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It’s a story that has parents hugging their children a little tighter. Seventeen-year-old Brittanee Drexel recently went to Myrtle Beach for spring break against her parents’ wishes, and she hasn’t been seen since. Did the high school junior run away, or is something more sinister behind her disappearance? Brittanee’s mother, Dawn, joins the show via satellite from South Carolina, where she is intensely searching for her daughter. What is the grieving mom’s theory about what happened that fateful night? Brittanee’s father, Chad, gives Dr. Phil his reasons for believing that the teen ran away. Then, Peter Brozowitz, reportedly one of the last people with Brittanee the night she disappeared, speaks out for the first time. Will his recollections shed light on the missing teen?  Find out why Dawn and Chad say they doubt his sincerity. Plus, Susan Smith made headlines in 1994 when she tearfully pleaded for the return of her two young sons, whom she said were the victims of a carjacking. The nation was stunned when the mom later confessed to murdering her kids. Her husband, David, describes what he says are the warning signs that Susan was on the edge.

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May 11, 2009, 4:30 pm PDT

Everyone Makes Mistakes

When I was younger, I decided to go on a road trip to New Orleans with a friend of mine without telling my parents.  If something had happened to me, they would have been shocked because I was always such a good kid.  I always made great grades, and I rarely, if ever, fought with my parents.  The point is, "good" kids can make mistakes, too.  Good kids can be impulsive and spontaneous and short-sighted. 
I don't think that Peter boy is guilty of anything beyond being an effeminate jerk.  I'm glad the father spoke to him.
 
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May 11, 2009, 4:40 pm PDT

for Dr Phil first

Funny how when any other kid makes a bad judgement Dr Phil is so quick to defend the young person about how their decision making abilities don't mature until 21-25 or so, yet he is quick to throw Peter under the bus because he is not running out to help this family find their daughter. The father is NUTS, first he insistes that his fatherly instincts tell him his daughter ran away from home because of "some things that happened in the days before", did they ask HIM what thos "things" were??? How is it Peter's responsibility to make sure this girl who showed up in SC without him even knowing she was there for a week, gets back to a different hotel???? How is it Peter's responsibility to keep track of her when her own parent's can't?? She left after having been told she could NOT go. And her stupid father blames Peter because his daughter went to a hotel room where Peter and his friends were staying and they were all over 18 and they knew she was a minor? Why did she go there?? Should they have slammed the door in her face? They probably will next time if this situation were to occur ever again with some teenager who shows up unannounced. And for her father to think his poor little girl is just a minor, well she is old enough to have gotten herself from New York to South Carolina and by the provocative pictures of her they have played across the Dr Phil back screen during the show. She doesn't look the same in any of them changing her hair and clothes and make-up. 17 year olds today are not like they were in the 40's. I do hope they find their daughter and I hope if they find she has run away from home and has been hiding out as her father thinks, that they kick her a$$ and make her pay the attorney fees for Peter and for all the other expenses inccurred searching for her.
 
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May 11, 2009, 4:41 pm PDT

Why Blame Peter?

The disappearance of this girl is a tragedy, but, from what I see, Peter is doing everything in his power to assist the police in their investigation.

 

The father has the nerve to ask Peter why he had a seventeen year old girl in his hotel room, along with his friends. Wasn't she a friend? There has been no evidence of a sexual nature having happened.

 

If the father is so concerned with his daughter, who is a minor, being in a hotel room with a 20 year old, why did he allow a minor to go to Myrtle Beach during Spring Break? Where is his responsibility in all of this? Where is the mother's responsibility?

 

None opf this would have happened if they had not allowed their daughter to go out of state without a proper chaperone, one who could and would keep a constant eye on the "child".
 
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May 11, 2009, 4:50 pm PDT

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Brittanee's parents kept making references about Peter's emotions and gestures....

He is a 20 yr. old guy. His careless approach to the matter seemed normal. Also, they want to hear from these kids personally that were with their daughter. They need to realize that other parents (and lawyers) now have to protect their kids/clients from being drug all over the media and protecting their kids, may mean that they not jump in the middle of this investigation. Yes, the kids should all make a statement to the cops and discuss it among themselves to try to figure out what happened, but her parents, do not need to EXPECT other minors to step up. Hopefully they will though!

However, since they brought up emotions and gestures.....Why are they not more upset? The mom not crying, the dad stating at one point that he "...agrees with his ex-wife". !! What? No one thinks this is odd?

 

If I had a child go missing I think I would be a little more hysterical and crying a lot more, but I know we all grieve in our own ways. The other side of that statement though, was the dad. If I had an ex that won/had custody and they LOST my child, I do not think I would agree with them on ANYTHING. I would be cursing the ex and asking them a TON of questions.
 
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May 11, 2009, 4:54 pm PDT

Throwing a Child to the Curb

I can certainly understand any parent being fed up and telling their fighting children they will throw them to the curb.  I can certainly relate to needing to follow thru so they get the point that enough is enough.

