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Topic : 06/17 Crazy Teen Trends

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Created on : Friday, January 23, 2009, 12:31:12 pm
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(Original Air Date: 01/27/09) From sending sexual text messages to taking a punch to the face for fun, today’s teens are engaging in outrageous trends. First up, 13-year-old Reina made headlines when she racked up 14,528 texts in one month! Her father, Greg, wrote an article about her excessive texting but says she's just being a teenager. What does Dr. Phil think? His observations may surprise you. Then, Gwen and Mike say they’re worried about their 12-year-old daughter who has sent risqué text messages, otherwise known as sexting, since she first owned a cell phone. When Dr. Phil meets with the preteen backstage, what does she say drives her behavior? Could she be headed down a dangerous path? Plus, 16-year-old J.R. says he allows his friends and family to sock him in the head and then posts the videos on YouTube. His mother, Tammy, says his videos are hilarious, and she supports his dream of training for the reality show The Ultimate Fighter. Dr. Travis Stork, host of the hit show The Doctors, warns about the dangers of J.R.’s hobby. Plus, meet a teen who played the punch-out game with tragic consequences. Join the discussion.

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January 27, 2009, 1:55 pm CST

sexting and teen stupidity

My idea would be to show that child what its like to be charged with a crime like porn. Would that have done the trick? Today I was reading about football players that have had many concussions during their careers. It showed the damage done to the brain. Look at Mohamad Ali. DUH!!! If the nose is hit just right, it takes 30 sec. for a person to die of a massive brain hemerage.

There is another stupid craz that is happening out there and that is rounding deer with snowmobiles and running them down, or running into a flock of geese. I did stupid things when I was a kid, but I don't remember being this bad.

 
January 27, 2009, 2:13 pm CST

Unwilling Sexting Victim

The show today talked about kids who willingly expose themselves for pictures and send them out to the world but Dr. Phil failed to address the fact that these things are happening to people who aren't posing for the pictures.  Kids bring camera phones into the lockerroom all of the time and they can snap pictures of anyone and send them out before anyone can stop them, 

 

I am a teacher and I was a victim of sexting in a different way.   Some students found a picture of a naked women online and passed it around the school saying it was me.  When the situation was finally brought under control, I wasn't able to shout out publically that the photo was not me because there were several minors involved and I couldn't let everyone in the community know their names and what they had done.

 

I went through the humiliation of kids pointing and laughing in class, misbehaving, losing respect for me and several nights of tears thinking that I was going to lose my job for something that I had no part in.  Our school resource officer even took my face shots to do a comparison to prove that the photo being passed around was not me.  When my children are old enough to have their own cell phones, you better bet I'll be watching!

 
January 27, 2009, 2:15 pm CST

What Are Parents Thinking?

Call me old fashioned, but what happened to parents being parents and being in control.  The parents that think it is wrong that their child is doing too much texting or inappropriate behavior texting should take the darn phones away from the child.  Who got them the phone in the first place?  I am sick of parents acting like they are the victims.  We wonder what is wrong with our kids today take a look at their parents.  They are either too lazy or too involved in their own needs to take charge of what they brought into this world.  When a child disrespects you there are consequences for those actions.  Hang tough parents we will have a better world.

 
January 27, 2009, 2:15 pm CST

01/27 Crazy Teen Trends

Quote From: kathyleann13

Dear Dr. Phil

I really need your help. My 2 friends are sending nasty pics but my bff say it is not her it is a the other girl, and the nasty pics are being seen in school to all the boys that my 2 friends know and hang out with. what do i do Dr. Phil, can u help me.

Don't believe it!  If you trust your friend this shouldn't hurt your relationship.  I was a victim of a false rumor involving a picture and it isn't easy to deal with.  You should try to help her out instead of turning your back to her.
 
January 27, 2009, 2:23 pm CST

01/27 Crazy Teen Trends

Quote From: eeyorenmttr

i'm completely baffled by children 'needing' cell phones.  i'm a grown woman i wouldn't classify a cell phone as a 'need'.  can some one give me a relatively valid reason for a kid having a cell phone?  especially those of middle school age or lower?

