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Topic : 07/22 Child Caught in the Middle

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Created on : Friday, January 30, 2009, 02:16:36 pm
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(Original Air Date: 02/04/09) Divorce is well known to be a source of pain, bitterness and often conflict. When parents who have split up carry their fight beyond the courtroom, the child is usually the one caught in the crossfire. Dr. Phil sits down with Ronald and Cathie, who say they both love their 15-year-old son, Matthew, tremendously, though what they feel for each other is a different story. After a tumultuous divorce, Ronald says Cathie abandoned Matthew and has been out of his life for nearly 10 years. Cathie says Ronald is the one responsible for that separation. She claims he did everything he could to get in the way of her relationship with her son. Now, Cathie is back in the picture, but Matthew is having a hard time adjusting. In fact, the stress is making him literally sick, and he vomits up to 40 times a day. Matthew has a list of pressing questions for his mom, including why she has been gone for so long. With Dr. Phil’s help, will this young man get to the bottom of the mysteries in his life, and can he ever trust his mother again? Share your thoughts here.

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July 23, 2009, 1:50 pm CDT

Disgusted...

.I've never posted a message, but today's show ilicited a very strong reaction in me as a mother and I feel compelled to post a message.....to this poor young man who has truly been caught in the middle of two parents who care more about their own interests than what's best for their son. I was married to a very controlling attorney and went through a very messy divorce and custody battle over our two sons and continued negative statements to the kids about me etc. so I understand the divorce processi. What I dont understand are 2 parents so concerned with their own needs that theyve sacrificed their child!..The father said things to his son that obviously hurt him, just so that he could make his ex-wife wrong. He had no regard for his son and his feelings when he said those things. The mother in this story is clearly "missing the mother chip." All of her statements were about HER and what she was doing and what she felt. WHAT ABOUT HER SON!!! It was painful to watch. This young man should not subject himself to a relationship with his biological mom until some boundaries have been set and he can get some serious help. I believe he will struggle with this relationship and his anxiety until he can gain some peace himself...regardless of what she does or doesnt do. Instead of being a parent, she's actually crippled her child emotionally. I wanted to scream every time she said she should have done that differntly. She's pathetic and doesnt deserve the sweet, thoughtful son she has. She clearly has not changed, as she's still unreliable in his life today. I dont care what her issues are, she's one of the most pathetic excuses I've seen for a mother in a very long time....,. Clearly her needs have always trumped his and she coulod spend the rest of her life making this up to him and it still woulodnt be enough. I hope this sweet child gets some good counselin! g and learns that what his mother did was not his fault or a reflection of him as a child.....a lot easier said than done. I hope he learns to love and care for himself because he deserves it.
 
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