Topic : 05/12 How to Be a Better Parent, Part 3

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Watching that miserable woman terrorize Davia was like watching my own so called "mother". That witch is just like mine. Davia needs to be taken away from her NOW! I happened to have been a strong person who learned to ignore being told that nothing I do or don't do is ever right, that I have no right to have opinions or feelings, and having every thing I say ignored or criticized as if I have no right to speak. It’s still the same after 44 years. Davia may not be that strong. Even if she is, why should she have to be terrorized by this evil witch? All I saw in that footage of her trying to ignore the tiraid that was staged to incriminate the child, was a kid trying to hide from the hatred always being thrown at her. She tried to ignore and avoid the fight, but she was being goaded and blamed, and had no way out. Nothing she ever does will ever please that witch, or make her love her, and Davia will always try, only to be hated and criticized at every turn. The poor kid had hope. One day she won’t, and she’ll be blamed for that too. I hope her life doesn't turn out like mine. I always knew I was hated. I ignored it. They only loved my little brother, and that's fine, but when it came to doing their abusive garbage to him, I stood up for him, and they stopped, and they hated me even more. I was maybe five at that time! I see no hope for Davia, because that mother is the one with the problem, she always hated her, and it will never change. You can see it, even if you aren’t me. Whatever the child is doing is because of the mother, and maybe a survival instinct. It is not obvious by the lunatic's behavior or by her vicious words that she EVER loved Davia. Sorry, I just don't see it. The mother will never change. Save the girl Dr. Phil, please!!! She has nobody else. I signed up just to say this.

Once again, I'm right along with you.  I'm trying to have hope that Tammie will change for Davia's sake, but by the end of the second show she was still blaming Davia.  Until she can recognize that she needs to focus on herself and change her ways, then and only then will things turn around.  Like I said, I'm really trying to have hope and faith, but it's hard to have that for someone who won't put forth any initiative and places the blame on the victim. She did contact Dr. Phil and that was a big step, but she has to realize too that Dr. phil can only make her awaare of her problems, he can't be the one to solve them. Unfortunately, the progress of their mother/daughter relationship depends on Tammie, I'm afraid. She's the one, like you said, that needs fixing.

By the way, did you notice there are no more pop ups?  WOO-HOO! :)

I love watching Dr. Phil, but after the show with poor Davia, I was so livid, I wanted to confront that pathetic woman myself.  If there is one job that I feel is the most important in this life, it's to raise my children and love them equally.  I would NEVER and I repeat NEVER call my  9 year old daughter a bitch.  Has this woman lost her mind? Maybe not, but maybe child protective services should be called because if she is treating her child like this on national television, I am curious to what the family dynamics are at home.  I am still upset over that show last week.  I believe the woman's tears are fake, I also believe she doesn't deserve to have Davia.  Any woman can give birth, it takes special women to be mothers and this is something that Davia needs in her life, she needs to feel the love, nurture, and the mothering of a real mother.  The video that I saw was the "mother" instigating an arguement with Davia, as mothers we don't do this, nor do we call our children foul names for our own gratification.  I am clearly disgusted this woman feels like this and have been livid since the show aired.  Davia is a little girl growing into puberty girls aren't easy to raise with all their hormonal changes, but we as mothers must have that unconditional love for our children.  On my last note, I do not believe the woman that is financially taking care of Davia deserves to have that child in her life.  Oh I am not a violent person, but I would have loved to smack some sense into her and I would welcome the woman to confront me and call me names and lets see if she feels as big as she does when she's degrading her daughter.  I would take the blunt of it rather than that poor child.  Remember folks, abuse isn't only physical and my heart goes out to Davia, because she will need alot of therapy to overcome her mothers downfalls.  Another thought abuse is a learned behavior, I would hate for this little girl growing up to be just like her mother or becoming something even worse.....