Topic : 11/20 Spouses at War

And the fact that she doesn't work excuses calling her a c***? A b****? Making her feel even worse about herself?

Wake up.

I could not believe the show today...THIS IS MYSELF AND MY HUSBAND!!...Except, our marriage is 14 yrs old and this bickering/control/whatever started within days of being married in 1994...both of us had been married previously...I was pregnant...we had a gal child and attempted to get on together as a family...over these years, it became very apparent to us both that this was just not working out...But until our daughter became older..she is 13 now...we plaed tug and war continually...he has a hair-trigger temper...I would try to calm it...over and over and over again...

These last several years, we split up into separate houses at the very least twice a year...this year we have lived in separate residences 4 months...and still we cannot get along...last spring when we were apart, he told me that he could live with me under the same roof IF we were not married...I balked at that idea!!...ha!!....TODAY, as we peacably agreed to 50/50 split of assets, I actually felt a relief and a love for the man who is known to me as my husband...I can say I truly do love him and wish him well and happiness...

Most imprtantly, I felt a total relief when I heard Dr. Phil state that today, I could choose to change MY compass point, that I could change my experience...

...I love my husband as a human being...I always will...I want he and our daughter to have a wonderful life now in a new relationship that they themselves work out together...

All three of us are so relieved I know I could sleep at 7pm tonight...

You know, I did not marry a man I did not like and enjoy...we lost each other somehow somewhere...the past is the past, the arguing is a done deal for us...WHAT A RELIEF!!!

Iwish this couple could just do the same...I (I wish all married people could pull up their big boy and girl pants and when they decide that a relationship is finished...THINK OF THE CHILDREN who must stay there with you as furor abides...they cannot leave, they have no choice..

The two of us decided today..FINALLY...that there has been enough 'WE'. here....

From now on, first on both of our lists is our child...

My child has a real chance now NOT to repeat the mistakes we have made...and I thank a higher power somewhere for helping us...to get this right!!

Sincerely,

a really happy soon to be divorced mom and dad

Donna, have had numerous affairs and don't respect herself and her husbands and her kids.  That's the bottom line.

Donna, in her own mind she think she can't do anything wrong because she is protecting her affairs.

I had a wife just like Donna and got a divorce and re-marry and I am still the same but happy.  In that married I couldn't do or say anything right.  The things I did wasn't go enough.  Donna, is walking died!

I think Donna need to get a lot of help with her childhood issues by leave her family and only if she get better may she return.  Also, I think has to many skeletons in the closet and to much trash in the trash can that she need to get off of her chest.

OK kristy, been there, done that too. Been married to mine for 24 yrs. ( just 2nd marriage). Yelling, name bashing, whatever, still with him.  But maybe, just maybe, if she would not shop till the bank account is at $0 and stop having the attitude of "poor me, poor me", he MIGHT just have a different way of looking and feeling about her. I WOULD NEVER, EVER GO SHOPPING AND, (FOR ONE, NOT WORK), AND SPEND ALL THE MONEY THAT MY HUSBAND BROUGHT HOME TO SUPPORT THE FAMILY ON MY "WHIMS AND WANTS". And it seems like he's doing very well for himself. Cuddoes to him.

OMG, she has a nanny, housekeeper and whatever the hell she wants. What's up with that??? And OK< she supposidley was abused when she was younger, I'll give her that one, if it's true. I have no clue. Even if that's true, I don't think I'd go on spending sprees and abuse my "wealth" and take advantage of my situation.

But I don't know, haven't been there.

 HE JUST CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE.

I'm surprised he was even on the show trying.  That's a good luck to everyone there.

OK, I'm going to try this again, I got booted somehow.

I'm going on 24 yrs. with my husband now, it's my 2nd. And yes, we sometimes have yelling, name calling, whatever.

But I would never, ever, ( and I'm not going bold caps here this time), drain any bank account to zippo just because of  my "whims and ways". Sorry, not that way. I am grateful and thankful for what I do have and don't abuse my  gifts. I have never been abused as she says she has and I'm sorry for that. But maybe the husband has just had enough of her draining him. It would be nice... nanny, housekeeper, husband that makes good $$$$, shop for whatever you want. I'm surprised he was even on the show. SHE needs to get off the pity-pot and be grateful for HIM. Maybe if she would change, he would too.

OMG dude, chill out..lol... I agree but not so wholeheartedly as you.

And you work 16 hrs a day?? 7 days a week?? How the heck you do that mf??