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Created on : Thursday, December 11, 2008, 02:53:45 pm
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Do you have someone in your life who makes the holidays more of a headache than a festive, joyful time? Jennifer says her mother, Judy, otherwise known as Grandma Claus, goes way overboard when it comes to Christmas. She says her mother decorates every square inch of her house with her estimated 1,200 snowmen, 1,000 Santas and angels, and tens of thousands of lights! Judy’s Christmas spirit takes up so much space, she can’t even eat at her dining room table. Jennifer says her mother gives so many gifts to her three daughters, that it takes them an overwhelming two hours to open them all -- and at least 75 percent of the gifts end up in the trash or donated to charity. Don’t miss what makes Grandma Claus’ gifts so … special. Then, Dr. Phil’s next guest, also named Judy, is a self-proclaimed Scrooge who hates Christmas and refuses to celebrate it at all. She says the holiday is nothing but greediness and commercialism. Can Dr. Phil break through her "bah humbug"? Plus, don't miss some exclusive backstage moments from Dr. Phil and Robin’s fifth annual Christmas in Washington concert, which airs December 17 at 8:00 p.m. ET/PT on TNT. Join the discussion.

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December 17, 2008, 7:37 am CST

Worst gift ever

I had a boyfriend who had said he was planning to marry me.

 

When Christmas came there was a jewelry box under the tree and he saved the gift until last to present it to me.

 

The box contained a pair of earrings I had purchased for myself when we had been shopping for a gift for my mother!

 

Jennifer

 
December 17, 2008, 7:56 am CST

Judy Humbug Thoughts

I am sitting here listening to Judy, who says she hates Christmas.  If I was thinking of Christmas from her perspective, I would hate it, too.  People can be very mean and insensitive this time of year.  I grieved for the man that lost his life at the Walmart, and I often stare at people in shock and awe as I watch the greediness come out during the holidays.  However, my view of Christmas is much different, and I wish I had the chance to share this with Judy.

 

Christmas is not about presents.  It is not about cookies, and holiday movies.  It is not about Christmas cards and all the glitter.  It is not even about family.  Christmas is about the birth of Jesus Christ.  God sent his only son down to earth as a little, vulnerable baby.  This baby turned into a man, and this man took on all of the sins that everyone in the world has ever committed and ever will commit, so that I might be able to live with God forever when I die.  His life and death are the ultimate Christmas present.  If a person accepts this gift, and in turn gives their life to Him, they have the true meaning of Christmas to celebrate. 

 

The reason that I celebrate Christmas is because my Savior was born!  Without his birth, I would have no hope, and Christmas would be a meaningless holiday. 

 

I offer this message up to those who read it as hope.  Christmas can be more than a stressful holiday that brings out the worst in people.  It can be the glorious celebration of a Man sent to earth to change your life!

 

Merry Christmas!

 
December 17, 2008, 8:06 am CST

The best worst gift ever!

I could tell hours of rib spitting stories about the gifts my mother in law has given my children over the years but between us all "the best worst gift ever ", was given to my oldest daughter, Gabrielle. She was sixteen at the time. Although, we had spent the day with my husbands parents, we were handed our Christmas gifts through the car window as we were leaving for home.

As we were driving, the girls unwrapped the newspaper. It was actually a Nieman Marcus box. Comments like, wow, she has really turned the corner on her gift buying and she actually went out and bought something nice escaped our lips. We sat in the car barely breathing waiting for the reveal. The beautiful box opened revealing a dirty cream plastic blob. It took a second to figure out what it was. My daughter suddenly screamed, it is a used phone aid. Yes! You know, the thing you stick to the back of a princess phone that lets you hold the phone between your chin and shoulder. We all burst into laughter for the next thirty minuets, we would gain our composure, then someone would start laughing again triggering another ten minutes of laughter.

That gift has haunted us. My husband and I took our youngest daughter, Chelsea out for a late dinner  last night. As we were sitting in our booth, I heard roars of laughter. One distinct laugh rose in my ears. I peaked over the wall to see my oldest daughter a few tables away with her husband and several other couples rolling with laughter. She was telling them about her "best worst gifts ever", the dreaded used dirty cream plastic phone aid.

Oh, the news on the gift, it was washed and stuck to Gabrielle's old phone as soon as we got home. That dirty cream plastic blob in the Neiman Marcus box went on to become the best gift ever given to Gabrielle by Grand Winci. It wasn't the aid it provided, it has been the years of laughter we were gifted and that we can share with our friends.

Merry Christmas everyone. I hope you laugh with those you love this year. 

