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You see photos of missing kids on billboards, flyers, at the post office and even in grocery stores. Child abductions are a reality, and friends, neighbors or even relatives could kidnap your youngster! In 2002, 11-year-old Shawn Hornbeck vanished without a trace. His parents, Craig and Pam, lived their worst nightmare, until four-and-a-half years later when Shawn was found alive at the home of a child predator. Hear their emotional story and Shawn's courageous tale of how he survived captivity. Next, Jessyca was 13 when she was abducted, held captive and raped by a neighbor. After three months, she was returned home, but her mother, Monica, says she wasn't the same little girl. It's been 13 years since Jessyca's abduction, but the wounds haven't healed. Hear about the pain she still lives with every day. How can she pick up the pieces of her life? Then, in the new film, Gardens of the Night, Tom Arnold plays a pedophile who targets and manipulates an 8-year-old girl to abduct her. Hear why he and the filmmaker, Damian Harris, were compelled to make this movie. And find out the five things all parents need to know to keep their child safe. Talk about the show here.

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November 1, 2008, 1:52 pm CDT

DoctorPhil Show.

Abductions Child Doctor Phil. Are you kidding  me?  I have never been abductions in my life. See yo-

u on Monday November 03rd, 2008. Sincerley Your. Russell Vlaanderen.-------------------------------------

 
November 1, 2008, 7:16 pm CDT

Keeping your children safe

As young children, 2 of my 3  sons joined TaeKwonDo. I had taken self defense classes a year prior to this and I felt it was a good step. Small town (less than 4,000) even so, going to larger communities for trips, etc. I felt I needed to make a move towards their safety.

How right I was. During the next few years, issues came up, bullies, challenges, the education in self defense through TKD allowed them to move past the bullies with self confidence and challenge them to their gym to wear safety equipment, then accept their challenge.  No bully ever showed up, showed their faces again, also knew my kids stood up for less fortunate students who continued to be bullied. The principal of the high school issued an invitation for anyone who wished, could join my son at his gym to see what they could do.  Announcments of advancements in rank and also tournament results would be announced and posted in the schools.  The list of students in TKD grew longer--alot happened to be those being bullied as well as special needs students.  The bullying within the students dropped off. This made the problem public, as well as the names of the bullies were coming forward too.

My sons never had to fight a bully anywhere, their own personal safety was enhanced.

 

Kids need to know it is o.k. to fight back and how to get away from danger--safely and swiftly. You don't have to fight back--only when you have no more options--being taught how to get away is part of the TKD skills learned.

 

I am at 15 years later, now a practicing Grandma--with  6 and 2 year old granddaughters who also know the sport. They also have been taught to show self confidence in their personal space. The 2 year old has high kicks, powerful hits, as well as a sqwack that is similar to her taught yell.

I don't give opportunity to leave them alone, nor do their parents. The 6 year old is known as a playground peace maker, yet, she carries herself with self confidence and stance and her classmates know she studies TKD.

If you don't learn and practice, practice practice, you can't expect the natural thing to happen of what is in their minds, hearts and souls in how to respond. You can't take a half hour lesson in a  classroom, parent talk, etc. You must allow your child to be safe in the realm they can function in. And this takes practice all the time. 

My 4th grader and 7th grader continued with TKD, the oldest studied up to 2nd degree Adult Black Belt and 1st in Hapkido, before moving on from home. He was also the gym head instructor for 3 years too.

the 4th grader, well he is now known as MASTER MARC.  He has studied all levels, gone to Korea to study, has other martial arts black belts added to his skills and one of his 2nd jobs is teaching TKD since he was 18.  He became the head instructor and teachs 2 night a week. His goal is for kids to learn how to be safe, show their parents the skills their children have in being safe.  His pay is not much--he keeps his class fees down to make sure all who want TKD can have it.

The side note is the teachers find students are easier to teach in classes, they show respect and manners more than other children.  Master Marc also teaches special needs children. They are of many levels and feels they also need a sense of personal safety.  He has has students who have graduated come back for continuing classes--even special needs students. They school special needs teachers also recommend his classes to parents.

Oh,  he holds his classes in the school gyms which helps students in their own surroundings as well.

 

Master Marc teaches from the World Federation TKD from Seoul Korea. They are the last association in the US still connected ONLY to Korea.

I  hope this makes sense,  let's keep those kids safe.  

Sign me  PROUD MOM.

 
November 2, 2008, 11:56 pm CST

My heart breaks for Jessyca

My heart is saddened by seeing Jessyca and her story. She is so sad and at 26, she deserves a better, happier life. I wanted to jump through the tv and hug her, cry for her and help her. Dr. Phil, PLEASE make sure she gets the help she needs. I also hope that you continue working with her and post updates on her progress. She is in my thoughts and prayers. I applaud her for having the courage to go on the show.
 
