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Topic : 04/09 “My Child Can’t Stop Eating”

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Created on : Friday, November 14, 2008, 03:17:09 pm
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(Original Air Date: 11/18/08) Dieters know how hard it is to shed five or 10 pounds. What do you do when you need to lose 100 pounds … and you’re just 10 years old? Dr. Phil talks to parents who say they can’t get their child to stop eating, and they fear this food addiction could turn deadly. Luz’s daughter, Kayla, is just 5 years old, but she already tips the scales at 113 pounds. Luz says her child throws temper tantrums when she doesn’t eat, and she once screamed so loudly for junk food, her neighbors called the police! Does Kayla have an eating disorder, or is Luz enabling her? Dr. Jim Sears, co-host of the hit show The Doctors, gives this mom a wake-up call. Then, Stephanie says her 3-year-old daughter, SaJatta, is addicted to sausage and grits. The toddler weighs 88 pounds and gets winded just walking up the stairs in her house. SaJatta’s grandmother, Mary, says the little girl is spoiled, and she doesn’t know how to say no to her. What do the results from SaJatta's blood work reveal? Can the family conquer her obesity? Plus, Mary says her daughter, Brittany, was an active child until she broke her ankle five years ago. Now at age 10, Brittany weighs 190 pounds, and her folks say she’s turned into a couch potato. How can Mary and her husband, Roger, motivate the child to lose weight? Fitness trainer Robert Reames has a surprise for the family! Talk about the show here.

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November 15, 2008, 12:50 pm CST

WITH PARENTHOOD COMES RESPONSIBILITY

With parenthood comes responsibilty.

Responsibility indicates a person is serious about whatever endevour they are involved with.

Parenthood really is a vocation, and a learning experience. As parents we learn on the job, but how long should it take for a parent to realize that a child has an eating disorder? At what point does a parent begin letting a child take over the rule of the home?

Seems to me that many parents find it easier to let a child have have their own way, in defference to the parents investing themselves in the healthy upbringing of the child. Just as a physician, or anyother professional must continue the lifelong process of educating themselves, so must parents.

It's quite sad when a parent drops out, and lets the child take over their own raising. As parents we are the ones that are supposed to be using our maturity and efforts in raising and teaching our children, especially in the areas of healthy living. I've seen more watchfulness among dog and cat breeders involved in highly honed breeding programs. I wonder why some parents show less care and attention to raising healthy, well balanced children. I believe this problem falls on the shoulders of parents. These children who are prolific overeaters have established habits that were allowed by their own parents. Overeaters are not born into this world as overeaters, that habit is established or allowed to be established by the parents. I say, parents "get with it", take your responsibility as a parent seriously. Educate yourself, get help if needed, but for goodness sake be a parent. Children are not the ones buying the groceries, or bringing them into the home. Children do what they are allowed to do!!!  Children eat what they are allowed to eat!!!  Whose in charge at your house, you or your children??  Parenting skills are needed if this problem exists within your home!!!

 
November 15, 2008, 2:26 pm CST

Parents always overweight too

It's no surprise that these overweight kids never seem to have parents that are anywhere close to a normal weight. I was overweight as a child also, but relative to these kids, I was pretty thin. That's probably because my parents realized I had a tendency to overeat;  when I reached puberty and became concious of my weight, they supported my efforts to lose it (I went to Weight Watchers). Plus, we always ate fruits and vegetables and never had soda or chips in the house. 

So much of the problem is lack of education, which is another situation that isn't getting any better in this country, but don't get me started on that one!

 
November 15, 2008, 3:21 pm CST

11/18 “My Child Can’t Stop Eating”

How many of these shows has Dr.Phil done? They all have a common thread: parents not having enough of a spine to say "NO" to their kids when they're babies and then complaining when the child is 6 years old and throwing a hissy fit because the parents finally realize that letting them eat 5 cheeseburgers and 3 whole pizzas in a sitting isn't healthy!!! This is not rocket science people!! If the child has been tested and doesn't have a medical disorder, then the problem lies with the parents, not some doctor who won't lie to them and tell them what they want to hear.

 

I see so many overweight children, we're talking 7 year olds who weigh more than I do and their parents would rather let them kill themselves slowly and have the poor kids be teased mercilessly at school than take responsibility and "JUST SAY NO!!"

 
November 15, 2008, 3:42 pm CST

WHY are you killing your children with FOOD?

WHY are people KILLING their children with FOOD??

WHY so many OBESE children???

I don't understand HOW a parent can ALLOW a child to get MORBIDLY OBESE at all!

 

YOU CONTROL THE FOOD THAT COMES INTO YOUR HOME!!

