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Moms do everything from kissing scraped knees, to being taxi drivers to coaching soccer — all at the same time! Ginger says she is overwhelmed by all the cooking, cleaning, driving and disciplining she has to do for her five children. She says her husband doesn't pitch in because he thinks it's a woman's job. Next, Amy says that with three kids under the age of 6, her house is in utter chaos. Her husband, Jeremie, doesn't know how to help, so Dr. Phil sends in "The Mom Squad" to help Amy get her household in order. And, Lexi says the way her mom dresses embarrasses her, and she pleads with Dr. Phil to help. Learn how to organize your life and even enjoy some "Mom Time." Are you a stressed out mom? Tell us!

 

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October 5, 2005, 3:32 pm PDT

NEED HELP PUTTING TODDLER TO BAD!!

 I have a 21/2  girlband a 13months boy.   They are great kids! We have stablish a routine for our day hours.  The nap once a day and we have lots of play ground time and outies! The biggest issue so far have been bad time!  They share a room since he were 9 months old. And she has been move to a bad.  We did everything to keep her involved in the transsition. Bought the bad together.  Got Dora the Explorer sheets, matching pillows, etc.  She slept there for the first 2 nights and since than she moved into our bad. Once there she tosses and turns and besides loosing our privacy as a couple I can't sleep!  I spend the night between her kicks and out loud dreams and having to take care of the baby in the middle of the night.  Most nights on wakes the other up and it is a nightmare. I don;t have an extra bedroom PLEASE GIVE SUGGESTIONS. How should I put both in bad at the same time! What should I do that will make them sleep through the night? 
 
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October 5, 2005, 3:37 pm PDT

QUIT YOUR CRYING!!!

I get so sick of you women whinning about this topic! 

  

You don't like it? You should'nt have gotten married and had kids!! 

  

The man of the house is bringing home an income to feed the family, buy the cars, buy the clothes pay the bills, pay for college,  secure a future. 

  

Heres a news flash!!  You should'nt be spending 6-7 hours a day cleaning a house, if your house is that big I'd bet you've got an income to be able to hire a cleaning service to come twice a week. 

Floors don't need to be mopped twice a day, toilets and bathrooms can go 2 or 3 days between cleaning, kids can do chores and pickup their toys, if they don't throw them away they'll learn sooner or later. 

  

Bottom line, a lot of this cr@p is brought on by yourself. 

  

In parting, it absolutely disgusts me to see this crybaby Ginger whine about her family in a house fit for royalty with a husband that obviously makes a heck of an income and COMES HOME EVERY NIGHT! 

  

All the while I have friends in Iraq fighting for our country making maybey 15-20,000 a year with wives at home by themselves raising several children. 
 
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October 5, 2005, 3:40 pm PDT

Tired of the whining

I'm sure alot of you will probably not like what I have to say, but I'm going to say it anyway. I listen to all the whinning and complaining on todays show and I'm so tired of hearing about these women that don't work outside the home talking about how bad they have it. I work, go to school, my husband works and goes to school and we have a nine year old daughter that needs my time to. I don't have anytime for myself either and I only have one child. Well, get a clue, if your husband isn't helping on the first child, what makes you think he's going to help when you have 3 or four. Besides didn't you know this going into the marriage that he wasn't going to assist especially if you are a "stay at home mom"... That should be something that is discussed before you have kids. Also, women that have small kids I have some sympathy for, but those of you that have school age kids and you are home all day doing "housework", why does the house need to be cleaned everyday? If you keep up with it regularly, it shouldn't be that much. For the lady that her husband kept having a vasectomy and it didn't work, how bout changing doctor's or the woman having her tubes tied. I guess I may be too hard on some of you, but I'm really tired of hearing about all these mom's that don't work talk about how much they have to do. Stop having so many kids....
 
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October 5, 2005, 3:43 pm PDT

AMEN

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I get so sick of you women whinning about this topic! 

