Topic : 10/29 Gender Confused Children

Gay and transgendered people are totally different. It would much easier to be gay in this world. I feel very sorry for those transgendered children as they were brought into the world by the maker and we, as a people, need to understand what these people go through. It is a tough ,tough road.

Have some compassion and walk a mile in their shoes and then come back and make assumptions.

I fully agee.Way to go Toni! You are a hero for all transgendered children.

I agree with so many of the comments on the board. On this subject I truly cannot choose a side. The issue of Gender confusion is so difficult and such an emotional subject. And I hate that it is called confusion. How horrible to lable someone as confused, when in their mind they are certain of who they would prefer to be. Now with that said, The mother of this child was a tyrant. If in another circumstance would Dr. Phil allow her to attack him the way that she was attacking these Doctors whom did not disagree with her but was mearly trying to present their opinions and some of the results that they have seen during their studies. Were they saying that she as a mother was not a good mother, never once did I hear them say that to her but she repeadtedly belittled and ridiculed these men. In my opinion she was very confused herself, she said that she felt that her son had died, but she did not want to hear anything or learn anything new. I feel that if she were truly concearned she would be receptive to every single detail that someone was offering her and make an educated decision.

Wow is about all I can say right now.. I have been reading posts and some things I agree with and others I do not. Everyone can feel the way they choose.

Let me start with the mom. I am a mom of 4 and if someone told me I was to loving, smothering, or anything else I would be pissed and not want to hear a word they say after that. You can not tell me that because I am bonding with my son I am making him become gay or wanting to be a girl. That is just bullshit. I have 2 girls and 2 boys of my own. They play with what ever they want to. I am not going to tell my son he can not play with dolls when my daughter is playing with them.Or tell my daughter you can not play with trucks. I do not think a mother or father can be to loving. Isnt part of the problem these days with some kids is that parents arent loving enough and there?

Now for the doctors.. Again they have there views and that is thier choice. But I do think they were wrong on how they treated the mom. Yes she was rude and nasty to them BUT they were making it seem it was her fault her child is the way he/she is. She told them she wasnt attached to her son when he was young and they still blamed her. If there way works for some kids they great.. BUT we know what is right for one isnt right for another. I feel they should have made statements like that and that some people will be in the wrong body (easy way to put it). They made it seem that it is the parents fault and the kids should not be that way. That is wrong because in my eyes if a child is confused and hears that not only are they trying to deal with there issue they have people telling them they are wrong and now they might want to kill themselves.

Again the doctors might help some people and that is great but others they arent and they have to think about how those people they cant help are going to feel. And for the mom.. I am sorry that she was upset because she wasnt able to speak about how her son/daughter is living now and how accepting it helped.

I feel so strongly about this that I couldn't even wait until the end of the show to speak up.  I was a single parent for several years with two sons.  The two guests on the show claiming that boys being too close to their mothers is a problem are absolutely ridiculous.  One of my sons was what people called "all boy" and the other had a temperament usually seen in girls.  He also asked for an Easy-Bake oven for Christmas one year and I gave it to him.  He was like a girl in many ways but never wanted to be one.  Both of my sons are grown now and they're both still male.  I encouraged them both in whatever interests they had.  Meanwhile, when I was a child, there was a time when I thought I wanted to be a boy because I didn't like the way girls got treated in society.  It was a phase.  I'm still female but I have a lot of male interests that nobody ever discouraged me from pursuing.  I have made repairs to vehicles and appliances and am currently doing major renovations to my basement.  Whatever our interests my whole family is still the genders they were born as depite the fact that nobody pushed stereotypes on any of us.  However, for some people it goes beyond interests and you can't make them something they're not.  I am so proud to say nobody stereotyped me and I didn't stereotype my children.  If either of them had decided in their teens that they were not the gender they felt they were supposed to be I would have gotten them counselling to see if it was just a phase, without discouraging them from being exactly who they are, whatever that may be, and to help them transition if that's what they needed.