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Topic : 05/13 "Save My Daughter"

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An estimated eight million Americans suffer from an eating disorder, and the condition has the highest mortality rate of any mental illness. Family members suffer the consequences as well. Cheryl wrote Dr. Phil because her family is in crisis. Her talented and beautiful 23-year-old daughter, Sherri, has struggled with anorexia and bulimia for 10 years and  she fears  she may die without an intervention. Shannon, Sherri's identical twin, is so worried about her sister, she checks on her throughout the night to make sure she's breathing. Shaun, Sherri's fiancé, has called off their wedding until Sherri gets her behavior in check. Sherri has been in and out of treatment but always relapses. How did her behavior start? Are there early warning signs you should watch out for in your child? Are family members contributing to Sherri's relapses? What does Sherri say her mother, sister and spouse-to-be can do to help her conquer her disease? Dr. Cynthia Bulik, an eating disorder specialist, sheds light on this pervasive disease and offers Sherri and her family coping strategies. Learn about her Crave-ology profile, and how it helps you take charge of your appetite and your urges. Talk about the show here.

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May 13, 2009, 5:09 pm CDT

An unfortunate situation

I feel like anorexia is a disease that has mostly come about due to society and its pressures. Unfortunately us common folk can't control the booming industry that is Hollywood. This is what makes dealing and treating the disease so difficult, I believe. I wish these industries, such as Hollywood, who airbrush perfectly beautiful women and create them into unrealistic figures, would wake up and realize that underweight is something NOT to strive for. I also wish these girls who are unfortunate enough to develop the disease would realize they look disgusting because they're too skinny, not fat. There is nothing attractive about a woman whose ribs are larger than her breasts.
 
May 13, 2009, 6:40 pm CDT

05/13 "Save My Daughter"

I understand Sherri (as do most who suffer from an eating disorder) and I commend her for her bravery in  recovery and hope she continues on this path.   I agree with the writer who suggested that  "people just don't get it."   Some people think that an eating disorder disease is a result of the media.  Some people think that curing the disease is as simple as eating a full plate of food.  Neither is really true.  Sure we've all seen young thin women in magazines and wanted (at some point to emulate them); however, once the disease takes over it has nothing to do with a thin woman on a  magazine cover or T.V. show.  Once the disease takes over rarely can a sufferer eat a full plate of food.  You see, once the disease takes over it is a disease of being in control; complete control - yet we're out of control. Our lives feel so out of control (for whatever reason) and the only thing we feel we can control is what we put or don't put in our mouths.  Our reasons for feeling out of control can be varied but the ultimate result is we punish ourselves by self-starvation.  It is a disease that robs of us one single peaceful moment.  It is a disease, like alcoholism or any other addition, that is merely a symptom of some other underlying personal challenge. It is a disease that sneaks up us, grabs us, and doesn't let go.   It is a disease that none of us want to suffer from but most of us don't know how to get out of.   It is a disease of walking shame.  One doesn't necessarily know an individual is an alcoholic but one can surely see and judge an eating disorder sufferer.  We live with it (painfully) both inwardly and outwardly.   I am a 44 year old woman who never had a challange with food until I was age 39.   Long had the time passed when I looked at magazine covers and wanted to thin.  I would give anything to be age 38 and change the course of the last six years.    I would give anything to eat a full plate of food.  If it were as simple as eating a plate of food, I would do it - GLADLY.  I am in a form of recovery but not to the extent of where Sherri is and again, I do commend her.  Whatever age we're at with this disease, the challenges and feelings are the same.   To all my "sisters" out there, keep trying.  We weren't always so hungry.  For those of you who want to know more about the disease, rent a copy of the documentary, "Thin" or read "The Golden Cage" by Hilda Bruch.     Dr. Phil, thank you again for bringing this subject to your show.  We need to continue to bring awareness to this crippling crippling disease.  Thank you.
 
May 13, 2009, 7:42 pm CDT

The doctor in the audience

I think the doctor in the audience that dr Phil brought in because she is an expert in eating disorders, looks like she is anorexic herself. That alone doesn't help when you see someone who is supposed to help you looking very very thin themselves.
 