 

I knew the moment my daughter was born that it was MY RESPONSIBILITY to feed her a decent BALANCED meal every single day. That was a lean protein, a carbohydrate, a vegetable and rarely a bread....and then it was whole wheat long before it became popular. (she's now 24 and has been eating it all her life)

 

Yes I allowed junk food.......NOW AND THEN......very RARE occasions, birthday parties, Holidays ect.

 

I would go in the grocery store and see other peoples carts full of JUNK for their families and I would shake my head. I could not understand how anyone could feed their kids junk like frozen pizza's, pizza rolls, french fries, chips, doritos, dips......ICE CREAM all next to the HOT DOGS and lunch meats like BOLONGNA.

It digusted me then and it disgusts me now to see the JUNK people will eat.

 

We do have the occasional treat, like right now I'm baking a homemade NY style cheesecake...but it is made with Splenda and low-no fat cream cheese. It tastes every bit as good as the super fattening version that you'd never know the difference. (In fact you may say mine is better!)

 

Everything in America seems to be dripping with SUGAR.

My foreign guests were shocked at how SWEET everything is in America! They were appalled! They were grateful to come home to a good well balanced and low fat and HEALTHY meal!

 

Why would anyone over-feed a child let alone over-feed them the wrong things? FOOD IS NOT LOVE!

FOOD IS NOT A SUBSTITUTE FOR LOVE.

FOOD IS NOT AFFECTION!

Food is not comfort!

 

Food is FUEL. Food is a TOOL.

 

WHY would you subject your child to CHILDHOOD TYPE 2 DIABETES? High cholesterol? Heart disease?

Why give them ADULT health problems??

 

Do you realize that for the first time the children today have a shorter life expectancy than we do?

COME ON PEOPLE WAKE UP!!

 

You can have treats, you don't have to deprive yourself.......just be responsible. Withholding sugar laden snacks is NOT child abuse! THAT is LOVE!

 

 
November 15, 2008, 6:47 pm CST

They can stop if you make them

In my opinion, these kids either have a biological disorder which hopefully can be treated, or they are being abused by their parents.  If the former is not the case, then the parents need to stop 'letting' the children eat whatever and whenever they want.  Too many parents just give in, because they do not want to hear the whining, crying, screaming, tantrums, whatever.  They need to learn some patience, grow a backbone, and do what's best for their kids.  If they do that consistently, it will be rough the first few times, but then the child will calm down and begin to eat normally.  To start, if the parents wean their kids off of all the sugar and high-fat foods they are eating, I'm sure even if they eat as often, but with healthy foods and just water to drink, they'll probably lose a lot of weight just from doing that.  Once they do that, they can work on portion control and an exercise program.

 
November 16, 2008, 4:47 am CST

Don't know what to do

I have a 12 year old daugter who weighs 260 pounds.Many people have tryed to talk to her and you can't get through to her that this is a serious issue.I have taken her to two different specialists and all they came up with was that it is hereditary and her body is over producing insulin.She is suppose to be taking medformin but says she doesn't like to take pills and it's like a joke to her.She was even put on wellbutrin 450mg as they thought it would crub her appetite and that did nothing.She can eat a meal and in no time she is hungry and looking for something else to eat.When I say something to her,her reply is I know mom I'm trying.She has been diagnosed with depression but doesn't  take her pills everyday like she is suppose to.When I ask her if she has taken her pills she tell me ya when I know she hasn't.I used to be a heavy person until I had gastric by pass and I know what it's like and I'm so worried about her and don't know what to do.I even suggested trying a weight watchers program and she refuses.I'm scared something is going to happen to her.
 
November 16, 2008, 6:24 am CST

are you kidding me ?

i see this over and over all the time now.  Parents are spoiling their children so much by NOT being able to say NO to them.  I have never seen so many overly large children in my life !  you can't stand there and tell me every one of these children has a glandular issue. Parents wake up !   Making your child actually WORK for something and telling them NO on occasion is not bad for them !
 
November 16, 2008, 7:21 am CST

There's a Reason For It

A lot of times when I see a really huge adult, I think that there may have been sex abuse in childhood.   I don't know if there's a connection there or not, but there could be.  In any case, a child who eats and eats and eats is probably compensating for unmet needs.  The parents need to educate themselves and then do what needs to be done to help the child.  (And it isn't only the mother's problem . . .)
 
November 16, 2008, 10:09 am CST

A food addicts point of view...

Quote From: zuzubird

A lot of times when I see a really huge adult, I think that there may have been sex abuse in childhood.   I don't know if there's a connection there or not, but there could be.  In any case, a child who eats and eats and eats is probably compensating for unmet needs.  The parents need to educate themselves and then do what needs to be done to help the child.  (And it isn't only the mother's problem . . .)

You ARE on to something with your post... but PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE dont think of the absolute sickest, most depraved thing you can think of ( sexual abuse) when looking at an obese person.

