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Dr. Phil and his guests strike up heated conversations as they debate the latest hot topics. Should women give up their right to breastfeed their babies in public so other people don't feel uncomfortable? Will passing out condoms in schools prevent unwanted pregnancies or just send the message to kids that it's OK to have sex? And, is it acceptable for others to discipline your kids if they see them acting out in public, or should they just mind their own business? Dr. Phil weighs in on these controversial subjects. Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

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mtnmom

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October 7, 2005, 6:01 pm PDT

10/07 The Latest Debates

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I am a breastfeeding mom and i feed in public. I have a pump and use it to reduce engorgement but my 6week old chokes everytime he is given a bottle!!!!!

When you have children of your own you will understand. It IS NOT DISGUSTING IT IS NATURAL!!!!!!!! And the way GOD intended for us to feed our children. It is always at the right temp, and there is always enough. A Bottle only holds so much and needs to be heated!

As far as the lady at the resturant if you don't like it do not look at it!!!!

For as much as you know you sitting there with you Boyfriend may offend someone else!

Stop pointing the finger at us moms and mind your own plate! Let My son mind his!!!

Thank goodness your mom fed you when you were hungry, otherwise you might not be here to complain. Are you so far removed from the miracle of your body that you are disgusted by its purpose?

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October 7, 2005, 6:02 pm PDT

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I am so glad you put it that way. You said it better that I could.

Thank you.

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October 7, 2005, 6:02 pm PDT

So Sad!

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If you have young children needing to breast feed I have two suggestions for you.

1) LEAVE THE PUBLIC PLACE YOU ARE IN, no one wants a free peep show with some kid attached. If you can't leave than.....

2)USE A BREAST PUMP AND BOTTLE FEED IN PUBLIC

Part of having a child is being prepared to take on responsibilites. If you are not prepared to take other's feelings, regarding this subject, into consideration then I don't think you are prepared to take on motherhood.

If you go out to a nice meal or head to the shopping mall and you know your child is going to be hungry....BE PREPARED.

I was at a local restuarunt with my boyfriend, when the lady at the table next to us pops out her boob and little Johnny starts sucking away. I was SO offended! I AM EATING!!! It's disguiting!! If you need to go out to eat with the family again....BE PREPARED. Or go to a child friendly restaraunt or get a sitter!!!

I am sick of seeing it and there is no reason to have to do it in public. Thats what breast pumps are for....Stop making others uncomfortable.

It's a shame that we, as women, can't support each other. You will one day know what it means to love a baby so much that you're willing to 'offend' a stranger by feeding it.

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October 7, 2005, 6:04 pm PDT

...but that's just another symptom, imo.

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Saying a mother who formula feed is lazy shows your ignorance as well. There are many situations that a mother may choose to formula feed. Just like you choose to breastfeed it is their choice not to. They are not wrong for making a choice that is best for them and their child. I was lucky enough to be able to breastfeed, but two of my sisters had a terrible time with it and eventually gave up. Do I think they are bad mothers for doing so? No Way! They did what they thought worked best for their family.

I would personally never characterize a woman who chose to formula feed as "lazy." However, I do think that it's sad that so many people have trouble with nursing. We lived for millions of years feeding our offspring this way, and it's only in this day and age that so many women have trouble with nursing. There are women who physically can't nurse their children, but the percentages are *SO* much lower than most people believe.

In my opinion and experience, volunteering with breasfeeding moms for over 4 years, it's much more likely to be a lack of adequate guidance that leads to problems nursing. There are many women who try and try and try, but just can't solve their particular problem. What might happen if their best friends breastfed their children, and their neighbors breastfed their children, and their doctors breastfed their children--and it was OK to talk to all of them about their experience??

I became involved in volunteering because my son and I were having a difficult time nursing still when he was 12 weeks old. I went to meetings, read books, and talked to our pediatrician--and was still in agony every time he nursed. I didn't solve our problem until I visited a lactation consultant who clarified one tiny piece of advice I'd read before. I can't express how small a change it was, but it allowed me to solve our problems in a day or two--counting healing time. If I had more resources, I know I could have solved our problem earlier. And, if I wasn't lucky enough to be able to stay at home from work for all that time, I know I might never have made it.

Mothers choose the best that they can give for their children, whenever they can. Sending them to the bathroom to nurse stigmatizes one of the best choices they can make... It's the wrong message to send.

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October 7, 2005, 6:05 pm PDT

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How sad to see all the uneducated people out there regarding breastfeeding! It's embarrassing being from a country that is so ashamed and uneducated about breastfeeding. I see more boob from little tank tops and see through shirts out there, then when a woman is breastfeeding. I don't ask someone who chews with their mouth open to go eat in the bathroom because it's gross, so why because you're uncomfortable should a woman go feed her baby in the bathroom? Grow up people and learn what breasts are for! And remember I don't ask you to eat with a blanket over your head either, so don't expect my child to eat all covered up. As for the person who thinks a person shouldn't nurse a baby once that baby has teeth, go get some education. A baby doesn't use their teeth to nurse and just because they have teeth doesn't mean that they are too old to nurse.

