Topic : 05/30 Pretty/Ugly

I have to agree with all who said that Jay's approaching people and asking for a minute of their time was not a fair test.  If someone (anyone) approached me in a mall that way I would walk quickly the other way!  If you ever do this kind of experiment again I would also suggest that you ask for directions to a store or area.  Even if he looked like he did I would make an effort to answer his question.  However I do feel it isn't fair to send Jay out as himself because he is too recognizable, maybe this should be repeated with an unknown "nice looking" person who then dresses up as a "not so nice looking person".     

So let me know when you are coming to Denver and I will avoid all shopping malls!   

 i was truly amazed at the things this woman was saying about her daughter. i am a mother and i would never tell my daughter she was fat or ugly what was she thinking?? in my opinon she's the one who is ugly.. she should be ashamed of her self i think dr.phil was to nice to her i would have reamed into her. 

One day I counted up how old I was and I was almost 16. the last time I knew my age I was 7. I havnt had any birthday parties or any presants. now I an 35 and all I can feel from my childhood was emptyness and as an adult I still feel the same way.   

I was neglected but not to an extreme I got 5 pairs of pants and shirts a year plus a pair shoes to start school with. In the 5th grade I wish I would get clothes for christmas so I could be more presentable to my classmates. My dad was a proud man. he grew up in the great depression and fought in world war 2. He would never ask anyone for help or if he did get help, he gave what little he had in return. in the 80's helped my sisters friends would could not make it because of reaganomics. he was very kind but too way too proud.   

You can be great and be single I agree with that.  I was turning it on "her"  belief that people are better and have more advantages if they are beautiful. If she thinks she is so great then why hasn't she achieved everything she said she ought to have because she thinks she is beautiful.  According to her she should have it all.  - According to her why wasn't her life perfect.  She was married and if beauty is everything and gives you more advantages then why did she need to be divorced.  That was more my point.  I was single for a very long time and happy.  Nothing wrong with being single.  I apologize - I didn't mean it the way it came across.  I was focusing on what she kept spouting off about how beauty is everything.     

Furious in Illinois 

Beautiful people may have more advantages in our shallow world, but they certainly are not better than other people.  As a matter of fact, a good number of them have an undeserved sense of entitlement (as that poor excuse for a mother does) and I have seen "beautiful" people treat others shabbily.   The people who I respect are kind, caring, and have multiple interests (not focused solely on themselves).They are intelligent, posess a good sense of humor, enjoy doing thing and going places, are loyal, responsible, and are willing to put time and effort into earning things (unlike the pouting beauty queen that manipulates shallow people into giving her what she wants).   

I have also known some very wonderful beautiful people in my lifetime, including a couple  of my closest friends, but I would swiftly kick anyone to the curb who  behaved as if  she was better and more entitled based solely on looks. 

I am one of those 'ugly' people, and yes we are treated differently.   Jay is one of the lucky ones.  He got to take off the make-up and things went back to normal for him.   The rest of us don't get to take off the make up and costumes.   Every standard society holds in high regard, I am lacking.  I have no breast's, crooked teeth,  big feet,  a curve in my spine,  and I am not white.  Lets see thats five strikes against me before I even walk out the door.   Why was I even born.  I think its a cruel joke to have to exist in this world.  I've had people bark at me when  out walking with my son, I walk in to stores and don't  waited on.   Most of the time I don't bother fixing myself up because it's like, "whats the point",  It doesn't matter what I think or feel about my self,  because its the rest of the world that says what goes.  Going out in public is extremely painfull.   I hate this world, I hate this life, suicide is constantly on my mind.   I hate my self so much.   I invested in braces for my teeth, but theres nothing I can do for my breasts'.  I don't have the finances for a total make over.   I was told that men need breast.   I lack everything that a women should have.  Some day I will free myself of this pain, someday some how....right now I am just waithing for my boys to grow up, cause I can't leave them now....  so for now its just one painfull day at a time.