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Created on : Friday, September 02, 2005, 11:04:09 am
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Imagine having an overwhelming, irrational fear that dominates your day-to-day life. Monica is petrified of leaving her house and being separated from her husband, who actually quit his job to stay home with her. For Michelle, it's small pieces of paper that leave her physically ill, while Pam is so terrified of birds that she'll only leave the house at night. Find out what Carey is deathly afraid of and if it even prevented her from getting on the plane to come see Dr. Phil! How can these guests get on with their lives and learn to control their phobias? Share your stories and talk about the show here.

 

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September 5, 2005, 11:50 am CDT

Emetophobia

I am 30 years old, and couldn't believe my eyes and ears when I heard Carey describe her anxiety.  I thought I was the only one that suffered from the fear of throwing up.  However, when I am safe at home, I feel that throwing up "gets rid of" my anxiety and stress.  I refuse to eat when I have to fly or when I am going to be in a place that doesn't have a bathroom.  This makes me feel trapped like I have nowhere to go, which makes my panic attacks worse.  I had a terrible panic attack on a bus in Disney World, and I thought I was going to lose it and throw up.  I can't even get on a bus anymore because I am afraid I will get sick and people will look at me.  Since then, my anxiety and depression have consumed my life.  Last November, I was in Las Vegas, and everything was going fine inside the New York, New York casino until I started to feel sick from something I ate.  I went to the bathroom, and literally could not leave the stall because I felt like I would throw up.  I didn't want to throw up and have everyone hear me, but I also didn't want to leave the bathroom, and then throw up in the casino.  I was having one of the worst panic attacks of my life.  On top of all of this, maintanence was closing the bathroom, so I had to leave.  I made a mad dash out of the casino and into the MGM Grand, where I was staying.  As soon as I got to my room, I had to throw up.  This phobia to this day still makes my decisions for me.  I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. 
 
September 5, 2005, 1:26 pm CDT

My Heart goes out....

I have suffered from Agoraphobia and understand the pain, shame and isolation you feel! I did not leave my house for over a year when I was 14 years old and then through medication and therapy was able to start getting out. However, when I did go out, I had to have a plan. I had to know exactly where i was going, how I would get there, how long I'd be there, and that I could leave if and when I needed to. I lost many jobs and friends over this condition. I also lost my self esteem and my first husband due to this condition. I had another "relapse" when I was 25 and married to my second husband and did not leave my home for over 9 months. Then my wonderful husband bought me tapes from the Midwest Center for Anxiety and Depression and put me in therapy. The therapy didn't work but the program from the Midwest Center did.  

I am now employed and have been with the same company for 2 years.... which is a milestone for me! I am also expecting my first baby and get out of the house a lot! I still have panicky feeling at times when I go out, but I use the coping skills I learned from the tapes my husband bought me and I get through it! 

Good luck to Monica and everyone else suffering through this!!!!  

 
September 5, 2005, 1:30 pm CDT

Phobias of Statues

Does anyone out there havae a phobia of Statues?  It is awful and can not find anything on the internet.  I will be dring down a street and see a statue and actually have to look down, not very safe .  Put my hand over my eyes and look through a crack in my fingers to drive
 
September 5, 2005, 1:49 pm CDT

Some suggestions

Here are some suggestions for anyone suffering from panic, anxiety or agoraphobia........ 

When you start to feel like a panic attack is coming or you are losing control do these 6 things. I wrote my on an index card and keep it in my purse. 

  

1. Accept- float don't fight. Don't run or leave.  

2. Permission- I know what this is... it won't actually hurt me. 

3. Breathe- Inhale for 2 seconds, exhale for 4 seconds 

4. Change inner dialogue- Stop saying "oh my god, I'm losing control" and have positive, comforting dialogue..... " I am alright.... this will pass" "I am in control" 

5. Distract- Do something.... mental or physical for a few minutes. 

6. Let it pass- it will always pass!!!! I promise! 

  

Don't forget.... It's ok to be anxious. Tell yourself.....You're ok. Body symptoms are uncomfortable, but pose no real danger. And YOU are your safe place. You are strong, courageous and capable.  

