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Topic : 01/21 The Wild, Wild Web

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Created on : Friday, January 16, 2009, 02:54:04 pm
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Social networking Web sites like Facebook and MySpace are great for meeting people, but they’re also the source of much controversy. Do the dangers of these sites outweigh their benefits? Dr. Phil takes a look at the latest issues to crop up on the digital frontier. He begins with 17-year-old Ashley, who says her mother, Janet, obsessively controls her Facebook account and also harasses her friends online. Janet says she’s witnessed disturbing things on these Web sites, and she’s not about to let Ashley get into trouble. In trying to keep her daughter safe, has the concerned mom gone too far, or not far enough? Dr. Phil’s opinion might surprise you. Then, Facebook doesn’t allow pictures of bare bosoms to grace its pages – but what if the breast that’s bared belongs to a nursing mom? See the picture that caused a firestorm of controversy, and judge for yourself whether it’s obscene. Plus, meet a woman who spent 11 months in an intimate Facebook relationship with someone she thought was actor Matthew Perry from the show Friends. When she found out the true identity of her digital paramour, you won’t believe what happened next. Before you grant your next online friend request, you’ll want to check out this show!

Find out what happened on the show.

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January 22, 2009, 4:18 pm CST

Make up your mind Dr Phil

Dr Phil, you say we should get involved in our childrens' lives and know what they are doing and who their friends are.  My daughter has a MySpace account and I also have her password.  She has had it for about 1 year now.  I've only logged onto it appx 3 times...all in her presence and spontaneous.  I told her that was the only way she could have an account.  I think that's a fair thing to ask.  She doesn't have a problem with it.  Now I see you telling this mom she shouldn't have the password.  I'm confused.  Which is it?  Now I agree, she shouldn't be replying to her friends and interferring in her relationships, but I disagree about the password advice.  If they have nothing to hide, then what's the problem?
 
January 26, 2009, 8:54 pm CST

Post until your hearts desire

Quote From: celliegean

I can guarrente that if pople where looking for nipple/ or breast they didnt get it from my picture. infact I do believer there was more " skin" showing from my arm with a tee shirt on then from by breast.

I dont use a cover due to ahaving a hot blooded child who sweats. And I dont think he would keep it on anyways. But I do wear large shirts to cover the subject. If anyone wanted to use my photo as porn it would take a hell of a lot of photo shopping and removing of childs head to get any where close to it being porn. I think that people who want to use porn should go to the national geographic and use thoes pics. there is nipples and full fronytal shots of breasts with out having a baby on it to use for porn. My Photo was nothing close to porn. and anyone who says it could be used as such doesnt know me.

It seems to me that people want to be able to have girls parading around on tv, or the beahes that are able to have their pictures taken wit TINY  bikini's on that show everything but a small slice of their breast and their A$$'s hanging wout that leave nothing to the imagination. and thoes pictures are ok for people to look at infact men enjoy looking at them. THat is great. They have that right. I  am a little oer weight and wear shorts and a tee shirt when I go the the beah. ( which living where I do is 3 months out of the year.) so it's not an issue here for me to have my picture taken like that. If I want to and choose to take a pickure of me nurishing my child. then I should be able to have that right to share it with people when it is a discreat pic. Infact if I hadn't put it on the breastfeeding group they would have thought my DW was sleeping with his face in my armpit!

Wow!  It wasn't my intention to attack or offend you.  Infact, I thought I considered my words very carefully, so as to not offend you.  But, I see it didn't work that way.  I'm sorry!  How much of my post did you actually read?  The very first line stated, "Well, you have every right to post your pictures for friends and family to see."   I never one time said you didn't have that right. Nor did I comment whether I felt the picture was appropriate or not and I certain;y didn't pick it apart. I just said be careful.  If you feel you've done nothing wrong, then by all means, post whatever pictures you like.  It doesn't affect me in the least. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
January 28, 2009, 4:56 pm CST

01/21 The Wild, Wild Web

Quote From: caseytf

Yeah, you can do that, but that doesn't mean it's the best thing to do. The World Health Organization recommends breastfeeding for at least 2 years and then for as long baby and mother both desire past that. The benefits don't stop just because your child reaches 12 months. The antibodies actually increase in the second year. You can still breastfeed while giving your child whole milk and solid food....obviously. My daughter is 2 and half and still breastfeeding (conceal your gasps) and I feel I've given her an incredible gift. Extended breastfeeding is completely normal in other countries. The average age for weaning in the world is actually 5 years. Look it up.

Anyways, I just wanted to say that I totally agree with everything the nursing mom had to say today on the show. She did a great job standing up for fellow breastfeeding moms which sadly tend to be the minority in this country. If there would have been a pic of a girl in a bikini with her cleavage hanging out that picture would have gotten no attention whatsoever. Sad.
Well alot of kids are in head start at age 3 or pre-k by age 4 so are you going to go sit in the class room with your child on you lap and breastfeed them in front of the class. some things are better left behind closed doors. i don't like to see people walking around with there boobs hanging out, or wearing shorts so short you can see there butt crack. i say hooray to anyone who breastfeeds i tryed it and couldn't do it but if i did i wouldn't be flashing my boob around in public they do make breast pumps for a reason or you can go to the restroom or at least put a blanket over your self because not everyone wants there kids to see that. it is still a private body part even if it is used to feed your baby.
 
