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Topic : 08/29 Secret Lives of Single Moms

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Created on : Thursday, August 25, 2005, 03:50:22 pm
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Being a single mother is hard enough, but imagine juggling soccer practice, PTA meetings and homework ... all while trying to cover up a secret life. Susan is a single mom with two kids who works as a prostitute to pay the bills. She says she's never had a real job in her life and is addicted to the money. Can Susan say goodbye to her dangerous job and turn her life around? Then, Stephanie's a single mother of four who's been hiding her secret for 12 years. She's addicted to painkillers and takes 60 times the recommended dosage just to make it through the day. Fearing for their lives and the lives of their children, they both turn to Dr. Phil. Share your thoughts here.

 

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August 31, 2005, 12:05 pm CDT

GET IN A 12 STEP PROGRAM

Quote From: alexie98

hello watching today's show has really scared me i am 27 yr old and I'm addicted to   Vicodin  and soma's and lortabs i take anywhere from 12-20 pills a day i don't get a high from them because i have been on them for 2 yrs now i have 2 kids i drive everyday on them but i feel fine....i know i need to get off them but its so hard i have tried and i know i have a problem and don't know what else to do my husband does not know how many i really take in a day i don't have good insurance just through the state i cant go to rehab i have no one to watch my kids my husband works everyday I'm a sahm i live in AZ so if anyone out there lives by me or knows anything i can do please help I'm so lost right and feel like I'm just going to lose it need help in AZ thanks  

HELLO, I WAS ADDICTED TO PAIN MEDICATION FOR OVER 3 YEARS.  I HAVE BEEN CLEAN NOW SINCE MARCH 9, 2005.  I TRIED EVERYWAY POSSIBLE TO STAY CLEAN AND THE ONLY THING THAT WORKED FOR ME WAS.... I FOUND A 12 STEP PROGRAM IN MY AREA.  I LIVE IN A SMALL TOWN AND THE ONLY THING THEY HAD WAS AA, SO I GO TO OPEN AA MEETINGS 2 TIMES A WEEK.  FIND A MEETING....GO IN AND JUST LISTEN.  YOU WILL BE SURPRISED HOW JUST LISTENING TO OTHER PEOPLES ADDICTIONS MAKES YOU FEEL LIKE YOU ARE NOT ALONE.  YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!  WHEN I WENT TO MY FIRST MEETING I COULD NOT BELIEVE HOW MANY PEOPLE WERE THERE FOR THE EXACT REASON I WAS THERE.  THE PEOPLE IN A 12 STEP PROGRAM HAVE BEEN EXACTLY WHERE YOU ARE NOW.  JUST FIND A MEETING...... TRY IT!  WHAT HAVE YOU GOT TO LOOSE!  IF YOU NEED TO TALK, PLEASE DO NOT HESITATE TO EMAIL ME KCKW@SBCGLOBAL.NET  TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF... YOU ARE WORTH IT!    

 
September 2, 2005, 6:36 am CDT

Sounded just like my life.

When i watched Stephanie on the show the other day...it hit me like a ton of bricks. I too am addicted to any kind  of pain pills that i can get my hands on. Everything from Vicodins,Darvocets,Ultrams(yes,believe it they ARE addictive) and i also take xanax. It is a constant battle. I am sick of being worried about running out and using different pharmacies so i can get different meds at different places. If i run out i am sick and cant lift my head out of bed, but that doesnt happen very often as i am very careful not to run out. I am sick of this vicious cycle and i KNOW i need help. My kids (10 and 6) dont need a junkie mom. I grew up with 2 alcholic parents and swore i would never drink or let my kids see the stuff i grew up seeing, but i am no better. I cant go to rehab because like Stephanie i cant leave my kids. No money to do the rapid detox either. Is there a safe way i could do it at home? I really want to get off this crap. I am sick of living like this. It started so simple with a surgery and has turned into a nightmare. Any help here would be appreciated. And Steph, i just read you have been clean for 4 months!! I am so proud of you. And one more thing to Dr. Phil. I admire you and love your show but it seems that you are really harsh on addicts. Would you be that tough on someone with cancer? Dont take that as a put down, it is just something i have noticed. Take care everyone and this is my first time here so i hope to make some friends here. Everyone have a safe and happy holiday and lets be thankful for what we have. I just need to get my life straight off these pills now and life would be so much sweeter. 

 
September 2, 2005, 9:06 pm CDT

hi MDP

Quote From: mdp1954

I have been a member of an online pill addiction upport group for six years.  Today I have more than seven years off Vicodin and Ativan and have never been happier.  Getting off the pills by going through detox is only the beginning.  In fact, it is the easiest part.  The challenge is changing your life, the way you think and the way you behave.  If anyone is interested, do a google search for pills anonymous, you will find us at MSN groups.  Learning to live a pill free life is hard, but it is the most important thing I have ever done because it has enabled me to become a better person, physically, emotionally and spiritually.  

  

  

I was just reading about the online support group. I would love to come "sit in" . Would they welcome me even though i am not clean yet but do want with all my heart to get here? I would appreciate any help that i can get right now. I did pretty good today. Had only 3 Darvocets and one 1mg xanax. That is a very low dose for me. I feel a little hyper right now but i would love to come to these online meetings if you could be kind enough to give me some info and point me in the right  direction. Thanks in advance.
 
