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Dr. Phil and his guests strike up heated conversations as they debate the latest hot topics. Should women give up their right to breastfeed their babies in public so other people don't feel uncomfortable? Will passing out condoms in schools prevent unwanted pregnancies or just send the message to kids that it's OK to have sex? And, is it acceptable for others to discipline your kids if they see them acting out in public, or should they just mind their own business? Dr. Phil weighs in on these controversial subjects. Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

 

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October 7, 2005, 1:06 pm PDT

wake up parents

It's a wonderful thing  to live in todays culture.  Things that were never accepted now are.  However, there is no reason in the world with todays advances that woman can't pump their breast milk in to a bottle before they go out and fed there children that way while out in public.  Not one person offered that as a solution on the show...this issue is not about feminism or the strides we need to make politically as women, just pump your breast and feed your kid...  with all this liberal thinking about exposed breasts why don't we need R ratings on movies where there are exposed breasts, why is it illegal to walk around topless, etc...our society needs to make a decision about whether or not we want to continue being sheltered and unlike any other culture in the world (like in europe there is nudity on regular television commercials) or if we want to snap out of the fifties and in to the new millenium, but women can't have it both ways. 

On condoms, your kids will have sex without you knowing whether you like it or not, be greatful that the school system fills in where to many parents lack.  If you think that your children are %100 honest with you about the activities they parttake in your are naive.  Whether schools give out condoms or not, kids will have sex, preaching abstinence is blind and also naive.   

I am hopeful that mothers will snap out of it and starting thinking in the world where their children living. 

 
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October 7, 2005, 1:06 pm PDT

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Dr. Phil, 

  

I have to comment on the breadfeeding issue right now on your show. I agree with both ladies. Yes you have a right to feed your baby when they are hungry but there are ways around breastfeeding in public when your child is hungry. My friend just had a baby and if she has to go in public, she pumps and puts her milk in a bottle. Its called respect for others, especially if you want to give your baby breast milk there are other ways. The one lady is just rude.  

  

So what happens if your baby gets hungry on a road trip and you are the only other person in the car. You gonna get the baby and breastfeed while driving putting everyone else at risk???? because it sure as heck seems she could care less respecting others so why would she start while driving and actually pull over? 

  

If your baby is hungry BOTTLE FEED IT... It's amazing this wonderful thing called a bottle gets around the issue! 

  

Thanks Dr. Phil 

Devoted watcher 

That's insensitive to say.  I don't want to give my son a bottle, I shouldn't have to, and the one time I tried he refused to eat it.
 
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October 7, 2005, 1:06 pm PDT

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What truly bothered me the most was when the lady aginst breastfeeding was like your both movable objects just go to the bathroom... the lady for breatfeeding replyed you wouldnt want to eat your sandwich on the toilet seat... then she was like well its not like your rubbing your breast against the seat then feeding your baby... hello its called germs. Bathrooms are always dirty no matter how clean they claim to be. She doesnt have kids so i think she has no right to say anything. She's like its not attractive.. its not attractive... its not attractive... thats was her entire defense. Who are you to decide if its attractive or not... thats not the point.. the point is the baby is hungry. Let the baby eat get over your self for a couple of minutes. Would you want someone to put a blanket over your face while you ate ? i didnt think so.. just leave her alone.
 
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October 7, 2005, 1:06 pm PDT

From a Mom Who Does Not Breastfeed

I did not breastfed my child out of personal preference. That being said, I don't think any woman who chooses to breastfeed should hide out anywhere - especially in the toilet - to feed her child. I don't hide my baby in a restaurant when I give her a bottle, and I don't expect anyone else to do the same regardless of their method of feeding. If anything, a restaurant is a wonderful example of a very appropriate public place to breastfeed. The family is having dinner.  

  

I suspect that the anti-breast woman on the show needs some therapy. Breastfeeding makes her sick? Sounds like a larger issue to me.  

 
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Quote From: vrappa

What ever happened to respecting others?  The Me Me Me mentality in this country has ruined putting others first.  Breast feeding is a wonderful and beautiful part of Motherhood.  It can be done discreetly so that others can also experience a modest and special function. 

  

The woman who wants to change things by not respecting others is going to leave her child a very self centered and arrogant legacy 

 I will respect others when they stop feeling the need to harrass mothers who are simply trying to feed their baby.  And I feel that by letting my child know that I take his needs into consideration before that of a total stranger will only enhance his self esteem and self confidence.   What kind of a message are we sending to our children if we take other's hang ups into consideration before a helpless infant/child's needs?

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October 7, 2005, 1:06 pm PDT

Brest Feeding????

