Topic : 02/10 Parent vs. Parent

Doctor Parent Parebts Phil/Robin Verse. Are you kidding me? You are a parents of a two boys of your kno--

w. See you on Tuesday 10th, 2009. Sincerley Your. Russell Vlaanderen.-----------------------------------------------

HELLO!   First of all,  I'm sittin' here laughing my yazoo off!   OMG!   These parents are dumber than the kids are!   You know,  this reminds me of the original "Willy Wonka Chocolate Factory"  movie where the rich parents allow the brat to do 'anything she wants or gives her anything she wants'   and what happens,  SHE ends up down the tubes FIRST!   NO GOLDEN EGGS THERE!    

That man who calls himself a father,  if he got caught with that drug paraphenalia in his car here in VA?   WHOA!   He wouldn't HAVE to worry 'bout being a father,  CPS would be steppin' high to pull those kids away from both of them and as far as the mother goes:  YO!  BLONDIE:  THE MOTHER IS SUPPOSED TO SET THE STANDARDS IN THE HOUSEHOLD!   That means MOM says what goes about education, religion, food, clothing and NO DRUGS OR ALCOHOL!  

As far as the MALE (I'm not even gonna call him a man)  he reminds me of my husband!   Everything he does is perfect,  nothing I do is right.   He's a you-know-what from H-ll!  And what is this you just said about "I thought she'd be a wonderful ADDITION to helping with the kids!?"   SHE'S YOUR WIFE!    SHE'S NOT AN ADDITION TO YOUR SORRY A!   GET A BRAIN!  

As far as the kids go,  If I were your neighbor,  I'd have called CPS on you both a long time ago!  Neither one of you even deserves the privilege of raising a child.  You both need to get brains! 

If Dr. Phil can't fix you two, nobody can!    I'd be sending you both to jail!  God help you both!

  As to the idea of a boy 15, and a girl 13, being boyfriend & girlfriend, what's the big deal with the age difference? I don't feel that a 13 girl should be old enough to date but that's HER parents problem and fault, not theirs. But as to the actual age difference, so what? It's only 2 years. HER parents should not allow this boy to spend the night, where are they? Back when I was that age (13) I had a boyfriend the same age (15) but there was no spending the night involved, no dating, no nothing, we didn't even kiss. It was called "Going around" back in those days. It was innocent. I would wear his football jersey on game night, etc. and we would walk to class together, that was the extent to relationships 30 years ago among young teenagers.

  OK, I don't have a big issue with the pot smoking either. I admit it! There are so many other, worse and more dangerous drugs that teens are getting into that pot is pretty tame compared to them. If my kid smoked pot would I mind? Of course I would and I would do everything I could to make them stop, but the parents on todays show act like it's the end of the world. They should be thankful that pot is the ONLY drug they are into. And their idea of trying to get their kids to stop is to try smoking it themselves? I don't understand their reasoning at all. What did they learn from that? How does that reinforce their job as a parent? How does that help them to tell their children "Don't do it"? Now the children can come back and say "Well mom & dad smoked pot too, just last week".

When I was younger, my parents just gave me the "LOOK".  My husband and I are the parents of five sons.  They are all pretty much grown...except for our "oops" son.  All my husband or I had to do was give them the"LOOK", or a really good lecture.  They would have rather been beaten to a pulp than have a lecture from their father which could have been hours long.  They have all so far turn out to be responsible adult young men that we are very proud of.  The youngest still has a bit to go, but so far he is outstanding.

The couple from the show need to get involved in those boys' lives.  They need to step up to the plate and show them who is the boss.  I am not saying that my husband and my parenting is perfect by all means, and there were a lot of ups and downs along the way....but  I think we have done a pretty good job so far and hope that we passed down those lessons to them and hope that their children get the same involvement  we gave to each of them.  Good luck. 

I understand that many parents take the lazy way out, one of my best friends did.   I know it sounds mean, but it really is lazy and self indulgent to 1) not prepare your kids to be as success as they can  and 2) visit their bad manners, drug use (which leads to robbery and violence) and leeching attitude on me as a hardworking person.

I do volunteer work - but I don't like to be forced to support drooling useless humans like these boys are set to be if thier parents don't step up and force some good habits on them.

Sorry this is so harsh - but when you see a commuinty crumbling due to drug use .... crumbling due to a slew of kids with parents like this ..... it frustrates the caring right out of me.

No one is a monster here - but not one of them is pulling thier weight & I hope they all take this as honest input and work toward being good members of their community.