Topic : 09/02 "I Hate Myself"

What are you waiting for? 

  

If you KNOW she is activley losing weight you NEED to do something NOW. 

  

Or are you going to wait until she needs to behospitalized before you realize she has a problem?  It is obvious to me she has more than an eating problem. Your daughter NEEDS help. 

 NOW 

  

I am not trying to be mean or pushy but come on you had proof. 

For all you know she is upping her "goal weight" to pacify you.  

  

get your head out of the sand and get your daughter soem help PLEASE before it is too late. 

  

From a mom who has been there. 

I think it is wonderful that so many people took away something valuable from the show, I as well thought it was very good and have high regard for Dr. Phil. I'll have to admit though that I was shocked to see the 3 women competing for implants. I thought it was embarrassing how they each were to describe their chest, trying to compete who's were the worst. I'm sorry but for the lady in the middle who said that she didn't even wanted to show her chest to her husband, now to me that doesn't sound good. If you can't show  what you look like to your husband, who's children you carried and breastfed, I would think that  would be very sad. 

I guess what I am upset about, having wanted implants myself once, is that what he should have asked is: Is it worth risking your life for? I know that only the best surgeons are chosen for the show, but there is always a risk when you are going through an operation like this, since I am sure that this procedure is not done with local anesthetics.I really think that this is the question people have to ask themselves. Is it worth going through a surgery that has no medical advantage? What if something were to happen, what would the kids be told: your mom died because she wanted breast implants?  

Also I can say today that I'm happy that if I should have girls when I decide too have children that they will look like me as they grow up, I can only imagine if my mom had, had it done, i would have been much more likely to have the procedure myself, because I would have thought it to be more important than it is.  

I just can't believe that Dr. Phil show for a moment turned into "The price is right"  

I have a four year old  son who has female friends. I am so proud of him because He tells them that they are beautiful and he is proud of them.  We found an old picture of me recently when I was younger thinner and had make up on. I asked him which one did he think was prettier me in the picture or my now. "mommy you are soo pretty in the picture. I love you much better now you are just the most beutifullest mommy in the whole world."  

As if there is not enough hate in the world. Hate anger and all those discriptions come under one word FEAR and who teaches such emotions, society labeled educaters. who else 

What would you have felt? had he said, "I like the one in the picture best" 

I've always, always, battled with my weight....but in secret, and not because i'm overweight.  I'm 18, and 5'8" almost 5'9", and I'm now joining the air force...it was a terrifying experience to have to be unclothed in front of doctors so they could weigh me and tell me that i'm 22 lbs. under the "suggested minimum weight".  I have until June 2006 until I start boot camp and i've been told to gain weight.  I've been playing it off like it's no big deal but it's a major thing for me.  i can't picture myself gaining that much weight...not even my boyfriend...everyone knows me as the skinny minny sarah....and he says he would love me no matter what, but i feel like me being skinny is who i am, i mean, now i weigh 103 and i've never, never, weighed more than 104 in my whole entire life, so me, gaining like 15-22 lbs...for the air force is terrifying. so many people tell me that i'm too skinny and that i should gain weight and it annoys me because i'm happy and healthy and it's who i am, I wish people would stop stereotyping weight issues as always being someone whose either overweight or anorexic, there are people in between or borderline that have problems too, not just the extremists.

While watching the show, my heart went out to everyone that particiapated. I know how hard it is to battle feelings you have about the way that you look, and it's a very hard thing to overcome. When I was a teenager, I suffered from bulimia, and was obsessed w/ staying thin. Both of my parents were over weight, and they had even joked that I would also be over weight as an adult. That really stuck in my mind, and it was only a control issue for me! I thank god that I was able to get help and overcome it, and I pray that these people, and everyone else out that that suffers from things like this, will win their battle as well. I want to Thank Dr.Phil for making this an awareness. Sometimes parents say and do things around their children, and their children pick up on it, and start doing it themselves. In these cases, it can be very Dangerous, so Thank you Dr.Phil.

I am new to the Dr Phil message board and saw your comment about being skinny.  I just wanted to let you know that I know how you feel and hate being asked all the time if I am ill or not eating.  I wish Dr Phil did shows on people like us so that he could see the other side of the spectrum.  I am a 37 5'4" and weigh about 102 pounds so if you have a high metabolism you will always be skinny.  I am glad you finally accepted being skinny and just wanted to let you know that there are people out there just like you.  I think we have to take it as a compliment now that people want to be like us and are just jealous of our figures. Take care Jackie

I saw this show when I woke up in the middle of the night because I was so hungry and my tv had been left on while I was trying to fall alseep. I saw myself in Irene, the girl who lost 80 lbs but was still not happy with herself, and I felt compelled to speak out. I'm 23 years old, and have developed an eating disorder after starting out as an overweight girl who wanted to loose weight. I've lost about 70 lbs, going from a size 14 to a size 0. I was and still am to a lage degree what Irene described as being "a fat girl stuck in a skinny person's body." I became obsessed with loosing weight, counting calories, and trying to get smaller. Eventually I admitted my probem and have been going to therapy for my eating disorder for about 6 months. I still struggle every day, and my recovery is still a work in progress (as noted by the fact that i was woken up by my hunger). I've learned a lot of things about myself and my body over the course of my recovery but there are also some basic things that i have learned: 

IT'S NOT ABOUT A NUMBER - no matter how low my weight was or how small my clothing size was (i have to shop in the little girl section to find clothes that fit), it was never low enough 

THE BOTTOM LINE IS BEING HEALTHY AND DOING WHAT'S BEST FOR YOU  

  

For those of you who think that a person you know has a problem with an eating disorder, don't be afraid to reach out to them. It's hard to know what to do in those situations, but if you go to the person with gental, loving concern they are more likely to recieve your concern. In my experience I had two basic responces, neither of which were very helpful for me. First, people would tell me to eat. They would tell me that my body needed fuel and that I needed to eat more. I didn't need to be told that, I already knew that. I responded by continuing to retreat and getting more restrictive with my eating. On the other end, people ignored me and my problem because they dind't know how to handle it. My mom stopped calling me because it hurt her so much to talk to me, and friends just didn't say anything about my problem. In the midst of my most difficult time, a responce of being ignored only confirmed my ideas that I was not worthy of people caring about me. I didn't understand how hard it was for them to deal with the situation, and thought that they simply did not care.  

One of my biggest turning points was when a person who was very close to mean broke down to me and told me how much my weight loss was scaring him. I'd never seen him cry so much or show so much concern for anyone. His concern was followed by a promise to help me along the way and to do whatever he needed to do to support my recovery. He has followed through with this promise in little (but very big ways), like holding my hand and sitting with me while I ate food that I was having a hard time choosing to eat. He stood by me when I approached my family about my problem and broke the cycle of silence. Now i have a great support system that encourages me and who I know love me no matter what size I am or how much I weigh.  

  

Hopefully some of this will be helpful to some of you. 

  

when you don't even understand why in the world you hate yourself so much........ but you loook in the mirror wanting to throw somethng at your reflection and scream i hate you....... to looks in the mirror so much of the time brings so much anger to you toward yourself.... nothing you do iis ever good enough atleast for you and when you see your reflection what you see is not good enough..... you think that's disqusting or maybe just feel disqussting..... i don't know but well yeah............  i wish i would have seen this before....... i missed this show...... wish i would have seen it...........  what about the things we do to ourselves when we hate ourselves.........