Ruth

 
December 17, 2008, 8:07 am CST

2 Sides

i thought that i was a scrooge about the holidays til i saw this. i have to say that i think that "grandma claus" is VERY extreme. if i got half the gifts she gave, i would be embarrassed, disgusted, and disappointed. if your gonna give gifts, give gifts that are practical and useful for the person you are giving them to. however she DOES have the spirit of giving, she just needs to direct that motivation in a better direction.

on the flip side, the "scrooge" they had on made some VERY valid points, particularly when she said its a hostige situation. "drive through the ice storm and risk your life to get here, or i will be broken hearted" that makes total sense if you ask me. and when she said something about making sweaters for charity with the decorations. i mean HONESTLY, think about it. this day in age we could be using our money and resources much more effeciently on IMPORTANT things than these snowglobe or santa fan blown up lawn ornimant things. that is A HUGE waste of plastics and electricity if you think about it on a large scale of how many ppl have those things nation wide.

over all they are both extreme-ists, but just take a moment to think of all the christmas stuff "grandma claus" has in her house, and think about all the raw materials it took to make all that stuff, and think of all the things those raw materials COULD have been used for to better the economy. and then think of all the ppl that are just like her, the mass scale of christmas "decorations" that could be used for a better purpose.
 
December 17, 2008, 8:56 am CST

worst gift

My ex husband bought  me a glock 19 hand gun with night sights for Christmas the first year we were married. I've been vegan for 18 years I've never shot anything on my life. The second year he bought me a satellite dish
 
December 17, 2008, 9:13 am CST

Christmas

I do not see what the problem is with the mom decorating the way she does.  I count the days until Thanksgiving because for me that kicks off the Christmas season.  I listen to Christmas music every chance I get, I wear Christmas shirts, pins, and jewelry.  If I was allowed to I would not only decorate the inside of my house but the outside and the yard.  I absolutely love Christmas and it is my favorite holiday and season.  I am so glad to know that there is at least one other person that loves it as much as I do.  My daughter would sympathize with her kids.  One year at midnight on Thanksgiving I called her and announced that the Christmas season had officially started.  My daughter just laughs and goes on, she is all the time telling her friends and boyfriends to watch out for me when Christmas get here.  So I say go for it Judy(christmas fanatic) and don't let anyone make you change.  If more people celebrated Christmas just 1/2 as much then the world would be a much better place. 
 
December 17, 2008, 10:00 am CST

Worst Christmas Gift I Received

A few years ago,my husband gave me a rifle....I have no idea what kind and I am not an avid hunter. I can still remember the pride on his face as he handed it to me. That was the last time I have touched it and I have no idea where it is at today! When I threatened to sell it, he wrapped the stock with camouflage tape so I couldn't pick it out of his collection of guns! The only reason I do want to keep it is because it was made by my brother.

However, I did get even......the next year for Christmas, imagine the surprise on his face as he unwrapped his brand new cobalt blue KitchenAide Mixer! I love that mixer!

 
December 17, 2008, 10:18 am CST

Unhappy New Year

I hate this time of year because it's almost over.  As the year comes to an end, my feelings of doom, dread and fear increase. Most people are happy when we enter a New Year because the old one was so awful they're glad to see the last of it. But the new year always, ALWAYS turns out to be just as bad, or even worse. Not only do we still have war, disease, fighting, killing and general stupidity more than ever, but now the economy is in complete ruins. I can hardly stand it. Why? WHY????????????????????????
 
December 17, 2008, 10:26 am CST

Scrooge Judy

 I agree with scrooge Judy and don't find "Grandma Claus" amusing in te slightest.  I can celebrate the meaning of Christmas without buying a single thing or cooking a meal that takes hours and costs a weeks grocery budget.  I thank God everyday for the gift of his Son and don;t need lights, presents, crazy shopping with sales that aren't really sales and ALL the charity organizations making you feel less than human if you donate at this time of year.  If people behaved only a fractrion of the way they project themselves this time of year (most of them or rude and stingy the rest of the time)  for the whole year, the world would really be a better place.

 
December 17, 2008, 10:35 am CST

NO BAH HUMBUG HERE

MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ONE AND ALL.  I AGREE SOME PEOPLE DO GO OVERBOARD AT CHRISTMAS WITH SHOPPING AND DECORATING.  BUT TO ME THE IDEA OF DECORATING, ESPECIALLY THE OUTSIDE OF THE HOME IS FOR THE ENJOYMENT IT GIVES OTHERS.  LITTLE TO MY SURPRISE WHILE GETTING MY HAIR DONE, TWO ELDERLY LADIES CAME INTO THE SHOP.  COME TO FIND OUT, THEY LIVE ON MY STREET AND THOROUGHLY ENJOY MY MODEST CHRISTMAS THEMES I DECORATE MY FENCE , FRONT DOOR AND WINDOWS.  CHRISTMAS IS GIVING IN ANY WAY YOU CAN.....I AM A WIDOW OF 12 YRS, AGE 70 AND STILL LOVE THE TRUE CHRISTMAS SPIRIT.  THIS IS THE FIRST YEAR OUR FAMILY ISN'T HAVING A CHRISTMAS DINNER DUE TO THE CHANGING OF GENERATIONS BUT I'LL DO LIKE MY 95 YR. OLD FATHER.....SING HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO JESUS, HAVE ME SOME HAM, SWEET POTATOES, ETC.  FOR GRANDMA HUMBUG.....JUST A SMILE IS A WONDERFUL GIFT...AND IT DOESN'T COST YOU ANYTHING. 
 
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