Quote From: sierraz36
Miranda is a narcissist.
Narcissisism is a personality disorder that is extremely difficult to have a fufilling relationship with.
Narcissists cannot love you. They see other people as objects. Literally.
They do, say, and act any way they can to get whatever it is they want from you. When they stop getting it, they throw you away.
My heart is breaking for you.
All you want is your wife to love you, care for you, and share with you.
Miranda is incapable of seeing you as a person. Only as an object to serve her needs.
If Miranda had a washing machine that washed her clothes, she would keep it. It is doing what she wants.Washing her clothes. If the washing machine stopped working she would throw it out and get a new one.
You are a washing machine to her. When you ask for love, attention, affection, you are no longer doing what she wants. And she will disgard you. She won't even give it a second thought. Do you think she thinks about how the washing machine feels when it's broken?Thrown away? Nope. She just simply gets a new one.
You said on the show that Miranda told you about all the men who treated her SOOOO badly and never loved her. THAT was a HUGE red flag to me.
You also said she lies and lies and lies. Ever think maybe some of those men who treated her so badly, really did love her, and SHE was the one who discarded THEM? Maybe the men treating her badly WAS JUST ANOTHER LIE?
Loving a narcissist is a horrible lonely life. You do not matter. You needs are unimportant. Everything focuses only on them. And they never ever tell the truth. They spin lies so fast, and most of the time lies that don't make any sense at all..but that come at you so fast and furious, you start to question you own sanity. You love them, you want what they say to you to be true....it's a very hard situation to be in.
She was completely cold and evil to you on the show, and the only time she became upset was when she had to admit she said she was upset about sex before marriage, but she had slept with 40 men.....(????) She was upset for herself. Notice sleeping with 40 men and being upset about sex before marriage do not go together? it is illogical. But logic is not a concern of the narcissist.
She cried for herself.
Another HUGE RED FLAG was when she said she never told you about her past was because that is not who she is now...... Narcissists re-invent themselves regularly. They paint their own picture of who they think you need to see to be able to give them what they want. They have no grounding in reality. They make thier own fantasy world in which to live.
The woman you fell in love with never existed. She was only an illusion created to get from you what she wanted.
These are all very difficult things for you to read, I'm sure.
I'm sure your thinking this is not my Miranda, but I urge you to read more about narcissism, and see if others experiences are simular to yours.
Try this group: narcissistic personality disorder on msn groups. or google narcissistic personality disorder.
Please take care of yourself, and I wish you the best,
From someone who has been there,
Christine
I think she would be bordering on being a sociopath since she wants to bring a baby into to mix!!!! she is a selfish little girl who has no business being married. She married because he was the only fool to ask. The 40 others were "smart" enough to see her for what she really is.
(Original Airdate: 09/26/05) One in 12 couples call it quits within 24 months of tying the knot. Dr. Phil's guests haven't even been married a year, and they already want to pull off their wedding bands and end their marriage! Did they know each other well enough before they said "I do"? Shamika says she wants to be treated like a southern belle, but her husband, Marlon, says she needs to get off her pedestal. Is Shamika asking too much? Plus, Miranda and Donny say the honeymoon was over before their suitcases were unpacked. So why is Miranda desperate to get pregnant, and should they have gotten married in the first place? Tune in for what you need to consider before making a lifetime commitment. Share your thoughts here.
