Topic : 10/29 Gender Confused Children

I have a cousin that was born with MS and he knows God doesn't make mistakes - and my cousin tells people about his condition and has a very thankful heart. He turned the MS into a positive aspect of his life and shares it with anyone who he comes in contact with-he is a Christian.

 Tell your Fiance, to have faith, and stay strong, It will get easier and better as time goes on.  Remember to be True to yourself, and Try to understand those who do not understand ! May God Bless You and watch over you!

Be careful..fellow Christian     . that almost sounds as if implying God made a mistake with a mix up of souls???

J'aussi!

Amen

he was trying to make was that people tried to"play God"  as this Dr. Money did. What happened to David Riemer was awful and shouldn't have happen.

To those who judge others you should be ashamed of yourselfs.  Im just amazed at all the narrowminded people in this forum.  We should love and support our kids no matter what as long as they are not doing harm to others.  Oh and last time i checked god loves everyone no matter what. 

I dont think you know what you are talking about.  And until you do, you should keep your opinions to yourself. Have you ever met anyone who was transgender?  Being transgender has nothing to do with being gay. My husband is a transexual (a female to male)..  Today he is a happy, healthy, fully male productive citizen.  I never knew him as a female but I do know the torment he went through as a child when he knew from the age of 5 he was in the wrong body,. Oh he tried for years to fit in and that just made him suicidal.  He has spent over $100,000 for surgeries...why would anyone "choose" to pay that much money?  And his parents did not push him to be a male, they wanted him to stay a female. This was his choice.  God did not make a mistake; he does allow things to happen to make us stronger. It is just like if someone was born mentally retarded...if there was a surgery to fix this, would not just about any parent go through with this surgery.  They would not say god made a mistake, but they were just fixing what they were dealt with.  I disagree with you, people can be born gay, straight, blind, deaf, transgender, mentally retarded: it is a part of their genetics they were given at birth.  Transgender is not a psych disorder:  you cannot fix a psych disorder with surgery.  My husband was depressed for 20 years; when he finished all the surgeries he has had no regrets and is happy.   Your comment about adam/eve and adam/steve: who do you want transgender people to be with.  If they transition and physically look like a male, do you want them to be with a male just because they were born female?  You would judge them on the outside as being a gay couple.  Do you not think everyone needs the chance to be loved?  I am glad this topic is being talked about; but I hope people will actually do research and know the facts before they just start spouting off at the mouth about topics they do not know about.  We are suppose to love everyone, not be judges ourselves. 

Let me explain who I am and let you figure out what I should do?
I was born with an extra chromosome I am 47 XXY, Intersex with a partial uterus, one ovary, one testes, as well as a penis. By the age of 14 I had grown breasts on top of that I was a male. Hmm rough huh? I went into hiding then, in the society then what could I do. There were no Dr Phil's. I am 47 now transitioning into that woman god forgot to finish. Why you are asking? I am 89% female and in premenopause and my wrapper is 11% male. So Dr Phil what do you suggest I should do now. Now remember God doesn't make mistakes.

Should I transition my gender, what gender was that?

Dear Choirmouse,

I also found out about my husband's crossdressing after we were married. I was very hurt, confused and overwhelmed. I understand what you are saying. The best thing I ever did was go to therepy with my husband, but it needs to be with right person who is a specialist and can answer your questions. Your husband might need to learn to communicate better wth you about his needs and you should also set boundries. My support and information comes from Dr. Virgina Erhardt, Ph.D. (http://www.virginiaerhardt.com ) and from the Southern Comfort Conference(SCC) in Atlanta in the fall each year.  Dr Virginia's book, Head Over Heels is excellent. Many husband's and wives go to SCC together and there is a wives group called The Comfort Zone. It has been a blessing to me and our marriage.( http://www.sccatl.org/comfortzone.htm) I wouldn't let my husband meet with his crossdressing friends without me. We should talk.

Cyndi