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Topic : 05/13 "Save My Daughter"

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An estimated eight million Americans suffer from an eating disorder, and the condition has the highest mortality rate of any mental illness. Family members suffer the consequences as well. Cheryl wrote Dr. Phil because her family is in crisis. Her talented and beautiful 23-year-old daughter, Sherri, has struggled with anorexia and bulimia for 10 years and  she fears  she may die without an intervention. Shannon, Sherri's identical twin, is so worried about her sister, she checks on her throughout the night to make sure she's breathing. Shaun, Sherri's fiancé, has called off their wedding until Sherri gets her behavior in check. Sherri has been in and out of treatment but always relapses. How did her behavior start? Are there early warning signs you should watch out for in your child? Are family members contributing to Sherri's relapses? What does Sherri say her mother, sister and spouse-to-be can do to help her conquer her disease? Dr. Cynthia Bulik, an eating disorder specialist, sheds light on this pervasive disease and offers Sherri and her family coping strategies. Learn about her Crave-ology profile, and how it helps you take charge of your appetite and your urges. Talk about the show here.

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May 9, 2009, 10:17 am CDT

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May 13, 2009, 1:05 pm CDT

05/13 "Save My Daughter"

I have watched so many shows about addicted people (anorexia is another form of addiction in my opinion) and I am honestly tired of the outcome. Everytime the people who are so full of love for the addict, who really want to help them get blamed. I mean, this girl didn't take responsibility for her action whatsoever "Mom is so controlling" which I didn't see how, "my sister needs to be honest", she was in my opinion, "I feel like my fiance is bribing me", after trying everything to help you gain weight, what else can he do????? I didn't learn anything from the show that I didn't know already.

 
May 13, 2009, 1:23 pm CDT

You can overcome it

I suffered from an eating disorder for years. I would use this as a way to deal with other problems. There were other ways to do this as well, however all involved some form of self harm which in all reality is what an eating disorder is. After finally getting to a healthy weight I turned to other things. Latly I have been doing very well without hurting myself in any way. Even after not eating for a couple days if I am sick I still find it difficult to get back into eating. It makes me feel so much better physically when I do eat. If you are suffering from an eating disorder just eat just because you can. You will realize that your worth more than that and weight isnt everything. You definatly look better at a healty weight rather than being underweight.
 
May 13, 2009, 2:19 pm CDT

Taking Responsibility

Woo Weeee. I just watched the episode, and it was loaded. Without a doubt eating disorders are confusing at BEST. Unless you have one, I really don't think that you can understand what's going on. It's clear that this gal has some real issues.

 

The one thing i want to comment on that really has me bothered is that she seems to lack any desire to take responsibility...She needs to STOP blaming her mom, cheerleading, gymnastics, her sister, worldy pressure etc, and recognize that SHE NEEDS HELP.

 

There is no doubt in my mind that those things set off some weird trigger in her brain. But the fact of the matter is that she is not normal, it is not normal to know that skinnier is better- and to therefor make your self throw up. Its just not normal.

 

I think she is a darling girl. Adorable. But it really pissed me off at the beginning of the episode. She almost seemed entitled adn like she was sort of challenging Dr. Phil to 'fix her'.

 

I know that ya'll are probably going to disagree with me but I think the REAL problem is that Sherry (sherrie..) doesn't WANT help. She doesn't WANT to change.

 

She's not going to gain weight and get her disorder under control until she does. i personally think she is a great great great girl, buy it is apparent to me that she is only on the dr.phil show out of her love and compassion for others. She wants to be better for THEM, but she doesn't actually want to change for HERSELF.

 
May 13, 2009, 2:21 pm CDT

05/13 "Save My Daughter"

Quote From: clodi79

I have watched so many shows about addicted people (anorexia is another form of addiction in my opinion) and I am honestly tired of the outcome. Everytime the people who are so full of love for the addict, who really want to help them get blamed. I mean, this girl didn't take responsibility for her action whatsoever "Mom is so controlling" which I didn't see how, "my sister needs to be honest", she was in my opinion, "I feel like my fiance is bribing me", after trying everything to help you gain weight, what else can he do????? I didn't learn anything from the show that I didn't know already.

i agree, until she points her little finger back at herself, she wont get help. she needs to realize ( i know this isn't the right word, but i can't think of the one i want..) that she's 'defective'. That just because (lets pretend) her mom is controlling, she had a lot of outside pressure and yada yada yada, doesn't give her the excuse to purge. It's not their fault, it's hers. And therapy wont help her until she takes responsibility, and actually WANTS to get better.