September 4, 2005, 12:31 am CDT

Hi Dixie

Quote From: dixiegurl5

I was just reading about the online support group. I would love to come "sit in" . Would they welcome me even though i am not clean yet but do want with all my heart to get here? I would appreciate any help that i can get right now. I did pretty good today. Had only 3 Darvocets and one 1mg xanax. That is a very low dose for me. I feel a little hyper right now but i would love to come to these online meetings if you could be kind enough to give me some info and point me in the right  direction. Thanks in advance.

Of course you are welcome Dixie, everyone is!  Just do a search on google to find the web site for pills anonymous.  I don't believe we are allowed to give links out in this message board. 

  

Mary 

 
September 4, 2005, 8:01 pm CDT

Too much info for some

I watched the show and was horrified to find out that you don't need a prescription to get drugs online..you just need alot of money. And while revealing that fact is supposed to help others, I am just afraid that it has given other addicts another avenue to legally buy drugs they don't need. What I find so unbelieveable is that addicts get painkillers so easily but people who really need them are treated like junkies when they ask their doctors to prescribe painkillers for them. I know it's because of those who are abusing the painkillers, but it is still so unfair. I had foot surgery in May and am in alot of pain trying to recover and when I ask my doc for pain meds, he looks at me like I am asking him for crack. So, I have to suck it up and deal with it while other people hop from doctor to doctor gathering prescriptions. Sorry to sound insensitive to those with an addiction, but even though we have never met, I am also paying for your addiction. Just wanted to get that off my chest.
 
October 10, 2005, 8:18 pm CDT

Another point of view.

To those narrow minded people, passing judgement on another persons choice to have this procedure from  Florida Detox. You all should be ashaimed! I suppose only those of us who live with the disease of addiction can see this procedure for what it is... a BLESSING! It has already changed the lives of many people, with a far greater success rate than any rehab on this planet. I have already been down that road, it's a large circle back to square one.  Those of you looking in on this disease may think it is mind over matter but it is far more than that.  It takes over you body, your heart and your soul.  You become a different person.  A person you never knew you were and a person you never wanted to be.  Dr. Sponaugle and his staff at Florida Detox are giving people another chance at life, one they thought they never could have the chance to have.  Drug addiction is a powerful disease, but with this procedure you no longer will need to be a slave to the addiction.  It can help you to lead a happy and completely new lifestyle, the one that was truely intended for you.  Many people think this is the easy way out.  They say why not go through the withdrawls, go to rehab, do your time, I have done all that, and the minute I got out I went right back to doing drugs.  Its like plastic surgery, when it first came out people had all kids of judgemental things to say, why not workout, eat healthy, etc.  But what about those people who need the gastric bypass surgery to save their lives?  Is that okay?  This is the same thing Florida Detox is saving lives, regardless if you can see it or not this facility is doing amazing things and giving hope and live to people and families that never thought there could ever be another answer to a drug addtion besides rehab, jail, or death!  So thank you you to all the staff at Florida Detox and Dr. Phil for recommending this wonderful treatment center.  Dr. Phil is one of the main reasons that I looked into to this center and I am grateful for all of your help to put me back on my right track in my life! 
 
October 12, 2005, 9:15 am CDT

tried many times

I too have been on pills, and followed that with alcohol. Starting with surgerys ending with three trips to 28 day programs, years and years in AA. Never able to find an answer that really worked. always slipping and going back to pills or alcohol. I searched and searched, even in the United Kingdom for alternatives to AA or for anything that would work. I fianally found Floridadetox and went to a lecture there by Dr Sponagle. He didn't talk as much about detoxing as about diagnosis. I decided to try it and after a lot of workups and tests was finally diagnosed and treated for a problem that i had been living with since childhood. I had been to Mayo and other centers and never been diagnosed with this before. I went through the detox program and began treatment. I have not had a craving or desire since. Its like being free for the first time in a long time. The tratment was hard and anyone who says its the easy way just does not know. I have been both ways and in someways this was tougher. However the results where 100% better. The best thing about Floridadetox is that they find out what the cause is and do something about it. The care there was excellant and the people cared what happened to me. I know Stephanie will be fine and i congratulate Dr Phil for his stand. Its hard to go against the establishment (AA). Don't let the name Floridadetox fool you, its not all about detox its about being free.
 
October 24, 2005, 11:15 pm CDT

Florida Detox Saved me!

