Topic : 05/30 Pretty/Ugly

hey,  i just want to tell you that it does make you a bad mother it makes you know now that you will be able to help ur dauters...i think your like every other moms with mastakes...but i'm not saying what you did was right but it not for me to judge you. you have alread judged your self and the other mean comments. i  think you should learn from this! yes it's chesse...and everone may say this but it so easy to go on looks and do what everyone else is doing...we all do no matter if we admit it or not. i think reading the rest of the notes may help realize what you have done, but it not what you have done it's what your going to do! really don't just read this and blow it off..i have had my share of experance. but you have to ....and tell victoria i thick she beutiful...as to hunter ...but give victoria a huge hug from me. i think everything is going to be ok just keep doing what your doing it a huge improvment  

i have just finished a long ordeal with cancer and chemo, so in turn had lost my hair. i am very lucky that all the people i know and associate with treat me no differant than before. i have even had people i know tell me to just be me and not wear the wig. i have had the strangest looks and little comments like "remind me not to get my hair cut where she got hers cut". so i know how the people felt after they were made up. but i am very lucky to have such great friends. and am not wearing my wig anymore.  

I really cannot believe what I heard on todays show!!  I cannot even imagine where your first guest came from, and how she was brought up.  I literally wanted to vomit at the way she treated her daughters. 

I am 34 years old and have three daughters myself.  I grew up being "the chubby sister" and my sister was the "skinny sister"  although my parents never treated me badly for not being the perfect daughter.  I was just who God made me to be and although they did encourage both my sister and I to try new foods and eat healthy, we never were made to feel badly for who we were.  That came from all the kids at school and those that always said "you have such a pretty face".  I cannot tell you how many times in my life I heard that one! 

My husband and I are doing our very best to raise our girls with a positive self image and to know that we are all created different and we all have wonderful qualities about us.  Not everyone was born to be a size 2 with long blonde hair and blue eyes! 

Unfortunately, I think that the world is leaning toward embracing the fake and phony life style of those who believe that they are privledged with beauty.  Our country is so concerned with what the latest celebrity style is, or who lost weight, how much and how they did it instead of looking at the things that people do, like giving of their time, and their talents.  We are striving to raise our girls to love themselves and to love others, not for what they look like, but for who they are. In addition to that it is so important to help kids not to be selfish and think that they are better than anyone else.  We started a tradition when our oldest daughter was 5 of having "friend birthdays" where each guest is asked to not bring a gift, but if they so choose, we invite them to bring an item that my daughter is collecting for a worthy charity.  Just recently when my middle daughter turned 8 we collected items for a crisis pregnancy center in our county.  The kids brought items that might be good for babies, or their mothers.  Although parents find it strange, the kids really love it and enjoy knowing that they are giving generously what they can to those who need it.   

This whole idea of being pretty and being better is just disgusting.  I hope and pray that my girls never encounter that kind of hatred, or disgusting attitude in their lives although at the rate we are going, I don't believe that is possible. 

What happened to the good old saying that you can't judge a book by its cover, and it is what is on the inside that truly counts.  What are we doing to our future generations? 

I just finished watching today's show and feel overwhelmingly sad. I really hope Debi reads this message board . She truly needs help and needs to wake up. She needs to thank God everyday for her precious daughters. And she needs to be aware that true beauty is in the eye of the beholder. She may be pretty on the outside, but as soon as she opened  her mouth she  showed the entire country how truly ugly and incredibly ignorant she is.   

If she is really worried about what people think, then she ought to make sure she uses correct grammer!  What a low life. I pity both of her children. No wonder her husband left her!  

I am a thirty year old woman,  and at 6ft2 with a few pounds to lose, what I find most frustrating is people that feel they have to justify their friendship with me.  On more than one occasion, I have been introduced to someone by a "so called friend".  Immediatley following the intro comes the " but she's so cool".  Why on earth do people feel that they have to 'sell' me or justify their own insecurities of having a 'fat' friend???????