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Topic : 08/21 Dangerous Teen Trends

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Created on : Friday, May 08, 2009, 02:42:28 pm
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(Original Air Date: 05/15/09) Nutmeg, candy, cough medicine, air freshener -- these may seem like common household products, but your teen may actually abuse these items. Maureen and Tim found out the hard way. The couple admits that they initially looked the other way when their 14-year-old son, Sam, started "smoking" crushed candy and then snorting powdered drink mix. Now they believe Sam's experimentation led him to buy marijuana. Dr. Phil has a heart-to-heart with Sam to get to the bottom of why he uses drugs. What does the eighth grader admit that brings his father to tears? Dr. Jim Sears, co-host of the hit show The Doctors, (link to: http://www.thedoctorstv.com) weighs in on these risky trends. Then, Adela worries for her 17-year-old son, Alex's, safety after discovering that he's participating in an underground extreme sport -- teen fight clubs. Alex and his 20-year-old friend, Casanova, say that these amateur boxing matches are training them to reach their goals of becoming mixed martial arts fighters. How do the teens respond when they come face-to-face with real Ultimate Fighting Champions? And, Teresa and John say they had no idea their 12-year-old daughter was leading an alternate life online ... and you won't believe how she accessed the Net! Join the discussion.

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August 21, 2009, 12:45 pm CDT

He is honest

I watched him answer your question with honesty.  Yes he would drink, and yes he would smoke a joint.

He feels what most of us boys feel at 14, and yet there is no one other than the friends he wishes to impress there to keep him straight.  Not you, his loving mom and dad can't take the time that it takes to  change that.  It takes adults taking the time to be with kids daily. We are just busy and it seems we only have time to TELL THEM WHAT TO DO.

I was him and I did it all.  lying, stealing, and alcohol before 15. Drugs at 16 and the rest is history.  I got through it by the grace of God and the US Navy rehab.

All of you mean well, but to save our teens and stop this insanity of drug and alcohol abuse will take all of us away from ourselfish selves and put us outside in the fields with a baseball, on tthe courts and parks as a family with adult supervision of parents.  it will take teachers that lead instead of just teaching.  It takes all of us to get involved.  Turn of the TV's, the computers, the cell phones and get bach outside with your kids, neighbors and get involved in their lives.  I'm proud of him for being honest.......Tell him I understand everything he is going through, and to say no takes balls.

 
August 21, 2009, 1:08 pm CDT

08/21 Dangerous Teen Trends

Quote From: bigdummydave

I watched him answer your question with honesty.  Yes he would drink, and yes he would smoke a joint.

He feels what most of us boys feel at 14, and yet there is no one other than the friends he wishes to impress there to keep him straight.  Not you, his loving mom and dad can't take the time that it takes to  change that.  It takes adults taking the time to be with kids daily. We are just busy and it seems we only have time to TELL THEM WHAT TO DO.

I was him and I did it all.  lying, stealing, and alcohol before 15. Drugs at 16 and the rest is history.  I got through it by the grace of God and the US Navy rehab.

All of you mean well, but to save our teens and stop this insanity of drug and alcohol abuse will take all of us away from ourselfish selves and put us outside in the fields with a baseball, on tthe courts and parks as a family with adult supervision of parents.  it will take teachers that lead instead of just teaching.  It takes all of us to get involved.  Turn of the TV's, the computers, the cell phones and get bach outside with your kids, neighbors and get involved in their lives.  I'm proud of him for being honest.......Tell him I understand everything he is going through, and to say no takes balls.

Don't ASSume, because your parents weren't sufficiently involved in your life, that Sam's aren't in his! Dr Phil saw no fault in how Sam's parents were raising him, and he knows far more about his guests than we could ever know from watching them on TV for 15 minutes. If they weren't involved enough in Sam's life, Dr Phil would have addressed it. And, as for his friends keeping him straight, get a life! Friends lead each other astray.
 
August 21, 2009, 2:27 pm CDT

Your futures

What we don't think about enough are the following two things: 1) Childrens' prefrontal cortexes are not developed enough to make consistently sound decisions about dangerous lifestyle choices...they are children..you have to parent them, and part of that is to go on the assumption that every child lies sometimes...you have to earn mutual trust.  2) What goes on a cell phone or computer isn't like Vegas...once someone sees it , saves it, shares it...etc...it is out there...you can't get it back...it may greatly affect future relationships, schools, employment and home loans...surprise every bank and employer I know checks the web for info on their contacts...

 

A twelve year old portraying a 16 year old porn star and sneaking out to have sex is a big home probelm for the parents...the fact that picture of the whole family and their address are now on the web is something else....I would sell the house and move...get an unlisted number and enroll the girl in both private school and serious couseling sessions.

 
August 21, 2009, 2:31 pm CDT

Don't call them ignorant

Quote From: themrs

Why did you buy your daughter a product you knew nothing about? That is completely ignorant of you! with any piece of technology now days, You have the option to do a billion different things. Do some research before you buy your kids toys!
It was a wireless gaming device...they purposefully didn't let her work on a computer.  Who would think that you could go online with a Wii device?  If that is your benchmark...most of the world is ignorant!
 
August 21, 2009, 2:36 pm CDT

Watch the show!

Quote From: cadescove99

Parents need to pull their heads out of their butts and start superving their children. No 12 year old child should have a secret online life. Her parents should know exactly what she is doing online. Or disconnect her computer.
She didn't have a computer...she did all this on Wii!
 
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