Topic : 10/04 Ask Dr. Phil

PS... 

I would enjoy meeting your mom and looking at another woman EYE to EYE...I do get tired of LOOKING down to my friends and work mates and family...heheehhehe 

If she ever makes it to FL...have her email me to meet somewhere for a soda. 

Sincerely, 

Anne 

I really don't have any sympathy for that girl complaining that she is short and that she is so hard done by because she is short.  I am 6 feet 1 inch tall.  Does she not think that tall people have comments made towards them?!!  I never think I am ever that tall until someone makes a remark about how tall I am.  And trust me that happens on a daily basis.  I get asked if I play basketball?  and if I don't why not?  How is the weather up there?  As if it varies that much for a five foot tall person or a six foot tall person.  It was tough growing up being taller than the boys, sometimes even taller than your teacher.  I was wearing womens clothes and shoes when I was a teenager.  I was lucky enough to have a mother who is a beautiful seamstress and could make me a dress when I needed one.   

I have come to accept my height for what it is.  I have to live with the challenges that I can't shop in the same stores as my friends.  There is a petite section in every department store, clothing store and even boutiques fit small enough for petite people.  You don't see a tall section in them.  They don't carry tall pants or longer shirts.  If they do advertise tall it's not actually tall inseam it's usually an inch or two longer than average length.  I can't buy shoes where ever I want.  I have to buy mens running shoes because they don't make women's shoes to size 13, if they do it's very rare.  I have to spend extra money again if I actually want a pair of women's shoes and go to the specialty store.  The one thing that really bugged me about that girl is that I bet she has no trouble finding a guy.  Because guys love short girls.  The taller the guy the shorter they want their girl.  It doesn't matter how many "target rich environments"  I put myself I will not find a tall guy looking for a tall girl.  (Okay maybe I haven't accepted that part of my height yet) 

 So I found petite Melissa to be correct in one area, when you're short it IS difficult to find clothes. I'm the AVERAGE height for an American woman: 5'4". So why is it that pants with the length marked "average" (at some major retailers) don't fit ME. I'm considered "ankle." What? So, what they call an   "average"  person's pants don't come down to their ankles? My quest for correct fitting pants has vexed me for years. Of course, height isn't the only factor. Weight and body shape (I'm "hippy.") also play a part. However, who are all these super-tall people buying "average" and "long" pants? There are fewer women above the 5'5" mark than below.  And I'm NOT saying pants shouldn't be made for tall women. Jeez, to wear a mini skirt without looking ridiculous would be fab, but what I am trying to convey is that the fashion industry is severely out of touch with the market place--stock or even overstock pants for us "ankle" sized women. We're the true average.

And that's another thing...can we somehow please find a universal for pants sizing? Men have so easy! My dad's been a 32X32 all my life. I've run anywhere from an 8 to a 14 depending on who makes the clothes and what shop they're in and whatever other factors are involved. "oh try these on in a size bigger; they run small." What? How do clothes run small. You, the designer, don't you have the power to place the tag on the clothes as you see fit? Have the tag reflect THE ACTUAL SIZE of an ACTUAL woman. 

How Ridiculous!! I am a Big Beautiful Woman and I love it! I enjoy who I am. I was flabergasted at this woman's comments towards larger people. Who does she think she is? Aparently not Mrs. Perfect because if she was she wouldn't be so concerned with her height. I know everyone has insecurites but to point out that you may have it worse than someone else is ludacris. Dr. Phil I think that if you want to get a point across to this woman send her shopping with me. If she thinks it's hard finding clothes for a size zero I wish she could try finding clothes for a size 22. I am very into fashion but unfortunately stores don't cater to my size only a quite few and I'm lucky if they are trendy! I am only 22 years old. And in regards to the comment all us Overweight people need to do is stop eating, I don't know about you but I need food to survive. I am so glad to be who I am, big or small.  With that I have one last thing to say,  I have an idea the next time your looking for a place to live make sure your kitchen cabinents are on the floor!