 
May 13, 2009, 2:24 pm CDT

so sad

 

 All the talk in the world is not going to help--it's her body --it's used to throwing up and now the reflexing is not going to stop.  She has to do little steps --one hour at a time

 
May 13, 2009, 3:14 pm CDT

Book that can help you

Quote From: im_a_muffin

I suffered from an eating disorder for years. I would use this as a way to deal with other problems. There were other ways to do this as well, however all involved some form of self harm which in all reality is what an eating disorder is. After finally getting to a healthy weight I turned to other things. Latly I have been doing very well without hurting myself in any way. Even after not eating for a couple days if I am sick I still find it difficult to get back into eating. It makes me feel so much better physically when I do eat. If you are suffering from an eating disorder just eat just because you can. You will realize that your worth more than that and weight isnt everything. You definatly look better at a healty weight rather than being underweight.

I was touched by your comment and would love to share my story with you.  I nearly died from anorexia when I was 16. I'm now 28 and an author of a book called "A Future for Tomorrow"  *Surviving Anorexia * My Spiritual Journey.(You can find it at amazon.com) It reads like a novel and isn't just a Dr. saying facts about eating disorders.

 

I feel such an urgency to share my story with the world to help as many as I can.

 

I hope you can hang in there and resist the urge to hurt yourself and not eat.  Feel free to visit my sites afuturefortomorrow.blogspot.com  or afuturefortomorrow.com

              Best Wishes, Haley

 
May 13, 2009, 3:24 pm CDT

Anorexia almost killed me

 When I was 16 I nearly died from anorexia. I entered the hospital weighing 85 pounds (I’m nearly 5’10” tall.)  At this time I no longer knew who I was, how to feed, or bathe myself. My mother stayed in the facility completing these tasks for me.  My brain, along with my liver, kidney, and other organs began to die.  I could no longer speak coherently, and was completely psychotic.  The doctors prepared my family for my inevitable death.

             By a miracle, I did survive and once my body received nutrients it needed, my brain and body healed to full recovery. The doctors said my case will go down in the records, the chance of survival was gloom, but the probability that my mind would return to normal functioning was never expected.

                 One of my missions now is to share my story to help the ones suffering to not only realize the gravity of this illness and show them the need for treatment, but it will also give them hope for a healthy brighter life. I have been completely recovered for twelve years with no setbacks. With the book I wrote I also want to allow their families into an anorexic mind giving them the understanding of the power of this disease (my actual journal entries are at the beginning of most chapters.) I would love to share the rest of my story with any of you who think they can benefit from it. My non-fiction novel is called A Future for Tomorrow * Surviving Anorexia * My Spiritual Journey (you can get it at amazon or my sites afuturefortomorrow.com or afuturefortomorrow.blogspot.com)

 
May 13, 2009, 4:29 pm CDT

Mixed Messages

I found the show on eating disorders informative and interesting.  My concern is the mixed messages in the media.  After, the last cut away toward the end of your show there was a Nivea commercial that show- cased a model from a side view that in my opinion appeared to weigh less than the client you were interviewing.  It is these types of mixed media messages that allow addictions of this type to thrive among impressionable young women who we tell one thing and then show them something else. i also agree with the message that stated that the young woman  took little responsibility for her own addiction, but frankly I'm not sure that national T.V. would have been a positive format to push that issue. At least she was present.

 
May 13, 2009, 4:29 pm CDT

no one gets it

I know this guest personally and so do a lot of our other friends who helped each other in recovery at ED treatment center.  She was very brave to go on and speak about this #1 killer of all psychiatric diseases.  NO ONE wakes up and asks to go through this.  it is a living hell.  i have dealt with since high school and i am now 28.  i graduated college with honors, then graduated a VERY demanding grad school program and held jobs with great references all the while it ruined an athletic career, i lost friends, lost family, lost trust, my husband left me, and everyday it is a burden weighing heavy on my chest.  i worry that i will never be back to the happy energetic fun un-self conscious person i once was.  now i'm a category, bulimic, anorexic, not skinny enough yet to be anorexic.  most of the time this disease falls upon those girls/women who are the stubborn ones who strive for excellence in all aspects of life.  
so PLEASE, if you have not gone through this or dealt with is directly keep your ignorant comments to yourself.  
and to the person that said "how can you let your daughter go with it so long, i should have been dealt with when she was 13..." it is a very secretive disease. 
 
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