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Created on : Tuesday, December 30, 2008, 05:13:48 pm
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(Original Air Date: 01/08/09) It’s estimated that as many as 1 million American men have an eating disorder, but because of the perception that it’s a female problem, many of them don’t seek help. Dr. Phil speaks with two guests who courageously speak out about their obsession with diet and exercise. Diagnosed with anorexia, 15-year-old Eric says he’d be happy if he could have zero body fat. What started out as a healthy habit of exercising with his father has turned into an obsession that is putting his life at risk. Eric’s parents, Ken and Becky, are tired of the daily battle in the kitchen when it comes to preparing his food, and they worry about their younger son, who doesn’t get as much attention as his older brother. Is there hope for this young man? And, 22-year-old Troy is a health and physical education teacher who says he can’t practice what he preaches. At 5-foot 11-inches and a mere 138 pounds, Troy says exercising and calorie counting has taken over his life, and he doesn’t know how to stop. Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

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January 9, 2009, 7:35 am CST

My son

I watched your show on male eating disorders last night and the show could have been about my son who is 14 years old...a freshman in high school.

He has been out of school since December 10, 2008.  At first he did out patient treatment, but on 12/26 he had to go to an inpatient program.  We were thinking about Rogers, but it was 2 hours away.  It looks like an outstanding facility and we have heard great things.

My son was doing 900 push ups daily and about 150+ pushups along with a very restricted diet.

He is 6 feet tall and 105 pounds....totally emaciated and disgusted in his physique.

I am looking for other parents that I can talk to about this.  I would especially like to talk to Eric's parents, whom I felt so sorry for.  I know your pain.  Please contact me so we can share our stories.  I have been looking for another parent to talk to since December.

I hope the two boys can come out of this healthy and start to lead a normal life where food doesn't take it over.  My best wishes to you all.

 
January 9, 2009, 2:14 pm CST

01/08 Body-Obsessed Boys

If Becky were cooking fattening crap and she, Ken, Brad and Scott were morbidly obese, I could understand Eric refusing to eat like them. But, since they appear to be a normal weight, she is obviously cooking healthy meals. If I were Becky, I'd tell Eric I was no longer catering to him. I was no longer his short-order cook. I was cooking the same meal for everyone. And, he had three options. Eat my cooking, like everyone else. Cook his own meals. Or, cook for the whole family.
 
January 12, 2009, 10:35 am CST

01/08 Body-Obsessed Boys

 Dear Eric:
My name is Brier, and I am doing a senior presentation on eating disorders. I watched the show that you were on last week and I found it very interesting. I would like you to contact me at bvanhorne@hotmail.com.
Thank You and I hope you get better.
 
January 22, 2009, 8:25 pm CST

the smart move.

this is a bit hard and i can understand the kids problem, i have never had that problem for the fact i was allowed freedom to eat. i am normal because i got to eat whenever i felt like it. i would advise doing the same. besides if you are home-schooling then you don't need to eat together, you live with the people so long they get on your nerves, besides if you let the kid eat whenever he can learn to cook and thus he is more prepared for the real world.
 
June 1, 2009, 11:35 am CDT

06/05 Body-Obsessed Boys

Quote From: ramair

If Becky were cooking fattening crap and she, Ken, Brad and Scott were morbidly obese, I could understand Eric refusing to eat like them. But, since they appear to be a normal weight, she is obviously cooking healthy meals. If I were Becky, I'd tell Eric I was no longer catering to him. I was no longer his short-order cook. I was cooking the same meal for everyone. And, he had three options. Eat my cooking, like everyone else. Cook his own meals. Or, cook for the whole family.
Since posting this under my old user-name, I feel more strongly than ever that Becky must quit catering to Eric. And, enabling his eating disorder. She should tell him she's cooking meals only once, for the whole family. And, he can eat them. Or, fend for himself. And, she should quit separating his eggs. He can go buy himself a carton of egg whites if he's that afraid of the tiniest bit of yolk getting into them. And, buy all the rest of his own food if he wasn't willing to eat what Becky bought, and cooked, for the family. This catering and enabling has got to stop!
 
