Topic : 10/04 Ask Dr. Phil

Hi 

I am short and my boyfriend is 6'2, some people joke, but thats all it is. Sometimes it can be annoying, but sometimes you just have to lighten up. 

I do have to agree though about the size 0 issues.  I am also petit and have a LOT of trouble finding clothes!  I was looking for a suit to present my thesis, I had to go to the most expensive store to be able to find anything that fit! It is hard espically on a students budget! 

Ok so being short does have its disadvantages! I'm 5 feet nothing and maybe 90 lbs. As a school teacher (elementary) I constantly hear "Hey I'm almost as tall as you!" I also hear it from my 11 year old nephew. Finding clothes is difficult at best. Even petite sizes seem to be made for the jolly green giant! But I tell them Hey My fee reach the floor!! Most people are just joking around and that does get old. But there are some who can be rude or even mean about it! For these people I say this is the way God made me and if they don't like it they can take it up with Him! It can be frustrating but the way I see it is that I can shop in the girls dept and they are cheaper!  The only diet I'll ever go on is a see food diet I see food and eat it! Not many people can say that! 

You know its not really fair to bash on all sorts of other people just because your not happy with the fact that your short. And the whole modeling thing hey guess what get over it. its not easy to make it in the modeling world even if you are tall trust me I know Im 5'9 and work in the Chicago market thats why theres jobs and requirements for certain jobs why dont you find something that is more accepting and loving to short women and the such. Its like saying well why cant I be a doctor just because I cant get into med school... well sorry hun you dont have the req. for the job stick with what you can do 

I think that the short gal is focusing on the wrong issue. She is bitter because is short and can't be a model and doesn't like to be called cute and all that.  And mad as well for obese people getting rewards by Dr. Pil.  I can relate in some manner but I think she is far too bitter and really didn't get across her point.  Not sure what it really was but here is mine on being short....... 

..... Being short is a hinderance.  My pant loops get stuck on cabinet knobs, I can't reach most things, jeans are very difficult to find.. ( thank goodness for capri's as their length is good for me ! ) and I get knocked in the face by elbows, if I am in a crowd,  as well as a host of other problems.   

For me it isn't all of that.  It is the reality and nothing I can do about it.  And it IS annoying.  What I get angry at is the constant.. " Gosh you are SOOO short...  I thought I was short till I met you.  You make ME feel better cuz you are shorter ".  To Everyone out there...  that is just RUDE.  You would never..  I hope,  go up to a person with a big nose or heavy person and say... " I thought I was fat till I saw you..."  That is just mean.  It is equally NOT acceptable to do it to short people with the fallacy notion that it is ok beause we are supposedly more accepatable than an obese person. I had a gal walk up to me in a bar... seeking me out specifially to comment about how short I was and that her and her parents were looking at me and noticing it.  

Please,  anyone write me back and tell me that was ok to do...... 

What is worse is when I am made fun of in front of children, most of whom are getting taller than I am. That shows their children it is ok to make fun of people.  I am an adult at 43 and do not need to be insulted by 10 year olds that are being goaded on by their parents.   

I have begun to lose my patience for all of the above.  I gaurantee that if I were to fling a comment back to anyone else they would get mad and say I am too sensitive.  Or if I just went up to someone and made a comment on their drinking and beating their wife, or how fat they are or ugly I'd be called a b----.   

Those issues above in my opinion are the problems.  Not whether I can be a NFL linebacker. ( I'd rather be a wide reciever....hee hee )   People just need to stop being so tactless.   

I am not angry.  I am just asking for people to use a little tact and common sense.  Think about your children and how you want them to be treated and think about what you say to me.  Children learn this all from what they see.  And by the way..  I have no children and know that making fun of others in front of children is not good roll modeling. 

Short isn't the issue..... it is tact and human kindness for those that are different than the avg person...... 

What is wrong with this girl and her dogs.  How old is she?????  She is acting like a child and she definitely has issues with real relationships.  Why would this guy Ken put up with her crap for two years?  He seems like a level-headed, decent guy.  Don't get me wrong.  I love animals and grew 

up on a farm with lots of pets.......indoor and outdoor pets.  My animals are very important and are 

considered part of the family, in my circle of friends.  Of course, I put my pet's welfare first, but not 

to the exclusion of a social life or a significant other.  I would never get rid of my pets for anyone,  

however, I would do my absolute best to find a suitable compromise, if necessary.  Of course, I would also never get involved with someone, friend or relationship, who didn't at least like animals. 

I don't trust people who "hate" any animal.  We are all God's creatures and yes, there is a pecking order, yet we all need to respect all forms of life on this planet.  This girl needs to get a life....and some seriously counseling.