Topic : 05/30 Pretty/Ugly

My entire life my father made a point of telling me that my weight was a eyesore.  My mother told me that my clothes were a mess(and always telling me not to judge a book by its cover).   My co-workers, family  and friends always insisted I put make-up on because I just was not presentable enough for society.  They loved me just the way I was I just needed something to Boost my beauty when I was in the REAL WORLD?!.     I used to believe this and give into all the drama along with it, I hated to look in the mirror and I never really looked at myself only the parts of myself I was actually covering up. 

Now I am older and before my Lovely Mother died she accepted me and even my tattoos,  my now teen aged children, love me no matter what I look like, and my husband appreciates  that I can rise out of bed every day and share another day with him.  

 I can look in the mirror and say that I Love myself,  (even though I know that out in the "Real World" some one is gonna look at my body, clothes, and tattoos and judge me), because I know that I am a child of God, and I know that he made a wide variety of us for a reason.   

I am just saddened that our society has forgotten that.   

And  that  this USA I live in has chosen to Represent  such superficial beauty, over God given beauty.  We as a society have gotten caught up in the glamour of  a plastic world we see on t.v. and in magazines and it is amazing to me that more people haven't realized that the "REAL WORLD" is the flesh and Blood people we brush up against everyday.   

Those people we would have to rely on in a crisis.   

Those beautiful people, who,  if we all took,  all our possesions away, and stripped down to nothing we would all be the same.  

Dr Phil  

I am a mother of one child and i love my child more the my life it self  

so i hope you understand how mad this so called mother made me  

she is the kind of person that don't need a child at all and for her to say thing to her little girl  

the way she has its i just cant understand that .. 

but i do want to say this i have always been told god can take away  

what you love most to show you that he is boss  

i just hope this Lady's child don't have to pay the price for what she has done  

and what i want to know more then anything is how can you talk or treat your on child like this  

your child is for you to love and you take care and this lady don't know how to do one or the other  

and if she don't love this child the way she is there are people out here that would people like me  

i just pray that what she has done has not done damage for the rest of that child's life  

Dr Phil please please help that child understand that she is fine just the way she is  

After seeing the show this morning all I could do was just thank God for my 9 year old son!  He is a child that is taught to love and respect everyone, no matter how they look.  My son has the biggest heart I have ever seen a child have.  He is very sensitive to others and their needs.  This is a child who 9 1/2 times out of 10 befriends children that aren't the most attractive, that don't come from very good families, or that don't live in the finest homes or dress in designer clothes.  My husband is a doctor, I am a stay-at-home mom of 3.  My 9 year old, my 3 year old son, and my 19 month old daughter.  We DO live in the nicer neighborhood, we DO have the nicer cars, we DO have the nicer clothes.  We don't care about those things.  I care that my children are growing up in a horrible world filled with hate and disgust but yet they are taught to love and respect others and their feelings.  The reason my son befriends the children that he does is because they are the nicer ones.  They seem to also care for others and their feelings.  Those are the children I hope my children keep as friends throughout their lives.  I pray that this "ugly" world doesn't turn their hearts bitter and that they know who their "true" friends are always.  I welcome any comments. 

    I had my own unplanned opportunity to experience the difference  that appearance can make in the way people treat individuals, AND how that changes the way that person feels about herself.  Many years ago I had to fly to a different city the day after I had an injury to both knees.  I pulled something in my knees, and in spite of ice packs all night, the next day I could barely walk.   

    I was young, nice looking, wt/ht appropriate, but my manner of walking with the injury reminded me of a classmate I remembered who had Cerebral Palsy and who heavy braces up to her hips.  The stares, and then the looking away was so new to me.  I KNEW  in a few days my knees would be ok, but after about an hour or so of that reaction, I started FEELING totally different about myself.  I started feeling like a crippled person who would always be that way.   

   It wasn't fun to feel all that, but it helped me a lot.  When I see someone who is different, disfigured, etc.  I make it a point to not avoid eye contact, and smile, just as I would to anyone else.   

    Now if it were someone who was creepy-looking like Jay was in his experiment, I don't think I would do that.  As a woman, I don't encourage creepy-looking men.