May 13, 2009, 8:50 pm CDT

RECOVERING AND HOPING TO HELP

I HAD THE SAME DISEASE FROM THE TIME I WAS 17 UP UNTIL TODAY WHICH I'M 45 NOW.THE ONLY THING IS I'VE NEVER WENT TO THE BATHROOM AND VOMITED MY FOOD UP.I USED TO STARVE MYSELF AND LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND THINK I WAS FAT ALL THE TIME NO MATTER HOW SKINNY I GOT.WHAT MADE ME REALIZE HOW PATHETIC THIS WAS BECOMING WHEN I GOT DOWN TO 95 POUNDS AND MY DAUGHTER LOOKED AT ME AND SAID MOM DO YOU FIND YOURSELF ATTRACTIVE.I TOOK A LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND SEEN HOW SKINNY I WAS RIBS STICKING OUT AND MY ARMS WERE LIKE BEAN POLES.MY FACE WAS SUNK IN THEN I THOUGHT THIS IS NOT ATTRACTIVE.THIS WAS 3 YEARS AGO AND SINCE THEN I'VE BEEN EATING ALMOST EVERYDAY AT LEAST ONCE MAYBE TWICE A DAY.I STILL LOOK AT MYSELF SOMETIMES AND THINK I'M FAT BUT AT LEAST I KNOW I'M HEALTHIER.I'M 105 NOW AND THE MOST WEIGHT I GET UP TO IS 110.WHEN I GET TO THAT POINT I START STARVING MYSELF OR EATING IRREGULAR AGAIN.I FOUND WHEN I WAS AS BAD AS I WAS YEARS AGO MY CALCIUM IN MY TEETH WERE BAD AND MY BONES WERE GETTING BRITTLE.THIS DISEASE TAKES A TOLL ON YOUR BODY.SHERRI IS ATTRACTIVE AND IF SHE KEEPS GOING ON THIS WAY SHE WON'T BE!I'M LUCKY I STILL KEPT MYSELF LOOKING GOOD BUT IF I DIDN'T SMARTEN UP TO THIS POINT WHO KNOWS HOW UGLY I WOULD HAVE BECOME.THIS DISEASE IS CAUSED FROM ABUSE AND A LOW SELF ESTEEM.ALL THE COMPETITION OUT THERE THATS ON T.V AND IN MAGAZINES WITH ALL THESES SEXY WOMAN DON'T HELP!YOU NEVER SEE UNFIT WOMAN ON T.V BUT YOU ALWAYS SEE UNFIT MEN.THIS IS A MAN'S WORLD AND IT MAKES PEOPLE LIKE US GO TO THIS EXTREEM,ESPECIALLY WHEN WE ALREADY HAVE THAT LOW SELF ESTEEM.SHERRI IS BLAMING HER MOM AND SISTER FOR THIS AND NOT TELLING THE ACTUAL TRUTH AS TO WHAT MADE HER THIS WAY.SHE'S NOT BEING FAIR BLAMING THE PEOPLE WHO LOVE HER AND WHO IS STANDING BY HER THROUGH THIS WHOLE ORDEAL.I GUESS IT'S ALWAYS MUCH EASIER BLAMING THE ONES YOU LOVE!SHE NEEDS TO FIGHT THIS HERSELF OR GO GET PROFESSIONAL HELP AND TAKE RESPONSIBILITY AND FACE UP TO THE REAL REASON WHAT MADE HER LIKE THIS.I WISH HER AND HER FAMILY ALL THE BEST BECAUSE THIS IS A LONG STRUGGLE.

 
May 13, 2009, 9:10 pm CDT

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Quote From: breakaway

Woo Weeee. I just watched the episode, and it was loaded. Without a doubt eating disorders are confusing at BEST. Unless you have one, I really don't think that you can understand what's going on. It's clear that this gal has some real issues.

 

The one thing i want to comment on that really has me bothered is that she seems to lack any desire to take responsibility...She needs to STOP blaming her mom, cheerleading, gymnastics, her sister, worldy pressure etc, and recognize that SHE NEEDS HELP.

 

There is no doubt in my mind that those things set off some weird trigger in her brain. But the fact of the matter is that she is not normal, it is not normal to know that skinnier is better- and to therefor make your self throw up. Its just not normal.

 

I think she is a darling girl. Adorable. But it really pissed me off at the beginning of the episode. She almost seemed entitled adn like she was sort of challenging Dr. Phil to 'fix her'.

 

I know that ya'll are probably going to disagree with me but I think the REAL problem is that Sherry (sherrie..) doesn't WANT help. She doesn't WANT to change.

 

She's not going to gain weight and get her disorder under control until she does. i personally think she is a great great great girl, buy it is apparent to me that she is only on the dr.phil show out of her love and compassion for others. She wants to be better for THEM, but she doesn't actually want to change for HERSELF.


I was very surprised that Sherri wasn't confronted about the obvious fact that she didn't WANT to get better. The look on her face whenever advice was given was clearly- "You can't make me." The truth is that until she wants to get better- she won't. Sherri is obviously competitive and in her mind she is "winning" when she loses weight. In this case it appears that everyone will lose.
 
May 14, 2009, 10:42 am CDT

Shocked - Can't Believe That is You Sherri

Quote From: folksy_74

 

 All the talk in the world is not going to help--it's her body --it's used to throwing up and now the reflexing is not going to stop.  She has to do little steps --one hour at a time

Sherri,

 

When I was shown the Dr. Phil episode about a beautiful young lady who was suffering from this disease I was so shocked finding out it was you.  When I first met you, your sister and your mom I was a judge at the Rising Star competion, I would have never guessed you were suffering from this disease.  I felt compelled to write to you, hoping maybe what I have to say may help in a little way.  First of all I want to tell you how blessed you are to have people like your family and friends who care so deeply about you.  My life experiences have taught me so much.  Not that I ever had this disease, but I dealt with a terminal disease.  My youngest son died from AIDS 15 years ago.  I watched him dwindle away the last year of his life and there was nothing I could do about it.  The worst tragedy a parent could ever experience is to watch their child die before their eyes.  It is the most helpless thing imaginable.  My son wasn't given a choice.  He wanted to live so so much.  He had such hope and happiness in his heart and he spread it to everyone his 14 years on this earth.  HE DIDN'T HAVE A CHOICE SHERRI!  YOU DO.  I get so angry when I hear of so many young people who have a choice to live and they choose not to.  Honey, you are such a beautiful, young, talented  woman and have so much to live for.  God has blessed you with an angelic voice.  Don't throw that away.  Find the strength and the will power to get the help you need and to stay with it. 

 

Sandy

 

 
May 14, 2009, 11:03 am CDT

05/13 "Save My Daughter"

I feel bad for this poor girl with the eating disorder. I have never vomitted but i do have the feelings of starving myself which I have done before a lot. I hate my body. My husband says there's nothing wrong with me but for some reason I have issues with my body I feel like I am too fat.
 
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