June 1, 2009, 11:57 am CDT

06/05 Body-Obsessed Boys

Quote From: kcolspac

this is a bit hard and i can understand the kids problem, i have never had that problem for the fact i was allowed freedom to eat. i am normal because i got to eat whenever i felt like it. i would advise doing the same. besides if you are home-schooling then you don't need to eat together, you live with the people so long they get on your nerves, besides if you let the kid eat whenever he can learn to cook and thus he is more prepared for the real world.
No one but Eric is denying himself the freedom to eat. He is anorexic. His parents, especially Becky, are catering to, and enabling his eating disorder. Which goes beyond staying trim. None of his family is fat. So, Becky is feeding them right. And, if Eric didn't have an eating disorder, he'd be eating whatever she cooked for the family. Instead of insisting she be his short order cook. He refuses to eat any fat, including egg yolks. So, he insists that Becky separate his eggs and throw away anything with the tiniest bit of yolk in it. I'd tell him to buy himself a damn carton of egg whites.
 
June 5, 2009, 2:10 pm CDT

Fit Kids

How about complementing these young Men!  They show dedication.  If they packed on 10-20lbs of Muscle, they could enter a bodybuilding competition.  The key here is... Weight gain.  Muscle gain.  And mixing up the workouts, to give the body rest.  Sounds like they are overtraining one muscle constanly, which is actualy causeing atrophy of the muscles.  That can make it spiral outa control real fast.    

Sounds like your smart kids & you'll always know how to eat good & be lean. Put it to good use.  Find a good fitness trainer & pack on some weight.  Best of luck to you both.

 

Yours in Health & Fitness,

 

Monique

 ISSA Certified Fitness Trainer

ISSA Certified Fitness Therapist

ISSA Certified Specialist in Performance Nutrition

ISSA Certified Specialist in Martial Arts Conditioning

NASM Optimal Performance Training Specialist for Weight Management

NASM Cardio Respiratory training Specialist for Fitness Goals

NASM Cardio Performance Expert

Specific Nutrition

Former Professional International Jet Sports Racer

Second Degree Karate Black Belt

Firefighter/ EMT

 

Be your Best!

 

 
June 5, 2009, 2:33 pm CDT

credibility

    As a retired teacher, every time I hear someone make a basic grammar mistake I find it more difficult to put a great deal of faith in what they say.   While passing by the TV today I heard the doctor from Roger's Memorial...  use the phrase "...where he's at..." .  (it was similar in language structure to this with the use of the word  "at" at the end of a sentence.)  Please leave out  the at in these situations, it is totally redundant.

    Please forward this to the doctor in question as I did not get his name.

 
June 5, 2009, 2:57 pm CDT

eating disorder

Hi my son is 2 years old and has been diagnosed  with eating disorder .  He went to therapy for a year and got a little better but still doesn't eat...  He will only eat sweet food, mac and cheese, chicken nuggets, fries... things like that.. Will not eat any veggies or hardly any meat..  I'm really concerned for him and Dr's says that everything is fine. He will go days without eating , maybe just having a happy meal and a few cakes. Any suggestions on what to do for him. Don't want him to be like the boys on your show today.. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!

 

Concerned mom

April

 
June 5, 2009, 8:47 pm CDT

06/05 Body-Obsessed Boys

Quote From: aprilfromar

Hi my son is 2 years old and has been diagnosed  with eating disorder .  He went to therapy for a year and got a little better but still doesn't eat...  He will only eat sweet food, mac and cheese, chicken nuggets, fries... things like that.. Will not eat any veggies or hardly any meat..  I'm really concerned for him and Dr's says that everything is fine. He will go days without eating , maybe just having a happy meal and a few cakes. Any suggestions on what to do for him. Don't want him to be like the boys on your show today.. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!

 

Concerned mom

April

Wanting to eat junk is not an eating disorder. How could a child have an eating disorder at a year old? Leave the kid be; he's eating. My parents took me to the doctor for being a picky eater, my kids were the same. My doctor asked me if my daughter was lethargic or grey, and I said, "no,"  and he said, "let me know when she is, and until then calm the f@#K down."  I stood there, indignant and vaguely hysterical until my doctor told me children behave this way, and to sneak whatever good stuff in them I could, put vitamins in their drinks and it would sort itself out. It did. The one thing a child can control is what they put in their mouth and swallow this is not a battle you can win especially with a two year old. The bigger deal you make food and eating the bigger deal it will be to him.
 
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