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Dr. Phil and his guests strike up heated conversations as they debate the latest hot topics. Should women give up their right to breastfeed their babies in public so other people don't feel uncomfortable? Will passing out condoms in schools prevent unwanted pregnancies or just send the message to kids that it's OK to have sex? And, is it acceptable for others to discipline your kids if they see them acting out in public, or should they just mind their own business? Dr. Phil weighs in on these controversial subjects. Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

 

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October 7, 2005, 7:42 am PDT

All for breastfeeding in public

Sometimes there is not a good option for a private area!!!  And as far as blankets go, I have tried that and end up more exposed from my son pulling off the blanket.  As far as doing it in the bathroom, I don't even sit down all the way on the toilet to use it let alone sit there for 15 minutes feeding my child.  And the comment about I didn't have to rub my breast on the toilet seat....I wouldn't even want to eat a sandwich while sitting on the toilet, it has nothing to do with actually touching the toilet seat.  It is 100% natural and you have more of an option to look or walk away then we do to go somewhere else to breastfeed more often than not.  You can't control when your child gets hungry or it is his/her feeding time.
 
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October 7, 2005, 7:42 am PDT

Absolutely Nothing is wrong w/public breastfeeding.

Nothing is wrong with public breast feeding, but in relations to public indecency, there has to be a fine line or a set boundary.  As an evident example of indescresion, the womans Oriola (the brown part around the nipple) must be hidden from the veiw of people in the enviornmental audience. If the nipple is in full veiw of the people around the woman, it would be a mental shock and the female  must understand that 9 out of 10 people in public have an undeniably sense of Tabboo when it comes to visual contact with a persons nipple.  

Cover up with a towel, like true women have done since the beginning of time. Everyong knows that your nipples are probably fine looking, but to see them would even shock a pervert. 

 
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October 7, 2005, 7:42 am PDT

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Quote From: titan13790

I think Breast feeding in public is, 100% wrong. Breast feeding is not bad to do, but at a restaurant were people are trying eat and you find your self staring at a breast with a baby sucking on it thats just disgusting/ Whats wrong with a blanket or a bathroom or heres a strange idea your car? But this is America i guess everyone doesn't have to have common curiosity. 

Would you EAT in a public bathroom?  I think not.  If you don't like it, don't look.  THere is nothing disgusting about it.  But your attitude, now that is completely disgusting.
 
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October 7, 2005, 7:42 am PDT

breast feeding

Breast feeding should be as natural as breathing! the woman who asked, would if she would like it if she would have her food delivered on her backside has no idea how that sounded... She is basically saying that this is a dirty act when it should be the most naturalistic thing in the world.... There is a  substantial difference in having something you defecate from... being in your face... than a instrument of sustenance and nourishment for the body since the dawn of time...
 
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October 7, 2005, 7:42 am PDT

condoms

 HI to all,
       I just needed to speak on this subject only because i had a child when i was 16...although he was the best thing that ever happened to me in my life , I also lost my life,my parents were brought up in the 50's where these things back then were not even spoke about,if my mom or a teacher or a nurse or anyone would have expressed to me what sex was ....well i yhink i wouldnt be in this position that i am in today .....Im not blaming anyone but when i was 15 i was so scared of sex ...actually it wasnt even about having sex it was just fitting in the crowd...and that still today goes on in schools everywhere....we need to talk to our chrilren ...we need to show them we no what they are doing ..if they think we are comfortable talking and teaching the right way ,if our kids know that they can come to us ...that we wont be mad but be glad the can trust in us ...i know the % of teens having intercourse will decrease.......believe me i went through it in my life....so as for condoms yes we should let our chrildren know that if thats in their thoughts and they have no other option the can come to us to use protection....hey moms and dads they will do it wether you like it or not and usually they do it just in spite ........so try to be a parent and show them have faith and trust......god bless
 
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October 7, 2005, 7:43 am PDT

breast feeding in public

This country needs to get a grip. Breast feeding is perfectly natural. Granted there are certain situations when it's best to be not so "out there" lol  

  

It CAN be done discretely!! 

