Topic : 10/04 Ask Dr. Phil

I agree with you about sexuality not being wrong, but some people think it is, so in my opinion, it's an opinion. For example, my mother grew up in a generation that thought sex was dirty. It is simply ingrained into her. Luckily for me and my husband, it wasn't passed on to me.  We have a wonderful relationship in all areas.   

Oh well, we all know about opinions don't we?! hehe  

Listen Melissa, you are being "yelled at" because you're so young and beautiful and you're a MODEL for goodness sakes. But, I understand your complaint because I've been there...sort of. 

When I was 20 something and 5'7 and only weighed 100 pounds and was a size zero myself, I made the same complaint. 'Almost.  

My complaint was that, poor me, had a hard time buying clothes because Gosh Darn it, they were all too BIG! To all of you out there who really did have things to complain about, I thank you for not ripping my little naiive head right off my size zero body. Really.  

Melissa, you're just too young and don't know how good you've got it. And you won't until you lose it, like I did. 

I agree with you about sexuality not being wrong, but some people think it is, so in my opinion, it's an opinion. For example, my mother grew up in a generation that thought sex was dirty. It is simply ingrained into her. Luckily for me and my husband, it wasn't passed on to me.  We have a wonderful relationship in all areas.   

Oh well, we all know about opinions don't we?! hehe  

No, I have never had to use a condom because I don't have relations when I am breaking out.  But, yes that would definitely work. If you have a man that truly loves you and trusts you and vice versa then you can feel comfortable telling him, "Honey, we can't right now or if we do we need to use a condom" and he will be okay with that.  Some of the webites over emphasize the symptoms and scare people to death!  A good vitamin supplement to take everyday is L-lysine.  Also, a treatment you can order over the internet is through www.fonoils.com.  It is a wonderful product!  There are no other ways to lower the risk other than not having relations or using a condom.  But, becoming aware of the what the symptoms are before you break out, ie.  pressure, tingling sensation, itching, just like with a fever blister, you can administer the medication earlier and may make the breakout less severe and end earlier.  There are also prescription medications.  I forget the names.  As the years go by your breakouts will become less frequent.  I only get it maybe 1-2 times a year now.  Some people don't get it at all anymore especially if they take the prescription meds.  I am okay though with once or twice a year so I just use the vitamins and fonoil products.   

Like I said, neither my husband, nor ex husband have this disease.  I also had a couple of boyfriends in college, they don't have it either.  The one's that I told were very non judgemental.  Of course I waited until I felt safe telling them and of course told them before relations. 

First, I can't believe someone would go on Dr. Phil and complain about being short and then putting down people who have lost weight??!!  Amazing how some people look nicely on the outside but once they open up their mouth..they are truly ugly.  Gimmie a break...no short models?  Ok right, Petite Sophisticate and stores that cater to shorter ladies have short models.  Sorry runway model you will not be...so just get over it!  There are plenty of clothes for smaller sized women...you just have to know where to look.  When I was in college I was a size 0 to a size 3 at 5'4"...I found plenty of clothes..professional and fun clothes as well.  I currently wear a size 5-7 now and a size 6 on my shoes...which many say, "ohh your feet are so small!"  Hey I think it's great, why would a small framed person such as myself want huge feet?  LOL  BTW..I have been accused of being cute and...I love it..but then again I am very comfortable with who I am and what I have. 

It's amazing to me that many people are so insecure with themselves that they need constant validation from others.  "Cute" is a compliment, bet she would be upset if someone called her "ugly"!  No reason to be rude about overweight people...some of those people have a genetic disposition or problem with their thyroid.   

Her deal of trying to create awareness really only created a deal of hate.  There's a way to deliver a message and that sure was not the way!