I am so surprised by the women who found breastfeeding so offensive..What are they thinking??? Were they tough that our Brest were for men to look at & touch? OUR Brest's were made to feed our children..Brest milk is one of natures way of helping the immune system of our children. Children that are Brest feed are less likely to become sick..Also Women that find this to be so up setting should be asking them self WHY?? Are they that insecure with the man they are sitting with?OR are they so insecure with their own body that they are ashamed of what God has given to them??I Brest feed ALL THREE of my children...When I was at work (and I worked construction) I brought a Brest pump with me, went into the Lady's room and filled the bottles for my child, when I could not be there to feed her. 

BUT when I was home and out and about, I feed my children from MY BREST.... 

My Mother In-law & Father -n-law  were very surprised that an American Girl was feeding her children the way it was in Europe...We American women have to lighten up on this matter...We are feeding our children NOT Having sex on the side of the road...Why would any women want to give their child formula from a can. When we have the best milk there is to give a child....Just one Question...How do these women feel when they see a cat or dog, or an animal feeding their young??? 

All it comes down to is this...God made women with brest's to feed their children....Plain and simple...P.S. I brest feed my children 30 years ago when other women were useing the stuff in the can... 

 
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October 7, 2005, 1:06 pm PDT

Re breast feeding in public

I think mother's who want to breast feed in public, or find it necessary to do so, should be respectful that others may be uncomfortable with this and should make every effort to be discreet about it and call as little attention to it as possible. If they expect others to be sensitive to their needs to breastfeed, then they should be respectful to others who may not agree with the public practice. The woman on the show who felt it was her right and she didn't really care what anyone else said, was way off base. It came across that she is arrogant and insensitive and in my opinion, will raise kids who are just as uncaring for others feelings as she is.
 

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 You probably walk with your children near child molestors all the time and don't even know it.  What was your point again?

My child will be safe against me. What about yours?
Right on!  Maybe we should have laws against bringing children in public altogether???  That way we won't tempt the poor child molestors.
 
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October 7, 2005, 1:06 pm PDT

dear dr.phil

i think people are getting carried away with this subject about breast feeding.i dont think anyone was saying you have to go too the bathroom to feed your kid.alll they are saying is cover up.like i said in my post.i dont want to watch someone breast feeding a kid when im eattin.if i want to see breast go to a stripe joint or something.all i think they need to do is COVER UP.they dont have to go to a bathroom.i would'nt.i breast fed both my kids.who i might ad arn't kids anymore,there is nothing wrong with breast feeding just not in public or at least not in front of someone who is eatting.i think if they need to breast feed when they are in a restraunt then cover up or go to your car. 

  

                            devoted watcher of your. 

                             kathy 

 
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October 7, 2005, 1:06 pm PDT

I wish we were neighbors!

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 Dr. Phil, my beef is you missed a prime opportunity, or maybe you did it later after taping, to get into the real matter with the anti-breast woman.  It wasnt breastfeeding she had a problem with.  That was the least of it.  She obviously was hostile towards any form of self expression.  I didn't get all the program, I was busy and going in and out trying to catch it...but I am going to guess she doesnt have any children and has issues with the human body no matter what it is doing! FEED A BABY IN THE BATHROOM!!! You should have called her on that.  I realize she seemed just ready to unhinge but crap, its YOUR show.  You should have told her to get over it.  And that you DO NOT EAT IN THE JOHN!!!

I breastfed my children and I have six.  Most of them were fairly easy to convince when and where.  But Hannah, my now 17 year old...anywhere, everywhere and all the time!  There isnt a store, eating establishment (both fast food and fancy) within 100 miles of here that hasnt been breastfed in!  BY HER!  And let me just go ahead and flip you off your chair backwards...she didnt wean until she was almost 4!!!  Sometimes we were discrete and sometimes I did all I could to keep her from wanting to nurse one and "hold other one Mommy."  Not when she was 4 of course---but as a toddler. 

I have a brother in law that had issues with it...but I couldnt care less.  I didnt do it at his house in front of him but he had issues with me doing it at all!  Honestly though, he just pretty much as issues period.

Yes breasts are sexual.  They are supposed to be.  But they are also for nourishing  babies.  Men, women, whom ever is offended by it is not JUST offended by breastfeeding but have some issue with breast/nakedness and differentiating between the sexual aspect and the nurturing aspect...I suspect it is a deep seeded problem.  But hey you are the doctor.

But for goodness sakes...LOOK AWAY and quit whining.  Turn your chair.  Be a big girl.  That breastfeeding mom paid for her dinner too! 
What a great view you have on things. I agree that woman had issues. FEEDING is just that! I will not do it in the dirty bathroom iether! GROW UP WORLD! It's a bottle at that point...NOT A BOOB!
 
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