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Topic : 12/30 Extreme Discipline?

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Created on : Friday, October 24, 2008, 02:58:01 pm
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(Original Air Date: 10/31/08) Grounding for two months, withholding dinner, making a child stand at attention for hours or collect rocks in the hot sun … is this basic discipline, or is it too extreme? Trisha fears her husband, Rafael, is destroying their 13-year-old daughter with punishments that are too severe. Rafael says his wife forces him to be “the hammer” because she’s too lenient. Their opposing views on child discipline are putting a strain on their marriage, but what is it doing to their daughter? Hear her heartbreaking diary entries. Plus, what happened in this household that’s been swept under the carpet for far too long? Dr. Phil has a heart-to-heart chat with the teen. Have you ever wondered if your discipline tactics will have a lifelong effect on your child? Are you inadvertently crossing the line into abuse? Grade your own parenting skills with today’s show. Plus, learn discipline guidelines that will keep your children healthy and thriving. Talk about the show here.

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November 24, 2008, 10:01 pm PST

I am glad you heard me. Mission accomplished! :)

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With must respect, I don't think its about making yourself heard.  We hear you.  It's your behavior that is an issue.  Bush won the election on his "Christianity".  But there is a now a large backlash because people now equate Christianity to cult mentality, bullies, & thieves.   Under Bush's regime there has been the largest growth of atheism in history.

 

I believe people are searching for kinder, more tolerant, less greedy  leaders and role models.  I have met many Christians, Jews, Muslims & Buddhists that walk their talk.  But some religious people ( of all religions) are very scary.

 

 

Peace.  MM

People vary well may be searching for kinder, more tolerant, less greedy leaders and role models.  However, the vary person that meets all that criteria could very well be the Anti-Christ.  I'm not naming names, I'm just saying BE AWARE.

 

If you don't mind me asking what religion are you?  If you'd rather not share I totally understand.  So, what is it about "my behavior" that bothers you?"  I would like to know so I can change it.  I'm sorry if you were offended, I just wanted to excercize my right to freedom of speech like everyone else, but I never intended it to be offensive. I do agree with you, there are people in all types of religions that are questionable.  But don't catagorize the ones that aren't with the ones that are, is all I'm asking. God Bless!

 

 

 
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November 24, 2008, 10:18 pm PST

10/31 Extreme Discipline?

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As I said...we have to be trained in almost every aspect  life.  Last week I bought a TV and the manual was half an inch thick.  People hand parents a baby and say "Have a nice day!"  Most of us don't have the benefit of the yrs of education and experience that Dr Phil has.

Putting his education out there?  Forgive me, if ths whole show is predicated on th fact that he is a DOCTOR. 

 

Where Im living has nothing to do with this. Turn on a TV, watch the news, go to Youtube.  Kids are out of control.  They beat each other up and video tape it.  That child would rather sit on a couch than give in.  That is not punishment that I would consider cruel. I dont think that he is a monster.  He is human, like the rest of us. 

I agree being made to sit on a couch is not punshment per sey.  It the reason he made her sit on the couch that I have issue with.  I believe in picking your battles.  I think he is/was just being petty in his messed up attempt to make her mind.  I have 6 nieces and nephews who are like my own, when or if I ask the youngest for a hug (which is pretty common) he doesn't always, but I don't send him to time out;  I go on about my business.  On the other hand, if she was told to do the dishes or homework, ect and she didn't, then I would agree with grounding her from one of her much-enjoyed luxuries.  But that's just me, others have different views.  A hug isn't something commanded/demanded, it is something earned.
 
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December 26, 2008, 10:23 am PST

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Disci Doctor Extreme Phil Pline/Robin. I have never been done any thing wrong in my life.  See you on T---

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December 27, 2008, 7:38 am PST

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I call this child abuse, any child should not have to be in the heat collecting rocks or with holding their dinner it is wrong and if one thinks that it is right to have a child out in the heat knowing that a child is left in a hot car what can happen this child could have a heat storke. If the parents really love this child they would not be doing this. Their are other ways to solve bad behavior, Take something away that they like playing with or they cannot have a play date with the friends that she likes to hang out with or no phone calles to her friends what a day or two their are other ways of dealing with behavior then doing what the parents are doing now,Both parents need to go to parenting school and untile they can get a grip on things this child should be living with a grandparent. How would they feel if they were being punish like this and where they

punish like this when they were a child?

    The problem is that that the parents ARE feeling!  Emotion is much stronger than logic.  People are not capable of feeling logically.  Don't you remember how many times Bones tried to explain this to Spock?         

     Parents watch their children misbehaving, and they cease behaving in a rational manner.  They enact the scenes of their own childhood, driven with a power and a force that they can not understand. 