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October 7, 2005, 6:06 pm PDT

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I feel bottle feeding babies should not be fed in public. It disgusts me to see that thick plastic silicon artificial imitation nipple stuck in a beautiful child's mouth. Its just not attractive, so I think anyone giving a baby in a bottle needs to do so at home or in a bathroom. My brother, who is a truck driver, did this when his boy was sucking on plastic, and he said he didn't mind taking his little baby in any public resroom on the road. Also, I am afraid my husband (who is a self proclaimed breast man) might get sexually excited at seeing such large oversized nipple. I don't want to be out at dinner with him and have that happen. I also think that any child who is old enough to hold their own bottle should also have to do so only at home, or while sitting on the public potty. I guess it would be ok if they walked aroung holding their bottle, just as long as there is something covering up the bottle, at least that sickening nipple top. Perhaps the mom, dad or babysitter can try being more discreet about the bottle- simply throwing a blanket over the toddler's head would work just fine. I am all for bottle feeding though, don't get me wrong, I just think people should take my rights not to see a fake fat breast part in public.

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October 7, 2005, 6:07 pm PDT

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I loved the show today. I think that Dr.Phil helped the people out a lot and made both parties understand what the other was feeling. I think that breastfeeding in public is wrong. Its ok privately but noone wants to see that while their eating! My sister and I were at Pizza Johns and saw that once and it was sickening. Everyone says "dont look" but can you help it when they are right in front of you?! Why should I be made to eat looking up at the ceiling? Shouldnt I feel comfortable in a restaurant? And about the condoms in schools..Omgosh I am soo against that. Its basically saying to kids, hey if your parents wont let you buy condoms, then here we can give them to you for free, so you can go have sex way to young! I think that is wrong. It should not be the schools job, it should be the parents. And if parents discipline their kids to wait until they are old enough to take on the responsibilities, then this wouldn't be needed. I am 14, and my parents taught me to wait until marriage, and so this isnt a problem for me. But what about the other kids? I dont want my friends to be going home with condoms, given by the schools! schools should be teaching not to have sex in high schools or middle schools, not giving them a condom and saying go for it. Parents should not allow it..and about the kids getting disciplined by others. I think thats wrong. I dont have any kids, being only 14, but I understand about how Dr.Phil was saying that each parent has a routine, and that if some person came up to them if could change your routine up.. Thats all I have to write..!

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October 7, 2005, 6:07 pm PDT

breast feeding

I have no problem with public breastfeeding although it does make me feel a little bit uncomfortable...sort of like walking in on someone going to the bathroom, you feel like you have invaded their privacy.

However, I do have a problem with people breast feeding for an extended period of time. If a child can lift up your shirt and say I am hungry than it is time to take the kid off the boob!@#%*!!!!

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October 7, 2005, 6:08 pm PDT

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So breastfeeding in public is bad because you might see a bit of boob, but watching Jessica Simpson sing about her "DD boobs" while wearing a bikini so small that there is NOTHING left to the imagination is ok, on network TV.

Or Paris Hilton selling burgers in a black suit that really left nothing to the imagination is OK.

Or seeing the latest Britney Spears pic of her grabbing Kevin's crotch is OK.

It's Ok for me to work in a school and have to see girls wearing skirts so short, I don't have to guess if they are wearing a thong or not is ok or have to guess what color their bra is because I can see it through their shirt (never mind all the straps showing), Or to see boys with their pants so low that I see their underwear.

Trust me when I say I would rather see a breastfeeding mother than any of the above.

As far as the woman on the show today and the "wiping your nipple on the toilet seat" comment. She needs to stuff it! When my baby is born in March, I plan on breastfeeding. I am not going to be tied to my house because baby might need to eat. I will feed my child where I am comfortable and let me tell you, I am not comfortable peeing in a stall in the mall much less feeding my child in one. Whether is a bench in a nice quiet area or a table in the food court, I am going to feed my baby. If I'm lucky maybe the Motherhood store may have a dressing room open and I can feed there (They encourage it there) but if someone needs that room to try on clothes, I will happily move for her and continue my session elsewhere.

To those of you who only see breasts as sexual, you need to remember that they were there first and formost to feed you baby. Sex is a secondary characteristic of them.

Amen to you sister friend I agree completely!!!

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October 7, 2005, 6:08 pm PDT

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I breastfed my two children, and I agree with the audience member on the show who said, if it offends you, look away. If you are driving down the street and an overweight male is working on his car and his shirt doesn't meet his pants in the back, look away. We have become way too up-tight in the country.

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