Topic : 10/04 Ask Dr. Phil

Maybe the question should have been more like...Are you upset because overweight people CAN change, and you can't change your height? 

  

She sounds like she is just very upset over the fact that she has come against restrictions in her dream, and possibly not being taken seriously. 

  

Well, reality is that most people feel not taken seriously in a host of different areas, and most will also not be able to have their dreams come true. 

  

My advice? Suck it up and be happy and gratefull for all the blessings that you do have :) 

 The girl that was on with the "height problem" was way out of line. I can sympathize with her being short. I am 5 foot tall too. I am 23 years old and have been that height since 6th grade. It was hard growing up watching everyone grow taller than me, but I got over it. Height is nothing that you can change. You just have to accept it.

As for the weight thing. I am 200 pounds and 5 foot tall. I agree that my weight problem is my fault, but it's so hard to change it. I guess in her world, I would be the worst of all types of people. I am short AND fat. I really want to lose weight. I am getting married next summer and wish that I could drop 50 or so pounds before then, but I don't know if I have the willpower to do it. I can take being told that I need to lose weight, I know that better than anyone, but way she made her point about overweight people was not very tactful and actually it made her sound very ignorant.

I wish her well with her modeling. This is America and anything is possible.

I think Melissa had two issues going on...one of which is she has a problem with being short and not being able to do anything about it. 

  

The second is her issue with people being rewarded for losing weight.  I think she got nervous and didn't explain her point of view with accuracy.  I think that she doesn't like the fact that people who need to lose weight to be healthy are being rewarded for achieving their goals, instead of just having the fact that they are physically more healthy being their reward.  Why don't we reward people for overcoming alcoholism, or smoking, or any other habitual problem.  Being heavy may be a physical predisposition, but most of Dr. Phil's rewards have gone to people who have overcome the emotional problems associated with their overeating.  People who drink and smoke and do drugs have emotional problems associated with their addictions as well...how are they different from people who overeat and why aren't we rewarding them for overcoming their addictions like we do those people who are addicted to food to hide their emotional problems? 

  

Melissa, there's nothing you can do about your height.  Be happy that you're a beautiful & healthy woman! 

  

G from Kansas 

  

the mellisa #2 needs to get a clue, nobody cares about how tall she is, she needs to quick whinning over simple stuff. what it sound like to me was she just wanted to be on t.v and didn't have nothing to say and she is the one who thinks she is all that. lady get real. talk about the ozone or something else. i'm upset to have stayed at work just to hear her talk about nothing.

 Amen!  I have 2 Italian Greyhounds (another needy breed).  I will not leave my dogs overnight alone.  I don't want to be with someone who won't accept my dogs and at least tolerate (without teasing me too much) about how I treat them.  They are dogs, but I will not give them up for any relationship...the only exception would be my future kids.  A couple I know of have a newborn who is allergic to dogs....so they of course have to find another home for the ba...I mean....uh.....dogs. <grin>  But that is the only exception.

I'm now 4' 9-1/2" (having shrunk over the years from 4' 11-3/4").  Melissa needs to grow up (no pun intended)!  It's what's inside that counts, not how tall, how thin, how big, etc. one is.  Being "tall" is measured in qualities such as kindness, consideration, empathy, generosity, etc., etc.  Even though I've shrunk over the years (I'm now 63 years old), I feel very "tall" in life, and enjoy each day to the fullest.  I hope Melissa can find peace within herself and be happy with who she is, for she is unique, just as each of us is. 

  

Judi 

Sex is a gift for all married people to enjoy - even into the older years. God bless this couple who have had the courage to step forward and say they need some help. Many of the younger set may not realize that many of us "old people" grew up in an era where information about sex was not discussed and every sex act was dirty and only necessary for procreation. Working out sexual difficulties within the marriage and encouraging them to discuss sex and their likes/dislikes is vital to maintaining a marriage. Better they learn to explore and discuss options than just resorting to a divorce and then he goes his merry way. Give them some encouragement and realize that you may find yourself in the same situation some day. Vanilla is a wonderful flavor. But people get tired of vanilla all the time and so flavors like chocolate, raspberry, banana, etc. have become popular. "Vanilla sex" is great, but raspberry or chocolate is great too. Variety is the spice of life.

  

Hehehe... Kinda Funny!! 

You can train a dog 

Dogs understand what "no" means 

Dogs mean it when they kiss you 

You can force a dog to take a bath 

You are never suspicious of your dog's dreams 

Middle-aged dogs don't feel the need to abandon you for a younger owner 

Gorgeous dogs don't know they're gorgeous 

Dogs will also sit in the car for ages while you shop 

Dogs think you are a culinary genius 

Dogs obsess about you as much as you obsess about them 

Dogs never hog the remote control, and they never change channels when you leave the room 

Dogs miss you when you're gone 

Dogs feel guilt when they've done something wrong 

Dogs do not have problems expressing affection in public 

Dogs do not care whether you shave your legs 

Dogs are easy to buy for 

  

  

  

  

  

that's the same thing i said..........

 Excellent!!!  I'm going to have to remember this one. :)