Quote From: tyredmomI am 36 years old and for the past 2 or 3 years, I have felt (and verified in the mirror) ugly, Ugly, UGLY. I don't know why I cannot come to grips with this reality. I hate walking out of the house. Some Sundays I cannot even bring myself to go to Church and we live right next door! I have to take and pick up my first-grader from school everyday and that's painful enuf. In High School, I was pretty but average and always admired / a little jealous of the very pretty girls. I used my sense of humor to compensate for my lack of cover-girl looks.
In my 20's, I made sure I was never an ounce over 110 lbs. at 5'5", forever tan and always wearing designer lables (even to bed). Now, in my 30's, I am married with 2 little darlings and my life isn't anything like I wanted 10 years ago but I can even handle that type of disappointment. What I CANNOT handle is spending 2 hours trying to look good just to go out and get the mail, emerging from the bathroom looking no better (sometimes worse) than before I went in. I began gaining weight when I met my husband (he's overweight but men don't seem to care or even notice things about themselves) and since I was already 2 sizes above the norm, I got pregnant, actually hoping the baby would use up my excess fat and I'd look like I did after the first baby 5 years earlier! Funny, huh?
I am now 5'4" (could I have really shrunk an inch already?) and 135 lbs. on a GOOD day. I HATE my belly fat (I appeared 6 months pregnant when I looked at my silhouette on the bedroom wall last night), fat neck, double chin, and it certainly doesn't help matters that I am EXHAUSTED everyday. I'm ugly and I know it. It gets verified averytime I have to do business in person, outside of my home.
People used to smile, flirt, go out of their way to assist me. Now I'm shrugged off as any other fat mommy toting a 1-year old and 6-year old to the store. I also do not have the funds to wear the same brands of clothes I adored in my 20's. I feel awful inside and try to talk myself out of it but it really is true that looks matter. I only FEEL good when I LOOK good. Sigh!
I feel for everyone out there in this and even bigger boats (no pun intended). I've also done my own "investigative shopping" and experienced how the cutesy, pretty young things treat me like CRAP but the more "bulgy" and / or older cashiers, sales reps and wait-staff treat me more like a fellow human being.
Sweetheart, it's gotta be in your head! I'm 5'1 and 135 is my target weight. You've got three inches on me. I would be so excited to have your height and your weight. I feel heavy for my size. Weight is one of those things all women cry about, but I bet you're beautiful and look better than you did when you were 110! I actually enjoyed gaining because I have hips and breasts now. Whoohoo! :-)
(Original Air Date: 09/16/05) How important do you think looks really are? And, do you think attractive people get treated better in society? Dr. Phil's son, Jay, goes out in disguise to see if people really do judge a book by its cover. You won't believe the results, nor the response that surprised him the most! Plus, Debi favors her older daughter because she’s "beautiful" and treats her youngest like "dirt" because she's "fat and unattractive." Can Dr. Phil help her love both girls equally? And, Michelle only lets her daughter play with pretty kids on the playground because she equates beauty with success in life. Will she learn to re-evaluate her standards? Tell us your thoughts on today's show.