November 3, 2008, 9:10 am CST

Gavin DeBecker... on Oprah 5+ years ago.. More helpful hints

Oprah had Gavin DeBecker who is also a security specialist.  Not to take away from Dr. Phil's guest today. However, Gavin has written two very helpful books for Moms and really just people in general. 

 

One thing to tell your kids.....If you are being taken by someone not of your own free will scream to the top of your lungs....YOU ARE NOT MY MOM OR YOU ARE NOT MY DAD!!!  We have all been there when we see a child throwing a fit and can sympathize with that parent as they take the child kicking and screaming out of the store... but what if that wasn't the parent?    If some child was screaming you are not my mom or dad!  I would do something about it.

 

I highly recommend his books, One is called " the gift of fear" and the other is "protecting the gift:.  Really great tools for parents and people in general about how to protect themselves without being terrified at every turn.  How to listen to your "gift of fear"  and lots of tips for you to help protect your kids.

 

 

 
November 3, 2008, 9:35 am CST

Jessyca

My message is for Jessyca. I just want to tell you, Jessyca, that you are a beautiful, sweet girl with so much ahead of your life. Your story touched me and I am so sorry for what happened to you. You did not deserve to be treated so terribly. You are a precious gift and your life is precious and people care about you that you don't even know - believe me. You moved my heart to write this to you. You are worthy of all good things in life and you can get stronger and see yourself for the true beauty that you are inside and out! You are so strong! You are a survivor! I wish you all the best for your future - you deserve the best that life has to offer. There are many people out here thinking of you, please remember this. We care about you!

 
November 3, 2008, 10:46 am CST

To the Hornbecks and Jessyca

My heart goes out to all of you,thank-you for sharing your stories with us ,it serves as a reminder to us all to warn our children of the dangers out there.Thank-you.
 
November 3, 2008, 12:22 pm CST

to Jessyca

I hope Jessyca knows that she is a beautiful soul, both inside and out.  Her inner beauty really shows when she smiles, and while I'm sure she hasn't felt like smiling much, she has a beautiful smile. It's ok to smile.   Jessyca, you have also proven you are a fighter.....fight the negativity of all you've been through, and win back your life that you so very much deserve. 

 
November 3, 2008, 12:24 pm CST

My friend was abducted

When I was 8 years old I was playing with a friend in her backyard.   It was a very rural area and her backyard was heavily wooded.  We heard a chainsaw in the distance and she thought it might be her father so she headed through a wooded trail to find him.  I didn't want to go with her so I went into the house with her mom and sister.  When they asked where she was I told them she was looking for her dad but he was still in the house so we got worried and went to look for her.

 

This was in 1981 and she has never been seen again.  Originally people thought maybe a bear got her but there was evidence of some men doing illegal logging in the area and 2 had criminal records...one for exposing himslef to children and the other for assault on his ex-wife and her 3 children.

 

They were both suspects but never caught.

 

I realize now there was nothing I could have done but as a child I often had dreams of chasing the man, beating him up and getting my friend back.  I wonder to this day if there's any possibility that she is alive.  I suspect I will wonder until the day I die.

 
November 3, 2008, 12:50 pm CST

Stand up Jessyca!

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I hope Jessyca knows that she is a beautiful soul, both inside and out.  Her inner beauty really shows when she smiles, and while I'm sure she hasn't felt like smiling much, she has a beautiful smile. It's ok to smile.   Jessyca, you have also proven you are a fighter.....fight the negativity of all you've been through, and win back your life that you so very much deserve. 

I hope Jessyca stands up for her life now! She is a beautiful, intelligent and warm human being. Like Dr. Phil said, who she was when she was 13, is not the person she is now. I stand up for her to and pray she get's her life back. Kepp on keepin' on Jessyca!!! Christine from Cortland New York.
 
November 3, 2008, 1:07 pm CST

abduction by stranger

I was abducted over 50 years ago and my mother's voice when I first saw her was, in my memory, an admonishing one. I was an adult before I was in therapy and hypnotized to take away a lot of the words that alluded to how ''bad" i was. unfortunately I still carry some of it with me. I work every day to praise myself and try to convince myself that I was a survivor because I did escape. Hollow words but I try.

I say that Mr. May will not ruin my life and is deceased now no doubt but one thing that upsets me is that I dont feel we can ever enpower a child to outsmart or outthink a determined pedophile who can plan around anything we tell our children. It upsets me every time I hear adults (parents, tv, experts, police) trying to do so.

 
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