Topic : 09/19 "Afraid of My Mom"

Dr. Phil,  

I was so angry watching this show today.  What right does she have to act like this?????   She acts like everything she does is okay and that this is normal......HELLO!!!!!!  Her kids are scared to death of her.... what a world-class mother........ 

I do not have kids and fortunately had a really loving family growing up, and do not know what they are going through, but someone needs to send this crazy woman to boot camp or something to get control of her, and she needs to have those kids taken away from her. And as for her husband he needs to get out, with the kids.  He is the only chance to save these young innocent children.  This woman is a mean, evil-hearted person who does not want help, just wants to be a bully.  She will get what is coming to her in her time, but for now I hope that you can help her before it is too late. 

-s 

Are you the angry one? There is NO excuse for that kind of anger being vented on kids. Sorry, but there just is not. If you're the angry one & you have kids, are you mistreating them? If so, GET HELP! Michelle has NO right to do that to those kids. There are NO children that should have to go through that! EVER! If you're angry like that, find a way to get help! PLEASE! That's not a "normal" way to live. I know there's no real normal, but you know what I mean. No one should be that angry. If they are, they desperately need to find a way to get some help. Were you abused? Were you badly treated? You sound like you need therapy if you honestly feel more sorry for the mother than you do those innocent little girls. God help you!  

If you're living with someone who has that kind of anger, report it! Tell someone! I'm now quite afraid that you're angry & you have children. And I'm scared to death for your kids! This anger is NOT right! Yes, Michelle needs help. Perhaps you do too...either to get over the anger or to get AWAY from the one with this anger. Which one are you? Are you the angry one? Or are you being abused? Please get help either way!  

I don't believe there is anyone who is perfect & in reality we've all done things that aren't right & without maybe even realizing it hurt someone.  But when we have that (as Oprah calls it) light bulb moment & we "realize" that's when it's really up to us to make a choice.  Frankly I believe "seeing it" & admitting it is the first step because then you know you have to do something & so you've already begun to "own it".   

I remember years ago my husband & I had made one of those steps up to a new house.  It was so much BIGGER than my prvious house & I wanted it to of course look "just perfect" but it was a real job with twin boys who were 3 yrs. old.  My sons were well behaved for the most part & I never went anywhere were I didn't get compliments on how well they behaved & listened so this wasn't a problem but of course as kids will do they made messes etc.  In the new house it was so hard to keep up & I guess with out realizing it I was always yelling after the move.  I was so angry one afternoon because I'd been cleaning all day & they'd pulled toys out all over & etc. etc. & so I was telling them what I thought when my son said to me "Mommy why do you always yell at us now?  I love you & it makes me feel bad you're mad at us".   Well here he was this little guy pleading with me to explain to him in a way I would have prior to this house what was up & what was happening.  I told him "You know what?  I think your mom is just a little too serious about this house looking perfect & I think I'm just turning into a huge crab apple.  See even adults make mistakes & I'm really sorry honey.  Lets go play outside in the snow."  & it was a light bulb moment where I realized when I die I don't really care what is said about my house keeping, but I do care about what my kids & family will remember when they think of how I loved & treated them.  

See even us adults make mistakes & kids need to see that we do & what a *sincere* apology is & how we rectify our mistakes.  Good for you for taking the action you are.  You'll teach them so much more than you'll ever know.   

Dr. Phil, 

i am watching this on t.v. and my heart goes out to those babies.  She doesn't want to be a mother, all she wants is well who knows.  I was treated abuselivly as a child by my father, and now with my kids I try my hardest not to treat them the same way.  She is so angry, you are right she needs a break and needs help.  Those girls need to know what a normal life is all about.  The dad needs to grow some chest hair and step up to his angry wife.  You are right he needs to take those poor babies and show them so much needed love and care.  She makes me angry and I hope when and if we see her again on t.v.  she says she is sorry like she made her girls.  Please make sure for the girls own good they get out of that house. 

I just finished watching "AFRAID OF MY MOM"  I know this woman has serious problems but how can she think we would understand anything she is doing because of her past.  What a woman.  I do hope for those kids sake she gets help.  I can't wait for her to come back and see what happens. 

I was physically, mentally, emtionally, spiritually abused as a child.   She is just way out there and cannot get beyond herself.   She is very selfish and cruel.   She is doing more damage to those girls than she knows.   I mean what gives her the right to blame any one or any thing for her behaviour.   She cannot keep on using excuses for what she does.   I have kids that blame me for their problems, but they are not being true to themselves or anyone else by staying in the blame game.    I quit blaming years years ago.   It did not serve a purpose to blame others.   The only person I was hurting in the long run was me.    I am not saying I was perfect as a mother, wife or even a person when I was younger, or that I did not play the blame game to an extent.   But in the long run I did accept the fact that was then and what I was doing I was doing no one else.   This Michelle is just wrong and I hope she can get some help, but Dr. Phil I kind of have my doubts.   She wants to go on blaming so she does not have to be responsible.   She at least has the intelligence to know if she does not play the blame game, she will have to accept responsibility, and then she will feel guilt and she does not want that. 

Hello, 

A child should not be the victim of abuse, but sometimes there is a cause to the trauma.  With my situation, I am learning that the reasons for my trauma was due to actions and  reactions that took place before I was born.   That is why I said that someone has to break the cycle.   See, when you go to counseling, it is a learning and healing experience.  I found out so many things about my family that were kept secret and hidden from me until later years.  That is why I am hoping that Michelle will empower herself, seek out more resources and stop the abuse for herself and her family.  Everything is not black and white.