  

I breast fed my babies..it can be done WITHOUT having to "cover up". If ya don't like looking at something that is in my opinion, a wonderful experience....find something else to look at.  There is nothing more satisfying than to look down and see your little one nursing and when they look up at you and smile..melts your heart.  

 
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October 7, 2005, 7:43 am PDT

do NOT ask mothers feeding their babies to leave!

It should NOT be a breastfeeding mother and baby who are asked to leave.

Some people are "bothered" when they see a baby being fed with a bottle. Some parents want to protect their young children from seeing a baby being fed with a bottle. Some people feel "bothered" when they see a inter-racial couple holding hands.

Sure some people feel that way but it would NOT be appropriate (or legal) to ask a bottle feeding mother to leave a location, or to ask a inter-racial couple to leave because it "bothered" people.

I think that even people who are "bothered" by breastfeeding in public are reasonable enough that they would agree that it would be inappropriate to ask people like that to leave.

People who are "bothered" by breastfeeding should look away or find another location where they are more comfortable.

Managers at businesses can offer the people who are "bothered" a different seat, but should NOT offer the breastfeeding mother a towel. Managers at businesses should not offer that a mother feed her child in the bathroom. And managers at businesses should not demand a mother leave because "feeding a child is not allowed here."
 
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Quote From: fuzzomally

I dont really care if anyone is uncomfertable they can bite me its perfectly normal to breastfeed and its good for you to breastfeed. My mother breastfeeded me for four years she did it in church,restaraunts,and many more places and she didnt care no one cared atleast some didnt care in church anyway im just saying I think more women should breastfeed. 

If you were breastfed until Kindergarten, you have a whole other issue! No one is saying that women shouldn't breastfeed, but they should do it with respect, not this "I Am Mom-I Can Do What I Want!" There are times when a mother is positioned so that the offended party can't turn their heads or cover their ears to stop hearing the slurping and other noises associated with it. And you can't stop other children from watching becuase of the natural curiosity. Pre-fill bottles before going in public. What's so hard about that?? 

 
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October 7, 2005, 7:43 am PDT

Condoms in schools

Oh  my god! Just becuase this lady's daughter didn't have sex in school doesn't mean other children don't or won't! I didn't in high school but I am all for condoms in schools! And where did she get her statistics???? Condoms are 85% effective??? God, I  hope not or alot of us would have been in a different place than we are now.  One of the main reasons why I think it works is that I am from a very tiny rural town originally and everyone knows that in a small town, people talk.  No one wanted to go to a store and buy condoms where some clerk would tell someone who would tell someone who would tell their grandma little Johnny's having sex.  So instead, people just don't use them!  

  

Now she's talking about Uganda! Please!!!!!!!!!!! The reason why girls and boys want to have sex in the US, look at MTV, look at magazines.  It's cool and popular to dress slutty and have sex with different guys!  

  

Abstinence is one of those things that looks good on paper and in theory, but do you really think when a teenager is lying in the backseat of a car about to do the deed, they will suddenly stop, think that Mom told them to abstain and that its morally wrong, and then suddenly tell the other person they are with that they changed the mind! In the words of Dr. Phil, "Not gonna happen!". 

 
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October 7, 2005, 7:44 am PDT

Public Breastfeeding is okay with me

I'm a little surprised that anyone would find breastfeeding offensive. I breastfed only one of my two children. I did not however whip it out in public, but it would not bother me to see a mom breastfeed her baby either. After breastfeeding I viewed the breast in a completely different manner then I did before. I saw them as functional and a tool to nourish my baby. I would agree with some of the audience members and be a little discrete about it. I would try putting a blanket over my little girl and she would just toss it off. So I opted to feed in the car or sit in the bathroom. I would have something to sit on and would feed her, it wasn't that big of a deal. I think sometimes people just want to grumble. Our media has made breast into sexual objects and that's not what I believe God intended them to be for, it's just a bonus. So I think breastfeeding in public is perfectly natural, but have respect, don't flaunt and be difficult. Heather
 
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