   

    

      

 
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December 30, 2008, 2:29 am PST

12/30 Extreme Discipline?

What is wrong with these people?!  Somebody rapes their child and they do nothing?!  This poor girl.  No wonder she feels so alone.  It's hard to have self esteem when your own parents won't lift a finger to protect you.  My heart really goes out to her.  I really hope child protective services are on this like white on rice.  This girl needs to be as far from that home as possible.
 
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December 30, 2008, 3:37 am PST

12/30 Extreme Discipline?

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    The problem is that that the parents ARE feeling!  Emotion is much stronger than logic.  People are not capable of feeling logically.  Don't you remember how many times Bones tried to explain this to Spock?         

     Parents watch their children misbehaving, and they cease behaving in a rational manner.  They enact the scenes of their own childhood, driven with a power and a force that they can not understand. 

   

    

      

Remembe this

Foolishness is  bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him. How many of us that has reach the ages of 50 plus understand that this was a good method in correct problem when we came up.  Don't be so fast to judge without having some solutions to solve the problems. Ours children today are being destroyed for tomorrow because they are being allows to be undiscipline today. 

 

Just a friend who wish that we all would take a step back and stop condemned others without a real solutions to the problem. If the advise that is being giving, was the solutions then while of we still having problems in schools today with our children. Now, look back in the 60's and 70's  and you would see that these problems of today was fewer.

 

May God help us all to become better problem solves

 
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December 30, 2008, 9:13 am PST

EXTREME DISCIPLINE

I AM VERY ANGRY.........A knot on a dogs as would know this man SEXUALLY Molested his own daughter, he is very sick.....he had a smile on his face the whole show.....PLEASE DO NOT LET HIM GET AWAY WITH THAT ACT....it was not a relative.....they has brain washed the little girl........I knew it was sexual abuse when she did not hug him..........PLEASE INVESTIGATE.....i AM BLA CK...BUT THAT BLACK WANT A BE IS SICK......HE DOES NOT WANT HIS WIFE....HE WANT THAT CHILD.....SICKO......DR PHIL YOU SHOULD HAVE REALLY GOTTEN ON HIM....WERE YOU SCARED....ANYONE AND EVERYONE READ BETWEEN THOSE LINES .....THAT MAN IS SICK AND THE WIFE IS TOO FOR ALLOWING THAT TO CONTINUE TO HAPPEN....HE KNOWS THAT PEOPLE ARE GETTING PROSECUTED FOR SEXUAL ABUSE....SO HE STOPPED............HE STILL NEEDS TO BE CHARGED........

 
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December 30, 2008, 11:18 am PST

NOT ACCEPTABLE

I HAVE HAD SOMETHING LIKE THIS HAPPEN TO  MYSELF AND MY NEPHEW (FROM MARRIAGE) AND I CANNOT UNDERSTAND HOW SOMEONE CAN DO THAT TO A CHILD ANY CHILD LET ALONE YOUR OWN CHILD I FEEL SO SORRY FOR THAT LITTLE GIRL AND I HOPE HER FATHER ROTES IN ALL YALL KNOW WHERE

 
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December 30, 2008, 12:30 pm PST

12/30 Extreme Discipline?

I am watching this show and I am so sick inside..When I was growing up this happened to me and my brother and my sister with our step father.

Yes this man is crossing the line! Just as my father crossed the line.

When U read that letter at the beginning of the show I cried for this child. Because I was that child.

I was the oldest and therefore he came after me alot. We had to strip nake and cross our arms and hold our shoulders as he beat me with a belt. Because he was the HEAD OF THE FAMILY. AND HE WOULD SHOW RESPECT! We were raised Jehovah Wittnesses and in the Kingdom hall we were the most theortic family. But that was there what happened behind closed doors was something else done in the name of Jehovah.

One time I didn't clean the house the way that we were excepted to and for that summer the whole summer I could not read, talk to anyone else in the family had to be in bed by 5 or 6 pm I was not allowed to eat with the family I had to eat alone and do all the cleaning after each meal.

I felt so alone so beaten..but did I show him NO it made me stronger in the fact that no one will ever hurt me again.

God I hope someone helps this lil girl...before it is to late

 
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December 30, 2008, 12:32 pm PST

RESPECT IS EARNED

LOVE AND RESPECT IS EARNED BY ADULTS AND CHILDREN NOT JUST ADULTS. I THINK SOMETIMES AS PARENTS WE DEMAND RESPECT WE CAN DEMAND ALL WE WANT BUT IT IS EARNED. I RAISED 5 CHILDREN AND I HAD TO LEARN AS I WENT AND IT WAS NOT EASY BUT OF ALL THE THINGS THAT I HAVE LEARNED YOU HAVE TO GIVE LOVE AND RESPECT TO GET IT BACK.

 
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