Phil out on this one.  Let's talk about this.