  

You don't like it? You should'nt have gotten married and had kids!! 

  

The man of the house is bringing home an income to feed the family, buy the cars, buy the clothes pay the bills, pay for college,  secure a future. 

  

Heres a news flash!!  You should'nt be spending 6-7 hours a day cleaning a house, if your house is that big I'd bet you've got an income to be able to hire a cleaning service to come twice a week. 

Floors don't need to be mopped twice a day, toilets and bathrooms can go 2 or 3 days between cleaning, kids can do chores and pickup their toys, if they don't throw them away they'll learn sooner or later. 

  

Bottom line, a lot of this cr@p is brought on by yourself. 

  

In parting, it absolutely disgusts me to see this crybaby Ginger whine about her family in a house fit for royalty with a husband that obviously makes a heck of an income and COMES HOME EVERY NIGHT! 

  

All the while I have friends in Iraq fighting for our country making maybey 15-20,000 a year with wives at home by themselves raising several children. 

That's almost identically what I just said. It's amazing, I'm so glad that I'm not the only one that feels that way. What a load of crap! Thanks for the post, I makes me so proud to know that there are people out there like me, instead of "holly the homemaker"....
 
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October 5, 2005, 3:48 pm PDT

my tipical day

5:00 am my husband leaves for work 

6:30 am get every one dressed (this means a 4,3,and 1 month, old little tiered boys) 

7:30 am drive 30 minutes to school drop off the 4 year old then 30 minutes back home 

9:00 am cook breakfast for all at home, eat, then start cleaning all day 

12:30 pm drive 30 minutes back to town to pick up my son then 30 minutes back home 

1:45 pm start cleaning again 

3:00 pm sit down and watch Dr Phil 

4:00 pm take care of the chores outside 

5:00 pm start cooking dinner 

6:15 pm my husband gets home  

6:30 pm get dinner on the table and fight with the boys  over what they are going to eat 

7:15 pm start bath time  

8:00 pm story time then fight till 9 to get the boys to sleep 

9:00 pm bath time for me and the baby 

10:00 pm my husband ask whats wrong, now this is coming from the person who cant be left alone with them because he cant handle it < i just want to say HELLO WHAT DO YOU THINK IS WRONG 
 
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October 5, 2005, 3:49 pm PDT

You are obviously clueless!

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I get so sick of you women whinning about this topic! 

  

You don't like it? You should'nt have gotten married and had kids!! 

  

The man of the house is bringing home an income to feed the family, buy the cars, buy the clothes pay the bills, pay for college,  secure a future. 

  

Heres a news flash!!  You should'nt be spending 6-7 hours a day cleaning a house, if your house is that big I'd bet you've got an income to be able to hire a cleaning service to come twice a week. 

Floors don't need to be mopped twice a day, toilets and bathrooms can go 2 or 3 days between cleaning, kids can do chores and pickup their toys, if they don't throw them away they'll learn sooner or later. 

  

Bottom line, a lot of this cr@p is brought on by yourself. 

  

In parting, it absolutely disgusts me to see this crybaby Ginger whine about her family in a house fit for royalty with a husband that obviously makes a heck of an income and COMES HOME EVERY NIGHT! 

  

All the while I have friends in Iraq fighting for our country making maybey 15-20,000 a year with wives at home by themselves raising several children. 

The REASON we clean our homes for that long is because we take pride in what we do and want to make our homes happy.  VERY similar to a soldier who spends years in battle, because he/she takes pride in what they do and want to make their COUNTRY happy.  You OBVIOSLY have no clue what us women go through daily, and how DARE you negate our frustrations when you havent even stepped into our world!  Each of us have our own lives and our own frustrations and a need to vent them and look for solutions. ALSO, Dr. Phill and MOST of AMRERICA obviously agrees because he is focusing on these frustrations and AMERICA IS WATCHING!!! 
 