  

If you tell yourself something enough, you believe it.... believe in yourself!!! 

 
September 5, 2005, 1:53 pm CDT

Statue Phobia

Quote From: anitacrich

Does anyone out there havae a phobia of Statues?  It is awful and can not find anything on the internet.  I will be dring down a street and see a statue and actually have to look down, not very safe .  Put my hand over my eyes and look through a crack in my fingers to drive
I also would love to go to Washington...but there is no way!!! I can look at pictures, not the real thing.  Anita
 
September 5, 2005, 2:17 pm CDT

Healing Emetophobia

Quote From: rachele1

I am 30 years old, and couldn't believe my eyes and ears when I heard Carey describe her anxiety.  I thought I was the only one that suffered from the fear of throwing up.  However, when I am safe at home, I feel that throwing up "gets rid of" my anxiety and stress.  I refuse to eat when I have to fly or when I am going to be in a place that doesn't have a bathroom.  This makes me feel trapped like I have nowhere to go, which makes my panic attacks worse.  I had a terrible panic attack on a bus in Disney World, and I thought I was going to lose it and throw up.  I can't even get on a bus anymore because I am afraid I will get sick and people will look at me.  Since then, my anxiety and depression have consumed my life.  Last November, I was in Las Vegas, and everything was going fine inside the New York, New York casino until I started to feel sick from something I ate.  I went to the bathroom, and literally could not leave the stall because I felt like I would throw up.  I didn't want to throw up and have everyone hear me, but I also didn't want to leave the bathroom, and then throw up in the casino.  I was having one of the worst panic attacks of my life.  On top of all of this, maintanence was closing the bathroom, so I had to leave.  I made a mad dash out of the casino and into the MGM Grand, where I was staying.  As soon as I got to my room, I had to throw up.  This phobia to this day still makes my decisions for me.  I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. 

It is possible to heal this phobia.   I had a crippling case of it for 20 years.   Started age 12.   It ruined my life.    I was terrified what other people would think when I threw up.   I starved, and my empty stomach hurt so bad.   I could have died, I was emaciated.   This is a dangerous condition. 

The way to attack this condition is to start having small successes in yr life.    Help yr children to have successes in school.   This reflects on you.   Take classes via distance learning, TV.   Get a degree, maybe in accounting.   Keep empowering yourself.   Also, study the investment world.   Invest a little money.   Learn how it grows.   Pretty soon, you will feel strong in yourself.   Do aerobics daily, and do cardio.   Tire yourself out physically.   You will start healing.   Good luck!   You can do it. 

 
September 5, 2005, 3:17 pm CDT

A fellow emetophobe from Canada

Quote From: paula1267

I'm a 37 yr. old female who's lived with this same phobia pretty much my entire life and i'm not sure what triggered it. I'm sure most people hate vomiting but what makes it that we are so deathly afraid of it??? I literally runs my life! It definitely keeps me from living (what i feel is) a normal life. I have passed on many vacation trips due to it...sadly, i will not have children because of it, for fear of morning sickness, let alone the fact that small children vomit quite frequently, and what kind of mother would i be when i would want to run away when the poor child gets sick? :-( I even become fearful of going to church now because once a poor man suffered what i believe was a heart attack and started vomiting and eventually was taken away by ambulance. That event replays in my mind each time in church and at times it brings on horrible anxiety attacks to the point where i want to just run out of there, but the thought of people seeing me leave brings on another fear, that of embarrassing myself. So i can surely relate to your situation, hunny!! I feel too, like certain therapies that cure most phobics, just could not cure one like ours! Such as the desensitization terapy...what do they think they're going to do...make us vomit until we're desensitized??? I THINK NOT!! It's a bummer that you and I, along with others who share our specific phobia cannot get together whenever we want to, although it's sure comforting to know we are not alone in this. May God bless you, and may He one day grant us a miracle, which is freedom of this paralyzing fear!!

