Topic : 10/29 Gender Confused Children

I am a parent, and I believe that everything in life is taught. Life might be taught by the parents, grandparents, friends, teachers, TV, and others who cross your path.  

Children when they are born they are a blank slate, and it is the responsibility of the parents to teach the child. Whether it is to teach right from wrong, left from right, happy from sad. I believe apart of teaching is explaining to the child the differences between what it means to be male and female. Parents should teach their children to love themselves and who they are, including the sexual parts they were born with. 

I am shock by Dr. Michelle Angello stating heterosexuality is not  natural. If heterosexuality is not natural then the human race wouldn't exist because human babies are created when a man and a women  have sex. Thousands of years ago,  Women couldn't go to a clinic to get artificially inseminated, she needed a man.  Heterosexual is natural, its a fact of life! Without heterosexuality there would be no human race!

With all the modern techonologlies we have in today's world, We (humans) have the luxury to forget what makes a woman a woman and what makes a man a man. 

    Hello, I'm Carolann, a male to female transgender girl. I was raised in a "normal" family home (Mom, Dad, 2 brothers) but I knew about age 8 that I was different. I didn't "fit "into the mold like my two younger brothers. I tried to express my feelings around the time I was 13 and was told by my Dad that I was to act like my brothers & be a man or else. He would have no part of a queer son. Being very afraid of him, I hid my feelings and did my best to do as I was told. I eventually married, had 2 kids and tried to live a "normal' life. I still had many thoughts of trying to be the "girl" I knew I really was, but didn't want to be dis-owned by my family, so I kept "her" hidden for 20+ years. My marriage eventually ended in divorce partly because of needing to express myself. I then married a girl that I knew from school.  She is extremely accepting of me and has helped and encouraged me to be who I truly am. Through those 20+ years, I contemplated suicide several times and once was seconds from ending it all when I thought of my 2 kids without a father, and  stopped what I was about to do.

   I have been out as Carolann for 4 years now and these have been the happiest years of my existence! I am finally living my life as I know it was meant to be. I hated my father for what he made me do, and forcing me to be miserable & hide within myself. Since I started to be my true self, I have had many people tell me that I look and act much happier than they have ever seen me before. I am now involved in the local PFFLAG-TB (Parent, Friends, Family of Lesbians And Gays, Transgender,  Bisexual), trying to help others deal with the same feelings that I went through.

      If anyone wants to talk about this with me, I can be reached at Carolann49202@Yahoo.com,  or yahoo I.M. at Carolann49202.

     I feel that Toni is doing the right thing with her daughter and defending her is what she should be doing! She is doing what any good mother should be doing - defending the right to be who she wants to be! Way to go Toni!!

     Thank you Dr Phil, for getting the word out and helping to make the world a better place for transgender individuals. Carolann Kay

Dr. Phil I watch you everyday and never have I been so shocked by your guest "experts".The way those two doctors spoke about Toni and her transgender child was garbage.Thankfully the other two doctors were TRUE experts and showed some human kindness and understanding.

 I can't understand why Dr. Phil let Tony talk to his guest doctors like he did.  I think Tony should be ashamed of her self.  The doctors should of got up and told Dr. Phil if he was going to let his guest treat them like that why did he ask them to come on the show with him?  If anyone else had talked like that to him he would of stopped the show right there and told them he was done.  I have watched the Dr. Phil show since it came and sometimes I don't always agree with what is said but I have not seen Dr. Phil let his guest insult his guest doctors like he did tonight.  

First off, having a religious agenda does not make you a science based expert. Second of all, I would never go to a doctor with a creepy, glazed over look in their eye like Dr. Nicolosi.

Other than that, I find it embarrasing that we Americans are so closed off from the rest of the world that we are centuries behnd other cultures in terms of our attitudes toward trangendered people. Many Polynesian cultures have long traditions of a fair and equal place for transgendered people in their society. I am no expert, so do your own research, but it is my understanding that in Samoan culture having a transgendered son is a considered a blessing. I am oversimplifying this info for length, so look it up for the full explanantion.

Another thing to consider is that we are surrounded by chemicals that are estrogeneric, which means they raise your estrogen levels. Some of these products are pesticides, lotions, plastics, and processed soy foods. Heating your food in a plastic container or ingesting food from a styrofoam container is not healthy. Do a google search for phthalates and read up on it and you'll probably want to change all of your food and beauty products to organic ones and your food and water containers to ceramic, glass, or metal like I did.

When a woman is pregnant and she has elevated estogen levels all sorts of problems can occur, especially with male babies. I started researching this topic after reading an article in the Honolulu Advertiser about how doctors and nurses have noticed a statistical decline in the penis size of newborn baby boys over the last few decades which they attribute to phthalates. This fits right in with Dr. Seigal's scientifically based comment about the development of the nervous system in utero and the units of testosterone affecting the developing male brains. Could this be the reason transgenered male to females are 5 times more common that female to male? And is this on the rise in countries polluted with estrogeneric chemicals?

Isn't it time that we all stopped clutching on to rigid, controlling, sexist ideals about the way people should be? Stop hurting other people just to maintain your illusion of control. Religious fanatics have been marginalizing homosexuals for thousands of years and have they disappeared? Have they been extinguised? Most people who lead Holocausts against groups of people are considered monsters and we only make exceptions when we don't want to admit that we are benefiting from this messed up behavior.