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October 5, 2005, 3:50 pm PDT

10/05 Moms: Cut the Chaos

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  I am a 24 year old stay at home mom with a 2 1/2 year old and a one year old. Both girls. I am in the midst of potty training my 2 year old and I can't seem to get her to go. Some people say that she'll go when she is ready, but I think she is old enough. If you ask her where she is suppose to go pee pee she will tell you on the potty. I am running out of ideas. What do I Do? 

Each child is different on what will work.  I put a poster board on the wall of the bathroom child level for my first child.  I then kept two boxes of stickers.  Each day she used the potty she would get a small sticker to put on the poster whether she went or not. At the end of the week if she showed  stickers for each day of the week she was allowed to pick a larger and better sticker.   

  

This did not work for my second daughter.  With her the only thing that worked is enrolling her in a childrens group for several hours each morning.  She picked it up in just a week after watching all the other kids doing it.   

  

I know it is hard but stay patient and hang in there. 
 
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October 5, 2005, 3:51 pm PDT

Moms: Cut the Chaos

I understand cutting the chaos and having things done in an orderly manner, but what do you do when it  becomes boring and repetitious.  I need somehow to make it more exciting to do the laundry, clean the house and cook.  Any suggestions?
 
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October 5, 2005, 3:59 pm PDT

10/05 Moms: Cut the Chaos

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 I have a 21/2  girlband a 13months boy.   They are great kids! We have stablish a routine for our day hours.  The nap once a day and we have lots of play ground time and outies! The biggest issue so far have been bad time!  They share a room since he were 9 months old. And she has been move to a bad.  We did everything to keep her involved in the transsition. Bought the bad together.  Got Dora the Explorer sheets, matching pillows, etc.  She slept there for the first 2 nights and since than she moved into our bad. Once there she tosses and turns and besides loosing our privacy as a couple I can't sleep!  I spend the night between her kicks and out loud dreams and having to take care of the baby in the middle of the night.  Most nights on wakes the other up and it is a nightmare. I don;t have an extra bedroom PLEASE GIVE SUGGESTIONS. How should I put both in bad at the same time! What should I do that will make them sleep through the night? 

OK i have a 4,3,and 1 month old my friend also has a 3 year old we have learned that nap time is not always the best  just let them stay up then they go to bed earler and will uswally stay in their bed
 
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October 5, 2005, 4:02 pm PDT

10/05 Moms: Cut the Chaos

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I get so sick of you women whinning about this topic! 

  

You don't like it? You should'nt have gotten married and had kids!! 

  

The man of the house is bringing home an income to feed the family, buy the cars, buy the clothes pay the bills, pay for college,  secure a future. 

  

Heres a news flash!!  You should'nt be spending 6-7 hours a day cleaning a house, if your house is that big I'd bet you've got an income to be able to hire a cleaning service to come twice a week. 

Floors don't need to be mopped twice a day, toilets and bathrooms can go 2 or 3 days between cleaning, kids can do chores and pickup their toys, if they don't throw them away they'll learn sooner or later. 

  

Bottom line, a lot of this cr@p is brought on by yourself. 

  

In parting, it absolutely disgusts me to see this crybaby Ginger whine about her family in a house fit for royalty with a husband that obviously makes a heck of an income and COMES HOME EVERY NIGHT! 

  

All the while I have friends in Iraq fighting for our country making maybey 15-20,000 a year with wives at home by themselves raising several children. 

Who said anyone is complaining.  Maybe instead we should all listen and help each other.  I am glad I can work out of the house while caring for my family but sometimes you just need to talk about your frustrations.   I appreciate those fighting in Iraq and those caring for the families.  I have a brother in the war myself but there are still times when I just need to discuss my frustrations.  Whatever happened to alittle understanding.  To all you mothers at home hang in there and share when you need to.  Life is difficult enough without someone telling you that you do not have a right to share your feelings.  Stop being so judgemental please. 
 
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