Topic : 03/24 Young Wives at a Turning Point, Part 3

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you on March Tuesday 24th, 2009. Sincerley Your. Russell Vlaanderen.------------------------------------------------

I THINK MONICA NEEDS TOO SHUT UP AND LISTEN FOR A CHANGE.

CADUM, IF YOU HAVE A SMALL SECTION OF YOUR BRAIN LEFT,I NOTICED THAT MONICA CALLED YOU BOY,YO DONT LOOK LIKE A BOY TO ME. LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND YOU WILL SEE WHO YOU REALLY ARE ,STUDY YOURSELF,ASK YOURSELF QUESTIONS AND THEN RUN,RUN,RUN LIKE HELL. MONICA YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOUR SEF TREATING YOUR HUSBAND THIS WAY. THE ONLY PERSON THAT I KNOW THAT IS PERFECT DIED FOR YOU AND ALL THE REST OF HIS CHILDREN. MONICA, YOU NEED A WHOLE LOT MORE WORK THAN CADUM DOES. I WOULD NOT LIVE WITH YOU ONE SECOND. CADUM, WAKE UP AND BE THE MAN YOU ARE IF SHE CANT DEAL THEN YOU WILL BE SO MUCH BETTER OFF WITHOUT HER. SHE ACTED JUST LIKE A CHILD THROWING YOUR WEDDING RING IN THE TRASH. IT REMINDED ME OF WHEN I WAS 9 AND MY LITTLE BOYFRIEND GAVE ME A DIME STORE RING AND I WAS MAD AT HIM AND THREW IT ON THE GROUND AND TOLD HIM IF HE WANTED TO BREAK-UP JUST COVER THE RING WITH DIRT (HA! HA!) THIS IS FUNNY TO ME,BUT I KNOW THIS CANT BE FUNNY TO YOU. STAND UP AND WEAR THE PANTS IN YOUR FAMILY (BOY) MAN!!!!! I AM PRAYING FOR YOU AND I HOPE YOU GET YOUR PRIDE BACK THAT SHE HAS RIPPED OUT OF YOU. I AM NOT MARRIED,BUT I HAVE A BOYFRIEND AND WE GET ALONG GREAT BUT I TREAT HIM LIKE A MAN, I ALLOW HIM TO ACT LIKE A MAN AND I LOVE HIM AS A MAN AND I WOULD NEVER ALLOW ANYONE TO GET IN MY MAN'S FACE WITHOUT DEALING WITH ME.  IF YOU CAN NOT RUN VERY FAST I WILL SEND YOU A JETPACK YOU NEED TO FIND YOU AGAIN AND THEN YOU NEED TO SAY THIS IS THE WAY IT IT GOING TO BE AND IF YOU CANT AGREE THEN YOU GO YOUR WAY AND I WILL GO MINE. ALWAYS TAKE CARE OF YOUR CHILDREN AND SOMETIMES THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO FOR YOUR CHILDREN IS TO LIVE SEPRATE. HANG IN THERE!!!!! SHAME,SHAME,SHAME MONICA.

These episodes are very upsetting to watch.  I was friends with Cadum while in HS, and the Cadum I knew had a very big, loving heart. It brought me to tears watching him today.

I was married at 19 and I'm in a very loving, secure, healthy marriage. We now have an 8 month old daughter, and are approaching our 3 year anniversary this week. It really makes me upset to see couples not value their marriage, or act as mature adults. What do people think marriage is? I understood that a marriage would require work, sacrifice, and 100% from both ends.

I definitely don't recommend 19, 20, 21, or 22 year old women to run off and get married. However, it's about maturity.

Sweetheart, you have GOT to do better than this. Your rantings are that of a little girl "playing married" and "House".

IMPORTANT: You can't expect someone to act or even become a man with your thumb on top of him. Nothing that is smothered, where nurturing and love are withheld will grow. 

For the sake of your marriage, your child and your own sanity; sit back and REALLY analyze yourself.

You MUST look at yourself from the prespective of someone treating you the same way you treat your husband and others.

YOU ARE NOT ALWAYS RIGHT! Dr. Phil, your parents are not always right and they have the benefit of decades of life, living and loving. It's a process. If you were ALWAYS right, your name would be JESUS.

At the rate you're going, you'll end up alone, even in a room full of people who love you [your husband and child included].  

God bless you. You all will be in my prayers.