Quote From: savvymodI agree yes she needs the love from her father, but are we really saying 6 weeks grounding for a bad grade is harsh? Give me a break. If he knows that she can do better and she's not then she should be grounded. And if you can go outside and play for hours on end in the heat, you can go out there and pick up rocks too....that's not hurting her. And last kids love to test their parents, I did and I'm not that far from being a teen. So if your punishment was to sit on the couch until you felt like talking and I didn't feel like talking to you so I set on the couch, I did it to push you. All she had to do was say hello and hug the person that provides for her not jump through some impossible hoop. She chose not to eat he didn't deny her food. I do see where he might punish for every little thing which is wrong but these punishments are sooo far out there. But maybe I just grew up around military families. When I was 13 everything my mom did to me was unusually mean and she didn't care and all that. This whole thing is slightly ridiculous....and she is 13, her punishments should be different than her younger siblings.
"are we really saying 6 weeks grounding for a bad grade is harsh? "
6 wks *is* harsh. You're point will be well taken in 2-wks. That's yrs to a teenager. Throw in no cell phone or computer and you've crippled them. 6wks is too much. I was grounded so much of my teenage yrs yrs. I had decent grades, didn't do drugs, didn't drink, and was a virgin. But yet my mom like this father had it in for me. Both my brother and sister, were drinking, drugging and having sex, but not me. They NEVER got grounded. Nothing. I guess someones got to be the junkyard dog huh?
"So if your punishment was to sit on the couch until you felt like talking and I didn't feel like talking to you so I set on the couch, I did it to push you. All she had to do was say hello and hug the person that provides for her not jump through some impossible hoop. "
Why should she want to hug ANY man? Let alone her father who was tyrannical? She was sexually abused. Her parents not only didn't want to talk about it, they didn't even call the police. Her Daddy did NOTHINGGGGG. But make her sit on the couch because she denied him a hug and a chat. Think about it.
"I do see where he might punish for every little thing which is wrong but these punishments are sooo far out there. But maybe I just grew up around military families. When I was 13 everything my mom did to me was unusually mean and she didn't care and all that".
Everything you said in this last quote, just contridicted everything you said prior.
" This whole thing is slightly ridiculous....and she is 13, her punishments should be different than her younger siblings."
Except here you come back. You were treated unfairly as well.
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