Topic : 08/26 How to Have More Sex, Less Fighting

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See you on Tuesday March 03rd, 2009. Sincerley Your.  Russell Vlaanderen.-----------------------------------------
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Saw this rabbi on Rachel Ray. Only listened to him, though, Ms Ray's incessant blabbering gets on my nerves. I was thinking, pleeease, Dr Phil, you've gotta have this rabbi on your show! So, from one goy to another, thank you very much!

I can not wait for todays show, because for as long as I can remember - Sex - has been many things.

Enjoyable is not one of them.  As a youth it was stigma, due to religious belief.  Don't have it till your married.  Then I got married, and it was painful, and not enjoyable, and I just didn't get anything out of it.

Now as an adult going into my early 40s -I have had to come to terms with it on my own, but I don't have what one would call a sex drive.

 

Sure, I like the company sometimes, but in the end,  I do not get any pleasure or joy from the act.

I guess I feel more like a Vulcan from Star Trek then anything now.

This is an epidemic problem todays society.  With all the "escapism" taking place in America, parents are putting a back seat to their relationship to focus on the kids busy schedules, and all the STRESSES couples have with two income families, etc.  It's no wonder there's no sex taking place in our bedrooms.  With the rise of the porn industry and internet, sex becomes more about "me, me, me" and not about pleasing your partner.  AWESOME SHOW!!!  Once men get married, their effort leaves the marriage.  The catch is over!!  Something needs to change!  The Rabi is "right on" with his observations, and solutions for change.  God bless him! 

This is an epidemic problem todays society.  With all the "escapism" taking place in America, parents are putting a back seat to their relationship to focus on the kids busy schedules, and all the STRESSES couples have with two income families, etc.  It's no wonder there's no sex taking place in our bedrooms.  With the rise of the porn industry and internet, sex becomes more about "me, me, me" and not about pleasing your partner.  AWESOME SHOW!!!  Once men get married, their effort leaves the marriage.  The catch is over!!  Something needs to change!  The Rabi is "right on" with his observations, and solutions for change.  God bless him! 

my question is what if i don't know what to do everyday to help the sex in my relationship?  dr. phil says to ask yourself everyday "what can i do today?"  i have tried several things with no luck.  i have tried sending naughty little emails, etc., just trying to let him know that i want him.  i have had no luck.  he just doesn't seem to feel the same way, and doesn't talk to me about it.  any suggestions to anything i can do that might peak his interest?!?

 

OK gist - his advice was very appropriate to the economy actually. More stress, more fighting = less sex. i'm inspired to talk to my husband and try to behave myself back to feeling more "in the mood". The thought of sex (for no known reason) makes me wanna curl up in the fetal position....

Just saw the show. For my fiance and I sex is basically non-existent. In a way it is my fault because he still tries but I have no desire. He lost his job due to downsizing in December and since then he's been giving a real half-ass effort at getting another job. So I am doing virtually all the housework and working 40 hours plus a week. It's not that I am too tired or anything, I have like mentally castrated him - I just don't feel like he is a man anymore because he is not taking care of our family, so I don't want to be with him sexually. (I have always made more money that him so it's not really about the money, it is more that I am just so mad about the lack of effort he is putting in at being the man of the house.) I have tried to talk to him about how I need to see him actively looking for a job to be happy and he takes it seriously for a few hours and then it's back to the same old BS (which is playing video games constantly). I guess what I want to know is how do I tell him that his lack of effort is making me no longer respect him as a man? I know if I said that to him, it would really hurt him and then he'd be on the defensive.

Dr. Phil, if you were to poll your audience,  say those 40 and under, with the question "Do your parents still have sex?" I imagine the answers would be "Gross" "No way" and lots of laughter.  I know that's how I felt about older people.  In fact an END to sexual activity has always been something I thought of as maybe the ONLY blessing of old age.  Why is it wrong for an older woman to simply say "ENOUGH"?  When I was a child I spoke like a child and when I grew up I put away childish things?  Ever heard that before?  If a person believes in creationism, I would think it would be evident  that people, like everything else in nature,
are equipped with the necessary organs to reproduce but when those organs cease to function, isn't the natural way for the sex to stop?  I go to bed every night as tense as anything could ever be because I am afraid it will be asked for again.  To Robin, what's age got to do with it?  in my opinion EVERYTHING!  I just want to grow old in peace without worrying about having something poked in my body.  To everything there really is a season and I am sick of all the Viagara ads.  I expected certain rewards for a life well spent, freedom from sex being first and foremost on the list.  We have been together nearly 40 years, it's time to stop.

 not every DP show is one that I can relate to or will make me stop to listen.  A lot of the time, people are just stupid. However, I not only watched this episode but have ordered the book from amazon.com.  Thanks Dr Phil for having a show that didn't make me think "you've got to be kidding".  I've been married for 31 years and need something to poke those embers. We don't fight. We ignore. I do believe this book will be worth purchasing.