Topic : 05/30 Pretty/Ugly

The mother on the show today should have her child pulled from her home for awhile and see what it is like not to have that child in her life. Perhaps she would realize just how much she really love her daughter. It is a sad thing to think she truly cannot love her own child. I agree with Dr, Phil that she is damaging both her daughters emotionally. 

The mother that wanted only beautiful children in her child's life is robbing that child of a total experience of life. 

Myself. I am not one of the beautiful people of the world. I have been treated differently in my life. I saw it long ago in school. I did not let it stop me from doing what I want to do. I have an outgoing personality and say and do what I want without worrying what people think. (just ask some of my friends). My belief is if it harms none and makes me happy then go for it! I am disabled now and had to change my lifestyle a bit, but I go on, I enjoy life and live for today, that is all I have. 

Hi everybody and Dr Phil: 

I have been going to apply for jobs and interview, but no jobs.  It look today companies or stores hire just the pretty or somebody that fit with their company.  I have one lazy eye and I think when I got to interviews they (company) look at me and automatic trash or throw my resume in trash.  After working for the US Army as a Transportation Specialist helping customers on the phone and co-workers right after 9/11 two weeks i was laidoff and also I have to train some contractors that replace me. This was 4 years ago and I am still getting treat like nobody. I want to get back to working field and get my own place.  Like Dr Phil say the people that care should be there, but most those people are dead.  My parents and older brother and younger brother keep telling me someday somebody will hire you don't give up.  So far I have not give and still apply everywhere, hope somebody will hire me soon.  It feels like it eatting me inside. If anybody out there have a connection in the north of Orlando a small place called Eustis, FL or even working from home(wish I don't have) I'll appreciated. 

Regards, 

Paul C.

Miami, FL 

DR.PHIL!!! What were you thinking?!?! I would not have let up until that these Superficial "Mothers" were in tears!!! You were wayyyyy to easy on these women.. (Using any respectable term for them makes me cringe!!)  I would have consiered this along the same lines of the episode you had where the wife beats her alcoholic husband....you said, "I Will Not subject these children to this any longer!" ... Same Quote Fits Perfect on this..... Especially for the first "mother"!!!! I am completley baffled at how you handled this first "mom". Speachless Dr. Phil .... I'm totally speachless. 

It hurts me so much to see parents loving their children based on their looks.  I do have a beautiful two year old daughter, but I can't imagine loving her any less if she were ugly.  I don't love her for the way she looks--I love her b/c...well...I'm her mom and b/c I see her value as a beautiful human being...on the inside.  I don't think that's any sort of "super mom" quality either--thankfully I don't know any other moms who base their love for their children on their looks.   

I know this is really, really petty, but as an English lit instructor at a university, I just want to say that the mom who loved her "pretty" daughter more than her "ugly" one had rather wretched grammar, and that was rather ugly to me.   

The mother of Victoria my think she is pretty but what she is doing to her daughter makes her the most horrid, monsterous, and hidious person I ever saw.  I am so glad that Dr. Phil did ease up on her.  I can't believe that a mother could do that to her own child, it sickens me.  Children are such a precious gift and they should be treated that way.   

Please Dr. Phil tell Victoria from me she is a beautiful little lady. 

I feel for Victoria, not only b/c she has to live with a "mother" / abuser (whatever you want to refer to her as) like that, but b/c of her Vitiligo.  I developed it more than 25 years ago...it's a hard life to live.  I was fortunate to have a wonderful family that encouraged me to go out in the world and do things, to lift my spirits and self esteem.  I also was surrounded by protective friends.  I can't imagine living with Vitiligo and not having a soft place to land.  When you have this disease, the torment you create for yourself is crippling enough - then compound that by what you might face in the world and a mother that treats you like a non-human... 

If someone knows this family, if the family is reading these posts, or Dr. Phil staff...pairing up Victoria with another child her age with Vitiligo via a pen pal system is a good way to get another person in her corner.  To find a pen pal - contact: 

The National Vitiligo Foundation 

http://www.nvfi.org/index.shtml 

or 

Children's Hope & Dream Wish Foundation 

info@chdfdover.org 

Victoria's mother needs to spend a day with the lady who was on Oprah who had been severaly burned in a car wreck caused by a drunk driver. Then....... she needs that child removed from her cruel clutches!!! And she should not get her back until she has had parenting classes and proves that she deserves the custody and affection of that precious child!