Topic : 01/21 The Wild, Wild Web

 I nurse . my DW is 16 months old. he can not drink soy milk, cow milk or goats milk . what should he drink?  I dont produce enough to pump and put it in a cup for him. I think as long as they are not 4 or 10 then great let the chld nurse. IT's not killing the child!

 If you thin kit's gross or disgusting then dont watch it! I NIP. ( nurse in public) people say stuff and I tell them to get lost.  I see kids who are 4 or 5 that ha passies and bottles that is more damadging to their teeth then a boob. Then agian woudlnt expect people who formula fed or didnt extend nursing to understand.  My child is not a discreat nurser. he will walk over and try lift my shirt up!

Okay, I am really, really irritated with Dr. Phil right now.  Everything that we have ever heard about myspace and all the new technologies that are created tell parents in big bold letters, "BE AWARE OF WHAT YOUR KIDS ARE DOING!" and "THIS IS DANGEROUS; MONITOR AND CHECK UP ON YOUR CHILDREN".  I have listened and watched, heard horror stories of what has happened to others, and made a point to try to be fully aware of what my teenaged daughter was doing.  Dr. Phil himself has stated that parents must check up on their kids, that parents have a right to go through their child's bedroom or phone.  In fact, I vividly remember him asking one guest, "Who's the adult here?" when a parent didn't want to overstep their boundaries and check thier child's phone.  Now he is contridiction himself by telling this mother to give her some space and privacy, and that she doesn't have a right to check her myspace pages.  I am furious right now!  She certainly has a right to check her child's myspace....check away!  I have done the same thing because as parents, we are ridiculed and lectured by the media and persons such as Dr. Phil to do so.  Everytime you turn around, you hear about a teenager being killed or committing suicide due to misconduct online.  Each time the story is followed by a clip on how parents can be neglectful or overlook what "is really going on", and continues to encourage parents to keep tabs on this behavior.  NOW we are told to back off?  I hardly think so! I don't care if the teenager claims to be "a good kid" or not. MOST teenagers will tell you that they are good kids!  Most teenagers ARE good kids.  Does that mean that parents should back off and trust that they are being safe?  NO.  Most good teenagers still make really stupid mistakes.  Although I do believe that this mother has crossed the line in pretending to be her daughter and holding conversations with her friends, I in no way believe that she needs to back off and leave her myspace to her daughter.  Dr. Phil has totally contridicted his previous advice of "as long as you are living in my house, I have the right to check up on you".  Weren't his kids good kids, too?  Yet didn't he say the same thing to them...including he could check their bedrooms at anytime because it was HIS house, and they were simply guests there?  UGH!!  I am a teacher and most importantly, a mother, and I totally disagree with what he said tonight.  Sorry, Dr. Phil, although you have great advice at times, tonight you totally let me down!!!!!!

Breastfeeding is certainly a preference and deciding how long is too.  But I'm with you. I think it looks downright silly to ask your toddler if/when she wants to breastfeed.  My mom breastfed me but she said she knew it was time to stop when I started asking for it. 

Anyone feel free to correct me or share your opinions.  I find the reason one breast feeds to give her baby healthier and more natural nutrients that formula may not offer.  And it's wonderful bonding time for the two as well.   

While I don't think it should be "hidden," (meaning I don't think you should be forced to go to the restroom/feeding room unless you prefer more privacy); I do think you should have enough respect for others and be as discrete as possible.  My sisters breastfed all of their kids but they never once put it on display.  If they were somewhere where they didn't the desired privacy they would throw a nice size blanket over them.  I don't see anything wrong with that but like you said, no one wants to "SEE IT!"

I agree with you in every aspect!  I didn't really catch how Dr. Phil contradicted himself until I read your post and now that I think about it, he has said in past shows that parents need to be aware of what their kids are doing, especially when it involves the internet, then basically told this mom to back off.  In his defense, I think he still stands his ground on being aware.  He was try  to make the mom aware that she crossed the line big time when she impersonated her daughter. I personally feel she stuck her nose where it didn't belong when she viewed her daughter's friend's page, then called the parents up and told them what she discovered.  That, in my eyes isn't just a protective mom, that's a busybody.

I too, believe the mom has let this thing get way out of control and for her to say she's doing it to "check up" on her daughter is just an excuse to get to do it. I pretty much sound like the devil's advocate but I think there should be a mutual respect.  I also think boundaries need to be set by both parties and not crossed.  I'm all for checking up on kids/teens but at the same time, find a way to do it without crossing those boundaries and making them resent you. I am 28 and have a myspace, when my 15 y/o niece found out she begged me for one.  I first told no, and that it was up to her parents.  Somewhow she ended up with one.  When I found out, I told her "I WILL be checking this often!"  And she said okay. I don't feel it's my right to login to her account but I do view her page when I think about since I'm on her list. And if I see anything offensive to me as far as comments, I tell her.  I know, never say never but she not the type to post obscene pictures, like the ones mentioned, so I don't worry about that.  My main concern are the cartoon graphics that her friends post.  I found one that one of her friends posted of a baby with a passifier in it's mouth dancing in circles and....... well let's just say there was no questioning the gender.  I broought it to her attention and respectfully told her I didn't apprieciate it and she deleted it.  Her response was, "I need to delete all of my old comments anyway."  I believe there is a way to go about it so that the parents gets what they want but the teen doesn't feel like their privacy is being invaded either.  And let's face it, she's 17 and at the brink of adulthood.  I just think it's better to "respectfully be in the know" because I'm afraid if we don't, they're going to go behind our backs.

Well, it certainly is your right to take pictures and share the with friends and family.  However, when posted on myspace and/or facebook, they're not only viewed by your friends if your not careful, they're also viewed by millions.  We all know that the internet is full of petiphiles and twisted-minded people posing as something other than what they are.   What would you do if your picture fell into the wrong hands?  Anyone can save any picture they find on the internet to a disc or USB and YOU'RE DONE.  While I don't think you're bad for wanting to document such an experience, I do however, consider it slightly irresponsible because of the negative possibilites.  You just can't be too careful, especially when your child is involved. 

I think you'll agree that the breast is one of the most sensual parts of the female body.  Unfortunately, when breasts are viewed on the internet it is done so in a sexual manner most of the time.  And even though that is not YOUR INTENTION, like I said, pictures are easily copied in minutes and it may be someone else's intention to use them for their own sick desires.  Perverts are busted for child porn everyday.  I'm not telling you not to because it's obvious I can't tell you what to do, I'm just saying be smart and use extreme caution. I sincerely hope the mother on the show does also.