I too understand what living with emetophobia is like.  I am a 28 year old emetophobe wo has lived in fear every single solitary day for the last 22 years of my life with my anxiety at its worst for the last 2 years.  Like the rest of us, I am embarrased to share this with people unless absolutely necessary and I was thrilled to know that I am not alone.  I see myself as a "freak" and as "crazy" and I know only too well how irrational this phobia is.  I am a junior high teacher and have to be a teacher at this level because I feel that my students have enough of an understanding of their bodies to leave the room if they are sick.  I love my job, but now I even fear field trips with my students because I had a student get motion sick on a bus last year.  I identify with Carey completely because I just returned from my honeymoon to Europe for three weeks on which I thought about people being sick on the plane the whole time(of course it never happened!).  I am tired of living like this and I won't take it anymore.  I have begun to seek help and have been going to a cognitive behavioural therapist since January.  I don't notice any major changes yet because of course because it takes a long time to unravel 22 years of avoidance behaviours, but I am learning to look at the positives in a perceived "threatening" situation, to reduce the anticipation of worrying that someone will throw up that causes 97% percent of my anxiety (think about it, how many times do we worry and how many times is it actually warranted?) and to reinforce myself for the chances I do take.  For example, I did get on the plane for my honeymoon, I did survive my student getting sick on the bus and this summer, I was able to teach summer school to 6 and 7 year olds for a month (this was a very threatening situation for me), and most recently I started some exposure therapy; that is, I have been able to look at some pictures of people actually throwing up and have been able to keep my anxiety level down.  This phobia is all about the fear of not being in control for me and I'm hoping that one day soon I will be in control of my anxiety and will be able to cope.  I don't expect miracles, just a chance at a normal life.  It would be nice to think "Ew, gross!" and not "Danger!  Danger!  Danger!"  when someone gets sick. 

  

Hang in there all of you, I'm trying! 

  

  

M. 

 
September 5, 2005, 3:26 pm CDT

Agoraphobia

I was elated to see Dr. Phil has finally done a show on phobias, specifically the one I suffer from - Agoraphobia, however I will be even happier when I see the woman who was profiled come on the show for her update.  Although I have a "mild" case of this phobia, it has completly altered my life.  I handle the limitations with daily exercise and avoidance of stimulants such as caffeine and sugar and take a Vitamin B complex vitamin daily.  I am able to now go shopping and walk for long periods but only in the company of someone else.  My former way of life was one of total independence whereas now it's dependence on family and friends.  After watching today's show I am making tommorow my first day into my journey of taking it alone.  The thoughts we have as agoraphobics dictate how our body feels so I now know with repetition of relaxation and positive thinking this phobia can be eliminated from my life.  Anxiety/panic attacks are uncomfortable and pretty scary at times but soothing to know that this condition can be a temporary one.   

  

Tammy, 

Canada 

 
September 5, 2005, 3:28 pm CDT

ridiculous

I am absolutely disgusted to hear that that lady is on disability and welfare because of this phobia of not being able to go outside.  It is absolutely ridiculous.  If she was living in another country where other people wouldnt baby her, and support this stupid reason for attention. 

  

I think the rest of these people have phobias because they can.  They have nothing better to do.  If they were busy with something else, they wouldnt have time to make up these ridiculous phobias. 

 
September 5, 2005, 3:31 pm CDT

fear of birds

The woman who was afraid of birds. she said her brother use to chase her around the house with a stuffed bird . Maybe Dr Phil should have gotten her brother on the show to ask him what his issues are? why he felt the need to terrify his sister ? did he feel powerless in the family , did scaring his sister make him feel bigger than her ? where were the parents when this was going on ? The parents should have sat him down and had a chat with him.  Seems to me that the brother is the one with some deeper issues. Does he have any idea what he did to his sister ?  

 
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