I'm a 17 year old girl. My story is a little bit different. It started last winter right after my 17th birthday I became majorly ill. I spent the next couple of months (from begining of december into early march) going in and out of the hospital, spending weeks at a time. From the begining I was having extreme pain coming from my head. They had to put me on narcotics (the hospitals drug of choice). Everytime I went into the hospital I was put on fentonal te strongest they could offer me. Over the stays at the hospital I became pyshically dependant apon it. They than started to give me prescriptions for at home use. It started to not be enough to get the same effect, and so they uped the strength. Eventcually they tried to lower the strength after it became aparent I was becoming dependant. Now I have diabetes, ashama, and an immune issues, so when they reduced it only be 20 percent my heart rate shot up to a dangerous level. I ended up in the ER where they just gave me a large dose of dimmeral and sent me on my way. I was showing the pyshical signs, not able to keep any food down I went down to a weight of 76 with my normal 94. (I'm short). My mother took me to the doctor desperately trying tofind a place to get me to go through detox. She sent us to a local detox hospital. They told us there that it wasnt the right place for me, because it was mostly for emotional dependacy. My mother than went to the internet  for help. She came apon the website for Florida detox, a rapid detoxification. It was expensive yes but we go help from my family and made the appointment. When we arrived there and went tothe open house they held they went through the procedure and the effects of drugs on the body and brain. They helped to make clear what they did and hhow it helps. After the procedure had taken place I woke up after being under for about 24 hours and felt nothing, no withdrawls  an felt such clearity. My  head was no longer in a fog! I know I could not have gone through a normal dextox with my health issues. I want to thank all te nurses and doctors who looked after me and saw me through. Dr..Sponaugle helped me. I never had the emotional attachment but going through it pyshically I am very sympathetic to everyone dealing with this issue. I extremely recommend Florida Detox to anyone searching for help. They have open hearts and truly want to help. :)
 
October 31, 2005, 10:15 pm CST

STEPPING OUT OF THE SHADOWS

A few weeks ago, prior to even meeting Dr. Sponaugle of Florida Detox, I had entered a statement shamming those narrow minded people that were so quickly passing judgement on those of us who are living with an addiction.  Since my last statement on this site, I have been lucky enough to have my name added to the thousands of other successes of Dr. Sponaugle.  Let me tell you about this man and his staff, and facility.   

     Its not about the money.  Its about saving lives, like mine!  I arrived to Florida Detox on a Wednesday morning not knowing what to expect.  I then was schooled by the brilliant Doctor himself, for over two hours of a lecture of the brain, why my brain chemistry was causing itself to self medicate, as well as, that an addiction is something that can be treated, once treated and maintained, you are no longer an addict because you are in control of your body, not the drug and you do not have to punish yourself forever for your past addiction.    

     Since I have "stepped out of the shadows" of my former life (that I never want to return to again, let alone remember) I am now currently on the 5th day of the 2nd week of my new drug free life.  (And I am just going to keep on going).  I am looking forward to marring my faince, raising a family, and taking over the family business.  (Things I probably would never be able to do it I were still using).  My family is finally happy to have me back to my old self, smiling and happy, and most of all trustworthy and honest.  (These things are earned not given and for me this was one of the most positive turing points in my life so far since my procedure).  I no longer crave nor do I want any part of drugs or the lifestyle I once used to live.  I have been given a new chance to start over.  There is hope.  I know some people my be sceptical, believe me, some people in my own family were, but after they sat down, listened to Dr. Sponaugle, saw how his staff took hours on end to give me one-on-one time and the Doctor himself, sat with, me my mother and my fiance and spoke to use for over and hour and a half.  It was nice to talk to a doctor that was not trying to say that there was something that I had done wrong and that I should be ashamed of myself.  All of the staff made me feel very confortable from the moment I walked in, to the moment I left.  They are truely  there to save lives. 

    I say this again, thank you to Dr. Sponaugle and all the wonderful staff at Florida Detox and thank you to Dr. Phil, it is because of you that I took a secend look at Florida Detox.  I figured, if Dr. Phil will put his name behind this it must really work!!!  =)   

 
December 17, 2005, 11:00 am CST

NEED A WAY OUT

I'm not a single mother, but I'm in a relationship with this man and when he met me this year he 'knew I was a escort. I've been doing it for 12 years all together, now I'm trying to get out and trying to work myself out of it. My life has not been easy, and this is all I know and know how to survive at this time. I started out when I was 18 years old after my drunken father threw me out on the streets with no place to go. It was cold outside and felt lost and all a lone on the streets, I’m lucky I’m here and a live to tell you my story. I worked the streets from the age 18-25 years old, it was rough out there and been through hell and back on the streets. I had to drink and do drugs to numb the pain inside and prostitute from the guilt and shame inside. I’ve been ganged raped on the streets and had pimps who raped me too. Been kidnaped on the streets and had a gun put to my head, chloroformed and tied up and he knocked me out several times. I was lucky he never killed me, he threaten to kill me with a gun and threaten to blow my head off if I did not do what he asked me to do. I could go on about this was raped couple more times also after that, I gave up on life and no hope in this world to live. I got out of it when I was 25 years old, then 9 years later got back into it again. I work through the internet now, and the yellow pages making more money, and now I want to stop running in circles with this kind of life style. I’m trying to work myself out of this, but how? I have no other means to support me and don’t know how to hold a job very long. I’m trying to work myself out of this chaos in my life and this job brings chaos in my life and causes me to become numb and shut down then I rage. And on top of this I have all these illnesses on top of it, trying to deal with 5 mental illnesses.  

  

I read what she had to say to Dr Phil I know how she feels inside.... 

 

 
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