Topic : 10/29 Gender Confused Children

If the interests of the child are just part of childhood fantasy they will move on themselves. Redirecting may actually prolong the interest because the kid finds that there is some reason you do not want them to be doing this.

More than anything in these issues is that much of what we are is actually hardwired. Dr John Money who studied this issue many years ago had the theory that any child could be raised to be any gender. He was proven to be completely wrong. He believed that the brain and thus the mind was like a blank tape when we come into the world. That what we encounter is what shapes us as individuals and that includes gender.

He based this on two twins who had gone for circumcision as infants, when one of them accidentally had the penis cut off. The surgeon just told the mother and father to raise the boy as a girl. This case was well documented most of the way through. But many years of following this case showed Dr Money that this child who was becoming an adult was very unhappy. He fudged some of his conclussions.....in favor of his theory. Ultimately the boy raised as a girl killed herself....as did the brother who was born at the same time.

Gender identity is like many other things in the brain...like the need for air and water and food. They are hard wired instincts. Just as the need for love. The need to be ambulatory.

I find it interesting that like folks who have never had children, who seem to do their best parenting before they have children. There are folks who have never had a gender dysphoric child, or a gay child......who are so sure that all the kid needs is a few football games with dad.....or a couple of firetrucks for toys...or that mom must have given the kid a little too much soft attention......that that is at the heart of why kids are gender confused.

I lived through the growing up years as a gender conflicted child/teen/young adult. I had the fire trucks...I went fishing with dad. Learned how to pass and throw a football. I learned how to box as my dad was a golden gloves champion and taught hand to hand combat in the Army. I learned how to build cars, houses, Machinery.....on and on. But none of that disuaded me from also wanting to grow breasts and menstruate.

Believe me as a kid I knew if any of my private world got out I would be disowned and most likely beaten for being a 'queer'. I thought I was the only person in the world like me. Until I saw Christine Jorgensens autobiography. I never had a chance to read it until years later.

Today we have all the technology to help thse kids change over as early as possible. In my opinion they should change before they are 18 because they have almost no history to have to work around. They respond to hormones much more completely than they will later in life. The sooner we wake up as a culture to the reality that this is not a passing fantasy......the better off we as a culture will be and the happier the individual gender dysphoric child will be.

Oh, what a world we live in... All I want to say to you is my heart goes out to you.  Isn't it amazing that Sarah Palin can have a "mother/bear" instintic of protection over her unwed teenage daughter and the "right wing" stand up and applaud and vote for her.

But, God forbid you show a "mother/bear" instintic of protection over your child.  Your just overly protective, overly involved and "ruined" your child; And people call you rude.

I get it... as I have a gay young adult child whom with hindsight recognizes he has always been gay. 

You know with Seven kids living in this house and he being number 6.  I had so much time in-between being a wife to my husband, training and driving the teenager's around, making sure everyone had done their chores, cleaning, cooking a meal, doing 20 loads of laundry, yard work, fruit tree farm, checking homework, etc... that I also found the time to overly bond with this child. 

You know, I wanted all that time alone with the kids; didn't want their dad involved.  Hum... from what I remember he hung out with his older brothers most of the time.

But, yes I found a way to "ruin" this child in Dr Dobson's eye's and his staff.  I have thought about suing Dr. Dobson as I raised all my children IN THE CHURCH; and Dr. Dobson's tapes and books are what I followed.  My whole life inside and outside has been my faith, relationship with Christ.

What I wonder is:  if overly-bonding with a boy causes a boy to be gay or transgendered than why are they usually boys born after other boys?  why are not most of them Only born boys whom mothers have more time to overly-bond?