Topic : 10/29 Gender Confused Children

These therapists are part of the indoctrination of our children that has been going on for a long time . T hey want them to believe it is ok to be homosexual :so the first time that a child displays some natural curiosity the parent goes all balistic and takes their child to one of hese quacks. They are then told that their child is really hiding the desire to be the gender other than what  he or she is. And we are to halt all rationality and believe that a 3 year old can decide this type of thing. Give me a big old break. A child that age is hardly aware of what they are. They just want to be left alone to play and grow up to be nornal paople.

I appreciate the Dr. Phil show for attempting to get both sides together to discuss this HOT TOPIC! Whatever you believe, I have a comment about Dr. Seigel. It concerns me that he and his colleagues are encouraging these hurting and confused families to start hormone treatments for the confused children so young. The brain is not developed in children until they are older. He himself clarified that the jury is still out on the "science" of everything (I forget his exact comment about it), so why would any doctor or therapist encourage such a drastic solution at such a young age when science is not even 100% that a person is "born that way".

When dealing with our children, I would think the ethical route would be to wait to make long-term changes, no matter what you personally believe about the subject. We barely let our 16 year old sons drive, and some states are even re-considering changing the age until 18 to drive!! The car insurance people mention in some of their ads that a 16 year old's brain is not fully developed yet and lacks proper judgement and decision-making skills. Why would we allow them to decide to change their gender without serious, serious long-term research and soul-searching?? A decision like that should be reserved for AFTER they mature physically and emotionally. We would all go crazy if our 12-16 year olds announced to us that they just got married . We ALL know they lack the proper emotional and physical maturity--right?? I'm confused why a doctor that writes books about the brain would not mention this very important aspect of the children's development!! 

Any of us with pre-teens and teens know that this is the absolute WORST time in their lives for decision-making! I'm concerned that when these children grow up, they will charge these well-meaning doctors like Dr. Seigel with medical negligence. As Dr. Seigel also admitted, the entire family seems to have worse problems when the child changes gender at such a young age. It seems to make an already confusing and painful situation even worse.  I feel for these parents, but the one parent on Dr. Phil was not open-minded and that concerned me. When dealing with our children, we need to take time and get all the advice we can gather instead of just trying to "fix" the problem quickly.(I'm a parent to five kids...I KNOW how hard that can be!) I feel the caring and well-meaning Dr. Siegel enables these families in their lack of patience, even making the situation worse. Any thoughts??

Look i am for the first time sitting here watching this Dr. phil show and i must say,,, what is up with people in the world... Is it that huge of a deal if your child wants to be a boy or a girl... I love my kids and regardless what ever they decide i will love them... How can people feel likethey lost thier child... come on now they are still here today...you should be happy to be able to hold them and love them unlike many who have lost thier child.. they would love to have it this way then not to have them.. My girl who actually are genitically males where born with a genitic disorder.. Its called Anfrogen insensity syndrom (AIS) and  when they where born they said chose a name that is for a male and  female... Well ya know what  i decided when we found out everything that i would raise them as girls,,, and what they decide in life i will love them no matter,,, i have a sister that has the same problom and she is all female acting and looking.. I mean i guess when you are one raising a child or two with a actual child that is transgender i have learned to accept everything... i don't judge gays and i don't judge people who are or want to be different... And this doc on here that says it's all what the parents embrace then tell me what i should do... cause i have been raising them as girls but let me tell you they are tomboys and i don't care,,, i love them for them.. i love them and god made them this way and he makes no mistakes... so please those parents out thier feel lucky to have your child and have them there to love and hold.. cause god gave them to you regardless what sex they want to be or if they want to be gay ... god makes no acc... so they will be what he wants them to be.... I feel people look to much at the bs side of crap and not the omg i am blessed to even have this child let alone feel like i lost him or her cause they feel transgender....

this is my oppion on this subject and i am allow to voice it.. you may not agree with me but until you live in our situation no one can judge us...

Dr. Phil,

These parents are 100% to blame for their childrens actions. It may very well be true that femininity may be something that starts in the womb. However, femininity has nothing to do with what gender a child feels they are. These are learned behaviors in my eyes. My son is a bit on the "soft" side - he's even tried playing with dolls, playing more with little girls rather than boys and so on. I did not disipline him for it and even allowed it to an extent. There is a line, though. I also encouraged him to participate in more masculine behaviors and activities. When it seems to spiral out of control you must put your foot down! Would you allow your child to eat nothing but candy for breakfast, lunch and dinner - even if they refused to eat anything else and seemed to be starving because of it? I know I wouldn't. If they are truely trans-gender it won't go away. It will still be around when they are adults and are able to make their own decisions. You CANNOT condone any behavior your child insists on displaying unless it is something that you are teaching them yourself. I just heard a comment on how a percentage of children basically outgrow this. What does that tell you? Stop making excuses for yourselves and act like parents!