 

 

I am a food addict, I like to say food lover, and I always will be even though I am recovering.   I never got hugely big.   I am now a misses size 14-18 depending on the garment and am aiming to be a solid size 14.   

 

 Why not a size 6 you say?  Because I intend on continuing to enjoy my food, just more responsibly.  And not let people make me feel like a size 14 is a size 26.

 

Thats my definition of control. 

 

But I think people don't realize the physiological asspects of food addiction.  If someone quit smoking cold turkey they would likely get headaches or other physical symptoms.

 

And you don't even have to smoke to live!  You pick up the habit.

 

But everyone has to eat something, unless they are on a feeding tube.   So it can be tricky for an addict.

 

There would be times when I would have a splitting headache all day and tried to go to college and then to work at night.  I would take Advil every 4-6 hour and nothing would get better.  Till I broke down and ate somthing naughty at the end of the day and 10 minutes later the headache was gone.

 

Thats what people need to understand.  Having a headache or being nautious all day long and being expect to perform your daily tasks.

 

It took me a lot of taste testing diet foods, learning how to make them taste good,  transfering my craving to harmless things like diet soda,   learning how to make myself full on fewer calories, and other tricks to finally get the weight off.

 

A small child can barely tell their parent to take them to the restroom muchless say "mommy help me rearrange my physiology so I won't be dependent on the endorphines that eating gives me"

 

Give the parents a break!

 
November 16, 2008, 10:42 am CST

11/18 "My Child Can't Stop Eating"

Quote From: jules1965

WHY are people KILLING their children with FOOD??

WHY so many OBESE children???

I don't understand HOW a parent can ALLOW a child to get MORBIDLY OBESE at all!

 

YOU CONTROL THE FOOD THAT COMES INTO YOUR HOME!!

 

I knew the moment my daughter was born that it was MY RESPONSIBILITY to feed her a decent BALANCED meal every single day. That was a lean protein, a carbohydrate, a vegetable and rarely a bread....and then it was whole wheat long before it became popular. (she's now 24 and has been eating it all her life)

 

Yes I allowed junk food.......NOW AND THEN......very RARE occasions, birthday parties, Holidays ect.

 

I would go in the grocery store and see other peoples carts full of JUNK for their families and I would shake my head. I could not understand how anyone could feed their kids junk like frozen pizza's, pizza rolls, french fries, chips, doritos, dips......ICE CREAM all next to the HOT DOGS and lunch meats like BOLONGNA.

It digusted me then and it disgusts me now to see the JUNK people will eat.

 

We do have the occasional treat, like right now I'm baking a homemade NY style cheesecake...but it is made with Splenda and low-no fat cream cheese. It tastes every bit as good as the super fattening version that you'd never know the difference. (In fact you may say mine is better!)

 

Everything in America seems to be dripping with SUGAR.

My foreign guests were shocked at how SWEET everything is in America! They were appalled! They were grateful to come home to a good well balanced and low fat and HEALTHY meal!

 

Why would anyone over-feed a child let alone over-feed them the wrong things? FOOD IS NOT LOVE!

FOOD IS NOT A SUBSTITUTE FOR LOVE.

FOOD IS NOT AFFECTION!

Food is not comfort!

 

Food is FUEL. Food is a TOOL.

 

WHY would you subject your child to CHILDHOOD TYPE 2 DIABETES? High cholesterol? Heart disease?

Why give them ADULT health problems??

 

Do you realize that for the first time the children today have a shorter life expectancy than we do?

COME ON PEOPLE WAKE UP!!

 

You can have treats, you don't have to deprive yourself.......just be responsible. Withholding sugar laden snacks is NOT child abuse! THAT is LOVE!

 

Everything in America seems to be dripping with SUGAR.

My foreign guests were shocked at how SWEET everything is in America! They were appalled! They were grateful to come home to a good well balanced and low fat and HEALTHY meal!

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FOOD IS NOT A SUBSTITUTE FOR LOVE.

FOOD IS NOT AFFECTION!

Food is not comfort

Food may not be comfort for you, but for some it is. We don't even know why these children are over eating. Maybe they do have an addiction for food, emotional eaters, happy, sad, bored. Maybe yes, maybe, they do have a physical and emotional problem. They crave the sugar and all the junk food they can and the good food, too. There is nothing wrong with having ice cream in the house either. You act like you are the queen of all healthy life style. I bet you had junk when you were younger. Everything in moderation. Most of us know refined sugar is not the best. Try to find a bread that does not have any kind of something you don't want in it. By the way, Splenda is made in a form of sugar. So, you can't get away with having nothing to eat that is made with splenda.

       We see kids who are over weight and we don't know why. I met a young woman some years back. She eats and is full but her body is telling her she has to eat more. Guess what? She has a glad problem. We all think people eat for some reason, but never know why. Maybe if the world would stop judging, it would be a more sunnier place.

 

 
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