Quote From: dnsysloMaudie-
I can only say that our MILs are cut from the same mold. She threatens to call social services and report us as busive if we "cross her", which entails various sins, according to her. She has initiated a car chase with me, her son and our unborn child in the car, she lies to our kids and tells them she loves them much more than we do and at their age her reasoning of "i never punish you...blah bla blah" causes problems for them. She tells lies to my husband, knowing hell come home nad confront me and it will cause a fight. She cuts my kids off when they speak of their other grandparents, she holds things over our heads making it impossible to be grateful or thankful for anything because with every breath you are reminded you SHOULD BE.
I must admit its better now, my husband finally decided enough was enough, after she called me a W**** in a restaurant in front of a full house, and picked a huge fight. He told her on the phone later to go easy on my ID had a rough day. That was the last straw. I spent the night somewhere else. That was his wakeup call. ITs been better. There are still days and this message doesnt cover a drop in the bucket of what shes pulled, done and said, but I had to let you know you are not alone. I am praying she never actually makes the call to social services...they take kids first, ask questions later and she is under the mistaken notion that SS will just deposit the boys to her and they will be forever hers. She cant be convinced theyll wind up in a foster home until things are sorted out, if ever and that she will lose ALL of us, even after we get the kids back. You cant reason with the woman. Ive never met anyone so selfish, needy, short sighted and downright wicked. She tries to be a good person, but purely for the recognition. THere are ALWAYS ulterior motives with her. It may take months for them to be apparent to others, sometimes even me, but they are always there, and always just around the corner.
When I seen this showed I actually wished that my problems with my mother-in-law were so small. By no means am I trying to belittle thier issues, as I am sure they they cause huge problems for them.
I can totally relate to everything you are saying. 100%. When we left Florida my husband and I weren't married yet. I told him "Look, I am going home. You can come or you can stay." Luckily, he came. But I find as the years pass on he is more like his mother than I realized. Luckily, he realizes this too and works hard to try and make things right and peaceful at home.
My MIL has accused me of everything under the sun. Everything from cheating on him, to our first child together not really being his, and to be after her husband. ( my hubbys stepfather) She has even said that I had an affair with hubbys StepMOTHER!!!
What's sad, too is that hubby has 2 other sisters. The oldest child is put on a pedestal and can do no wrong. She actually DOES drugs during her pregnancies and has raised a 6 year old little girl who is 10 times worse then the ones on the show the other day. This is a little girl who refuses to go to school and whose parents argree...She's not gonna listen to a N**GG*R teacher!! Can you imagine!!!!!! MIL and the parents all think this is OK as well. In fact, they find it funny. The other sister's kids are treated just as poorly as mine because my MIL hates her husband and his family.
I am not keeping hubby away from his mother. I have told him he is free to call her and see her as he wishes. However, me and the kids will NEVER be a part of her life. As much as I love my husband, I will kick him to the curb before she is allowed to cause an additional problems for the kids whatsoever. Its just something I won't tolerate. Luckily, hubby has no interest in her.
When we moved down to FL from NY after my hubby got out of the Army, she had alot of really nasty things to say about me. I am 5'5" tall and was a size 3 at the time. She told everyone I had to be a Coke addict cuz there was no way I could be that tiny after having twins. Even though my twins were 3 years old then. She also said I was FAT. She actually encouraged my hubby to go out and sleep with as many women as he could instead of settling down with me. She said she'd rather him have 10 other kids with 10 other women then him be with me at all.
You are totally right about the ulterior motives. There is always something up her sleeve. No matter what she does or says there is always more to the story. I have learned to take every single thing she has ever said with a grain of saly. 9 times out of 10 its all lies or has been "adjusted" to make her look like the good person.
I have never met a more self-centered, manipulative, over-bearing, abolute queen of bitches in my life. I still suffer from serious self-esteem issues when it comes to her. When we moved down there I was very confident in who I was, I felt pretty, I dressed well, and was someone everyone liked. After being there less than 2 weeks all of that was taken away from me. I still struggle with who I am now and what I look like and I feel like I have to hide my true religion from everyone now so I won't be burned at the stake. It's been a toigh way of life. But no matter what, the sad thing is that until the day she dies, she will always be there causing problems for us and trying to break up our marriage.
(Original airdate: 09/21/05) Imagine that you've finally found your soul mate and are about to walk down the aisle, but there's one thing holding you back - the voice of your future mother-in-law! While Dr. Phil and Robin are excited about their soon-to-be daughter-in-law, not all parents are as lucky. Carla says that her future mother-in-law, Christine, hates her so much that she tried to run her over with a truck. Christine claims she is being pushed out of her son's life. Can Dr. Phil help them each see both side of the story? And, Donna insists that her daughter Nikki have a big church wedding, but Nikki's fiance, Tommy, wants to escape to Jamaica for their big day. Nikki is caught in the middle and trying to please both. Can you relate?