January 31, 2009, 11:16 pm CST

Mother and daughter

I would like to let everyone know that in order to be a friend on facebook you first have to REQUEST THE PERSON TO BE THEIR FRIEND. They have a choice to ACCEPT OR DECLINE THAT REQUEST. So why did all these friends of the daughter accept the mother as a friend if they didn't want her as a friend? POINT MADE!

 

This mother told her daughter that if she wanted a myspace or facebook she would have to give her the password so she could check it and make sure everything she posted was appropriate. The daughter agreed to that. The mother said the daughter started to have problems with girls bullying her on it. She saw her friends post inappropriate pictures with them in their bras and underware and taking showers together and posing in provocative ways. NEWS FLASH! If my daughter was doing this on facebook, I sure would want a parent to tell me! The mother deleted posts made by her daughter about teachers and told her that she could be held respondsible for anything she posts.

I think this mother is a good mom!

 

The mother came on the show for help! She broke down on the show and told us all that she was sexually assaulted as a teenage! I feel this is why she is so overly protected of her daughter. She doe not want this to happen to her daughter. Look at all the preditors online! I feel the daughter should be a little understanding of the mother now that she knows what happen to her as a teen.

 

What about that black eye? Im sorry, but if my daughter ever punched me and gave me a black eye she would be sitting in jail for assault. There's no respect on the daughter's part. I think there are more issues going on between the mother and daughter than we know. Maybe the daughter has given the mother reasons not to trust her. We dont know all the facts and we should not be putting this mother down for being a mother.

 

Dr Phil did say on other shows that we should keep an eye on our teens! We should check up on them and check their rooms if we suspect something is not right! That is what I think is happening with the mother and daughter. The daughter is only 17 she is at the age of dating boys. Maybe she is having sex with them. The mother is just a concerned parent and watching out for her daughter. She doesnt want her to go through the terrible experience she had to as a teenager.

 

I commend Dr Phil for giving this mother a scholarship to a workshop to help her get over her bad experience she went through and for giving the daughter a doctor to get therapy from. I hope they both go and get their lives back on track and become close again. I will be praying for both of them!

 
January 31, 2009, 11:29 pm CST

01/21 The Wild, Wild Web

Quote From: samantha134

Well first off mom ur a psyco u need to let ur daughter have her own life and she will just hate u if u try to control her and daughter u need to give ur mom a reason to trust u but u are both crazy and need to realize ur problems

I dont think you need to be so critical of the mother and daughter and just mean by saying they are both psyco and crazy!  I commend both of them for coming on the show!  Especially the mother because she realized that she was getting overly involved in her daughters life!  News Flash!  Did you hear the part that the mother was sexually assaulted as a teenager?  She doesnt want that to happen to her daughter and with all the sexual preditors out there I think she has every right to be concern! 

 

We don't know if the daughter is giving the mother more reasons to not trust her!  She may be a doing good in school but that doesnt mean she is behaving all the time!  We dont know all the facts!  I know I would want to know if my teen was posting things that were not appropriate for the facebook!  I think the mother realizes her problems and THATS WHY SHE WENT ON THE SHOW TO GET HELP FROM DR PHIL!

 
February 4, 2009, 8:06 am CST

The next Dgeneration

The problem I have with this whole story, is the fact that everyone seems to concentrate on what the mother is doing and not why or what the child is doing. In this case, it is my opinion, that since laws have been rearranged basically in the childs favor when it comes to discipline, more and more children are trying to push the envelope and see how far they can go. In most states the parents hands are tied. Alot of the people having children do not take a parenting class, then are completely dumb founded when the child ends up pregnant, on drugs, a criminal or worse DEAD. All of these consequinces are far more possible to happen to those children whose parents allow there children to simply do whatever, go wherever and see whoever they want. This woman is PROACTIVE not reactive. I am the same way with my step daughter, she is 16, has a job, is an A B student all the while does chores around the house and still has time to comunicate with her friends. It is rediculous to think that her childs privacy is being invaded. As a child, YOU HAVE NO PRIVACY, that is until the day that you start paying your own bills and provide a roof over your own head. As far as the person so concerned that the child on the show will be made fun of. GET USED TO IT. It's a part of life. People are sometimes mean, and yes, this includes children. It is more detremental to try and raise your children in a cave than to allow them to see the world as it is. This is not fantasy land.
 
