Topic : 05/20 How to Fix a Broken Family

A Broken Doctor Family Fix How Phil/robin To. What are you talking about? I never heard of that program--

before. See you on May 20th, 2009 Wednesday. Sincerley Your. Russell Vlaanderen.-----------------------------

If I were this man's wife, I would have filed for divorce a LONG time ago! I wouldn't have put up with all this crap. (1st couple's story). Now there is a child involved....... what a mess! Scott says it was the biggest mistake of his life to get married. So why did he?? And she didn't get pregnant ON HER OWN. Please people!! I get so tired of all the CRAP men say.

Scott needs to GROW UP and take responsibility for his child, at least!! If he doesn't want this marriage, then he needs to file for divorce and quit making excuses for his behavior.

34 years later:  I went through the first couple's dilema, am currently separated and living the life of the second couple.  However, he was the one that wanted out of the chaos in his home life and needed me to help him with that.  I called it off a few times, but he, family and friends said it was the stress of the wedding.  His behavior on our honeymoon proved my worst mistake.  Then upon arriving home, "I" was pregnant, according to him.  When I had to quit working to stay home, this seemed to satisfy the control over me.  There were good times and some really bad times, with an attempted rape and violence.  With the youngest of three children graduating from high school, he said he no longer loved me.  Period.  Out of the blue.  Our youngest daughter just turned 26 and we're still not divorced yet.  I tried everything, including reading the Dr. Phil advice, etc.  He refused everything, any kind of treatment, counseling, etc. 

Our three children experienced his wrath.  They experienced my hurt, anger, and frustration.  I left five times and finally had enough.  He is on his fourth attorney, would never produce any documents with a court order, and cries to the kids that he's having it hard.  He is presently making $27.00/hr.  I worked part-time jobs throughout, raised the kids, did all the house and yard work while he went fishing, hunting, and partied with his buddies and co-workers.  Things just got really ugly when he insisted that I try cocaine to make our relationship better.  After the second time he tried to choke me to death, I ran with my clothes and never went back.  I treated the marriage as a partnership, made excuses why their Dad wouldn't spend time with them, go to their events, etc.  To the young couple:  DON'T DO IT.   To the older couple:  THE BOYS KNOW WHAT'S UP.  They don't need to be a part of it. 

My wife and I have been married for 6 years and it seems like ever since the wedding day things changed.  I know this is going to be only one side of the story but it is my view.  Feel free to read between the lines.  To me it feels like everything that happens wrong is my fault and everything good is because of her.  I am in the Air Force and any time we have to move or anything that can only happen because of the military is my fault for being in the military.  A little background info on this, she pushed me hard to join.  Economy was bad and I needed a job and she thought this was the best way.  Granted I had the ultimate choice, but when it is convenient for her she forgets that she really wanted me to join.  There are things that happen that I have no control over and it seems like she blames me.  I guess the biggest problem I have is that I feel beat down.  I feel like she is controlling me, and then she tells me to be a man and make decisions.  She says I act like a child, but she treats me like one.  I guess this is just more of a venting session, but I don’t know what to do.  I want to be happy, and I love my wife, I want her to be happy.  How can this be resolved without her thinking that I am attacking her and I don’t love her?

I don't understand why the first couple is even on. They both have many personal issues that they need to work on individually before they come to a relationship. Who knows why these two got married. Dr Phil gives hope that maybe they can save their marriage. Well, they've never had a marriage; neither one knows what it means to love another person that way. I have absolutely NO sympathy for this woman...she knew EXACTLY what she was doing. The only one I feel sorry for is their poor child...he has a violent, brutish father, and an idiot for a mother. It's frightening that these 2 are responsible for making decisions for an innocent child when they have the emotions and coping skills of 2 thirteen year olds, and are unable to make responsible decisions for themselves.