I'll never understand any parent that will put their kids out of the car and drive off, EVEN if it is only around the block!

I'd make mine sit on that curb and double park if I had to until they decided we are not moving one inch until they stop and listen to me, thier mother.  I'd sit there with them in my sight at the cost of getting a ticket if I had to, or towed away.  THEIR SAFETY MUST COME FIRST!  That is a mother's job!

I took my job as a mother that seriously and I loved them enough to put them before my own needs.  I now do the same thing with dogs I train.  I make time for me when I can but in the midst of childhood you only get ONE opportunity for a moment to make your children's lives really good or to be a moment to haunt them forever.  Driving off tells those children one thing, when the chips are down "I can't trust you to still be there."  Or worse, "I'm the reason she doesn't want me." could play in their heads for the rest of their lives.

Do Not put the mother in jail.  Teach her the consequences of what she says and does to her children, and how she behaves is modeling behaviors for them which have an INDELIBLE IMPACT.  You have to choose which one you want it to be.  Then get creative in your solution.

Each child is different just as every animal is different.  Every crime isn't a perfect little box with an easy answer.  Be creative with dicipline but always be consistent.  If you are inconsistent  once the kid and the animals know you don't mean it so why should they listen.  This is one of the first things we teach our children, cause and effect.  We teach them who we are, whether we mean what we say and/or say what we mean. 

Life offers no second chances unless a good samaritan does save the day.  For Heaven's sake please learn from whatever experience you get.  We all do dumb things and only some of the time get caught at it.  Count your blessings!  Pay attention to what you are doing, then act exquisitely with reason in the present.  Use the love you have inside then you don't go too far!!!
 
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May 11, 2009, 4:59 pm PDT

RE the New York mom

I just wanted to comment on the New York mom that threw her fighting girls from the car.  I have to say that I agree with what she did.  It's about time a parent followed through with some discipline.  People on the show were commenting that the mom need to realize that her actions have consequences . . well this is exactly what she was teaching her daughters.  They need to respect their mother and follow the rules she sets.
 
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May 11, 2009, 5:07 pm PDT

05/11 Behind the Headlines

The parents of Brittany think Peter should have made sure she made it back safetly yet they didn't even know she had gone to NC until she was missing. Her mother told her not to go yet she did.  I feel bad for Peter being blamed for so much. They did throw him under the bus. Today was the first time I heard that there were other boys in the hotel room.  And as far as the father saying that Peter was hanging out with minors lets remember he didn't know where his minor daughter was let alone have any control over her.
 
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May 11, 2009, 5:18 pm PDT

All the Answers to Parenting

Okay, what was with Peter's lawyer and his strange sense of nervousness he had during the show? I would think a lawyer should be able to speak a bit better than he was doing. He sounded like he was drunk! As for the woman who kicked her child out of her car, given the situations surrounding her decision, she certainly should have thought her decision through a bit more. If the event had happened in perhaps a more remote location, close to home kind of thing, I could understand a decision like that. Different parents have different techniques. Some work well with some people, and the opposite. No parent will ever have all the answers.
 
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May 11, 2009, 5:25 pm PDT

Re: Girl Missing on Spring Break, etc.

Living in the Caribbean I see these "spring breakers" every year and I wonder how parents allow their young children to roam all over the world unaccompanied. I am quite sure these parents must realize what takes place on these trips. Nothing but booze and sexual orgies. Peter is NOT responsible for this girls disappearance. He is a 20-year-old who went on spring break to have fun NOT to babysit a young girl whose parents were careless and too quick to give this kind of freedom to.  I am sorry that she has disappeared but do NOT blame Peter unless there is irrefutable proof that he was involved with her disappearance. Her parents are the ones to be blamed. Parents in America are NOT doing their jobs. When I watch your show and I see these rude, defiant, verbally abusive and disrespectful children I just shake my head. The children are obviously in charge. The tail is definitely wagging the dog. No wonder a mother cannot control her children in a car.  These children need some good Caribbean discipline. Dr. Phil, not everything can be solved by counselling. Love your show. Continue doing the good work you are doing even though sometimes I disagree with you. You cater too much to these children.
 
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May 11, 2009, 5:53 pm PDT

05/11 Behind the Headlines

I just want to add that it is terrible for any parent to go through what these poor folks are going through but really maybe stop pointing the finger and trying to get some sort of reaction from some kid who at this point is worried about himself and his family and really who cares if he feels bad or not thats what they want from him I have a son and a daughter and I could not even  breath at the thought of not knowing where they are how that would be a total nightmare ,but I sure as hell would not care what if  some kids felt bad for my child I just want to get my kid home ,and for the mom that through out her kids I think thats great  the only thing she did wrong in my eyes is kept driving I would of parked and kept my eyes on them a good scare thats what alot of these kids need today parents have lost total control and thats why there are so many bad things happening in todays times with so many kids, I was slapped as a kid and i turned out great ,I respected my folks and still do and I turned out pretty good maybe we should bring back the old ways it sure as hell worked
 
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