Topic : 08/04 Torn Between Two Lovers, Part 2

As a product of a dysfunctional marriage and learning from my parents what marriage SHOULD'T be about, I watched with much interest, hoping to see Dr. Phil shed some wisdom.  Did I miss something?  I heard no advice regarding sexually transmitted diseases, which should be a major issue considering the situation.  A clinic is the first place they should be referred to after the show.  I was further disappointed how little was talked about the featured couples children who are aware of their fathers extra-curricular marriage activities.  Speaking first handedly, children learn from their parent’s example.  Here's hoping the children don't end up being as messed up as all of the spineless adults involved.    

 In the early 1980's I was in a very abusive relationship just like this.  I had to laugh that the now prego mistress is reluctant to have her baby around this guy she created it with !   

 MISTRESS HUBBY--Darlin' take your kids and run !!!     

I have no idea why this guy's wife stays- I stayed because I felt I did not have any support, or anywhere else to go-including my own mother's home- and then it came down to my life, or my boyfriends and if that meant living on the streets, then so be it.  I left, and 20 + years in hindsight, it was the best choice I made.  His wife will see it in time. Her life or his. Her choice.   

The desire to "work" at a marriage seems to be far from ones mind, it is just too easy to get a divorce which in my opinion is just a cop out for most.   

    I don't think that is true.   I don't see people getting a divorce because they are tried of working on the relationship.  Most divorces I see are because one spouse did something to cheat in the marriage-- such as another person, or use drugs-- whatever.  It's all about the self, and preferrence now, and not being a person of Principle. That is why marriages fail.   

By the way, my wife knows - we're still together - and it's one day at a time, for us.  

 And may God not help you, but her-- when she finally finds what she's looking for.  Women are territorial, and it's just a matter of time, before you get what's coming.  You'll see. She's going to be sweating it out with another man, and I hope you find them together too.  It's coming !  

Karma visits us all- Only blameless lives have nothing to fear ".   

 Karma Visits us all...Only Blameless lives have nothing to fear.  I hope you see it first hand too. 

Her sweating it out with a real MAN.  

I also KNOW that the expectations of a spouse are significantly different from those of a lover of either gender.  

  and they SHOULD BE.