 
January 27, 2009, 2:26 pm CST

01/27 Crazy Teen Trends

Quote From: didikee

How do you keep your kids from sexting? Or running up hundreds of dollars of text message and cell phone bills? Parents........SAY NO! "No, you don't need a cell phone."  "No, I'm not spending my hard earned money on a cell phone for a twelve year old." "No, you don't have a God given right to own a cell phone when you're twelve." When kids can afford to pay for their own cell phone, then they can have one. Why do we act as though this is an issue that is out of our control? When parents learn to say "no", then this and MANY OTHER issues will cease to be a problem for our kids. FYI....I have two kids, one is 22 and one is 19. They didn't have cell phones until they could pay for them and they are perfectly well adjusted and happy. They actually love their parents in spite of the fact that we said "No".  I am a teacher and,  parents, have you thought about how disruptive to the school environment and how incredibly disruptive to your child's education cell phones and the other electronic devices they can't live without are?

i'm a grown woman who only has a pay as you go phone - it's a good way to teach kids responsiblity.  there is no need for the quantity of time spent on the phone nor the ridiculous amount of money!  to hear folks talking about paying cell phone bills that come close to my mortgage just stuns me...where is the common sense?
 
January 27, 2009, 2:29 pm CST

Here's a Crazy Idea...

The parents could take the cell phones away.

Kid finding the cell phone and taking it back?

Terminate the service to the phone or destroy the phone.

I think if parents took some responsibility for their kids, half of these situations or problems could either be solved or avoided. I'm not saying that the girl who's taking photos of herself and sending them doesn't need help for her self-esteem or whatever else, but seriously.
 
January 27, 2009, 2:30 pm CST

01/27 Crazy Teen Trends

Quote From: brenay

I would first like to start by saying it is very easy to pass a quick judgment on someone and their parenting  abilities and until you have walked in the shoes of those you are talking about you should keep your mouth shut. I also should say that I agree with a lot of what has been mentioned in the messages but, on the other side of that I feel the pain of those parents. I am a mom of 4 and stepmother to 2 of them there is a 16 year old boy and a 14 year old girl.  The boy is a great kid who is typical and the girl well she has her own set of issues. We are very involved parents and generally know everything that is going on in our home not to mention we live in a small town and what we don't catch or friends and family will let us know about. With all of this said now we have discovered a similar problem with out 14 year old daughter but our case was much worse and the problem i believe goes much deeper than just allowing a kid to have a cell phone. She not only was sending inappropriate pictures of herself to people on her phone but has also had sex in my home with me here after telling all my kids goodnight and tucking them in for the night. So you see this can happen to even the most attentive of parents and it will if the child decides to do it they will. It is not a parenting issue so much as an issue in the child is suffering from within themselves and we as parents must dig in some more and make it a priority to help them figure out why they are doing the things they are doing not draw attention to the fact that they are doing things that are inappropriate.
damage didn't occur in a bubble...you are part of their world and until a certain point - the main part of their world...so like it or not, you had an effect on them in some way, shape or form. 
 
January 27, 2009, 2:34 pm CST

Please Explain

Can anyone give me some valid reasons why a middle school or elementary school child would 'need' a phone?  Please...
 
January 27, 2009, 2:43 pm CST

texting/sexting

Am I the only one who sees this as not a problem?  Ok, let me clarify.  Parents are concerned that their teens are texting too much or even more horrible, they are involved in sexting.  Parents have a right to be concerned but rather than ask, "what should I do?" Why aren't they turning texting off on their teens phones OR taking the phones away from their child?  It is very simple to do, you call your cell phone provider and tell them to remove texting from cell phones.  Really, its not that hard I have done it myself.

 

My philosophy has been if you don't have time to talk to me I don't want to read a message from you.  My friends respect my thoughts regarding texting.

 

Another fearful trend I see happening is when I was growing up (in the 70's and 80's) I was taught phone etiquette.  KIDS are not being taught proper phone ettiquette.  Although most adults are just as quilty - for example - I will keep talking on my cell phone while doing my banking, at a check out, OR while driving.  The first two examples are just rudeness of the part of the person talking on the phone.  The last example is DANGEROUS! 

 

Just this past weekend as I was driving on the turnpike there was a car in front of me driving in between the two lanes but primarily in the left lane and driving well below the speed limit.  When I finally was able to pass in the right lane (because the driver would not move over), I glanced over and the driver was between 18-20 years of age, holding her phone TEXTING.  Obviously this driver was not paying attention to the road.

 

Ok, maybe I am in an age group that doesn't understand the need to text constantly.  Maybe I have not mastered doing 2 things at one time, but I ask myself is texting and driving something I want to be doing at the same time or better yet, is it something I would want my child doing when they start driving?  The only answer I can come up with is NO.

 

The kids today have cell phones, that is reality whether I agree with it or not.  I will never understand why a 12 year old needs a cell phone.  They obviously can't use the phone while in school during the day, they don't need it for an emergency of "if my car breaks down" (since they are not old enough to drive), I am almost sure that their boss doesn't need to be in constant contact with the child considering they probably don't work yet, so what exactly is the purpose of a school age, non-working, non-driver person need with a cell phone?

 
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