February 4, 2009, 8:16 am CST

I agree somewhat

Quote From: speedon

Dr Phil, you say we should get involved in our childrens' lives and know what they are doing and who their friends are.  My daughter has a MySpace account and I also have her password.  She has had it for about 1 year now.  I've only logged onto it appx 3 times...all in her presence and spontaneous.  I told her that was the only way she could have an account.  I think that's a fair thing to ask.  She doesn't have a problem with it.  Now I see you telling this mom she shouldn't have the password.  I'm confused.  Which is it?  Now I agree, she shouldn't be replying to her friends and interferring in her relationships, but I disagree about the password advice.  If they have nothing to hide, then what's the problem?
Dr. Phil has on this occasion and maybe others contrdicted himself. My step daughter used to place photos,,, of lets say,,  would be less than tasteful. I made her delete her page and periodically check her phone. I totally agree with what you said, however, I have found that the same kids that partake in this type of behavior also have the ability to erase messages, texts, and things of that nature as soon as they have viewed it so as to cover their tracks. Although some may refuse to admit it, most kids in these situations have already formed a strategy to not get caught a second time. Therefore, I feel you need to stay on top of a subject such as this regularly, no matter if the child resent the parent, as they get older, they will respect you for that.
 
March 16, 2009, 12:59 pm CDT

01/21 The Wild, Wild Web

Quote From: sdiogene23

SHE SAID THAT ASHLEY IS STARTING TO DO THE NASTY THINGS THAT HER NASTY FRIENDS ARE DOING. TAKING SEXY PICTURES, KISSING EACH OTHER, TAKING SHOWERS TOGETHER AND TAKING PICTURES OF IT!!!! THAT IS GROSS AND SHE HAS ALL THE RIGHT TO TRY AND CONTROL HER DAUGHTER. HER DAUGHTER WAS STARTING TO BULLY OTHER GIRLS ONLINE LIKE HER FRIENDS DO. DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY TEENS KILL THEMSELVES AFTER BEING BULLIED ONLINE? A WOMAN GOT 25 YEARS FOR TAKING PART IN BULLYING A GIRL HER TEEN DAUGHTER WAS BULLYING ONLINE. JANET IS MAKING SURE THAT HER KID DOESN'T END UP IN JAIL. IF ASHLEY CAN PUNCH HER MOM IN THE EYE, WHO KNOWS WHAT SHE IS DOING. IF MY MOM PULLED MY LEG I WOULDN'T DARE LIFT MY HAND TO HER, WE WOULD HAVE NEVER GOT TO THE POINT WHERE WE WERE ACTUALLY FIGHTING!!!! DEAR GOD! WHERE IS THE RESPECT?? DR. PHIL NEEDS TO GET REAL!!!! THE ONLY ADVICE HE NEEDS TO GIVE THIS MOM, IS TELLING HER TO PULL HER PAGES OFFLINE AND TO PULL ASHLEY'S PAGES OFFLINE UNTIL SHE IS IN COLLEGE IF SHE DOESN'T LIKE WHAT SHE SEE'S ONLINE. NONE OF THE TEENS IN MY FAMILY HAVE MYSPACE OR FACEBOOK, IN FACT THEY THINK IT'S CORNY AND BORING NOW. OTHER THAN THAT, SHE IS JUST TRYING TO PROTECT HER, AND KEEP HER FROM TURNING INTO THE SLUT SHE IS SO BENT ON BECOMING. TEENS NEED TO BE MONITORED BECAUSE THEIR BRAINS ARE NOT FULLY DEVELOPED AND THEY MAKE DUMB CHOICES. SHE LOVES HER KID. I RATHER BE ON TOP OF WHAT MY KID IS DOING, AND IF THEY SCREW UP AT LEAST NO ONE CAN POINT THE FINGER AT ME AND SAY I WASN'T DOING MY JOB AS A PARENT. AT THE END OF THE DAY OTHER PARENTS BLAME THE ADULT WHO "DROPPED THE BALL."

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<<< SHE SAID THAT ASHLEY IS STARTING TO DO THE NASTY THINGS THAT HER NASTY FRIENDS ARE DOING. TAKING SEXY PICTURES, KISSING EACH OTHER, TAKING SHOWERS TOGETHER AND TAKING PICTURES OF IT!!!! THAT IS GROSS AND SHE HAS ALL THE RIGHT TO TRY AND CONTROL HER DAUGHTER. HER DAUGHTER WAS STARTING TO BULLY OTHER GIRLS ONLINE LIKE HER FRIENDS DO >>>
 
May 11, 2009, 9:51 am CDT

Private Family Business

Quote From: tina916

This lady let her marriage go awry to continue a relationship with someone online portraying Matthew Perry and now she claims she knew it wasn't him all along? How in the world was "he" sending her gifts? Obviously she bought into this and gave out her home address. The person was harrassing her husband by calling him on his cell phone because she GAVE that person HIS cell phone number.

 

I can't believe Dr. Phil was able to hold in his laughter (I did hear him laugh as the lady concluded her segment though LOL). This lady is obviously an idiot and she was taken for a fool for 11 months and now she want to "share her story" and we've all been warned.

 

 

My cousin is the unfortunate husband that is married to Kirsty!  He has been devastated by this whole "affair".  Believe me, he's no angel but he is the father of their beautiful children and I am appalled that this woman even went on Dr. Phil's show.  No offense to Dr Phil but this should have remained a private family matter and not publicized on national tv!  Thank God they are getting divorced now but the effects of all this will last a long time for my cousin, his kids, his family and the ignorant woman who made the whole mess to begin with!

 
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