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Dr. Phil and his guests strike up heated conversations as they debate the latest hot topics. Should women give up their right to breastfeed their babies in public so other people don't feel uncomfortable? Will passing out condoms in schools prevent unwanted pregnancies or just send the message to kids that it's OK to have sex? And, is it acceptable for others to discipline your kids if they see them acting out in public, or should they just mind their own business? Dr. Phil weighs in on these controversial subjects. Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

 

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October 7, 2005, 7:55 am PDT

breastfeeding in public

I breastfed both of my children until they were 13 months old.  God gave breasts to nourish our children.  I can not understand how it is okay for breasts to be displayed on tv, movies, and magazines but people think it is wrong to breastfeed in public.  I always tried to cover up and be discreet, but no matter where I was at, if my daughters were hungry I am not going to starve them I am going to feed them. My youngest is allergic to milk, I am so thankful I was able to nurse her.  Breastfeeding supplies your children with important nutrients that they can not get anywhere else.  Not only did I nurse my two girls, but I also donated my milk where it was givin to preemies to help them fight for their tiny lives.  I donated over 400 ounces of milk to Wake Med.  Breastfeeding is another wonderful miracle that God gave us to provide the very best for our babies.
 
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October 7, 2005, 7:55 am PDT

breastfeeding is natural

dr.phil, 

  I am a 19 year old mom to be and  I believe breastfeeding is very normal and a beautiful thing. I have not yet got to experience it myself but i will in about 4 months! There is nothing wrong with making that special connection with your child. I have currently had 2 misscarriages and wish i would have had that closeness and bond with the two of them, but my baby boy and i will now be able to. And she is right if someone dont like it DONT LOOK!!!!!!! I am very close to my sister and she has 2 children and did not breastfeed because she is against it but she says thats her opinion and she supports me in my decision. Thanks, 

                                                                               Richa 

  

 
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October 7, 2005, 7:55 am PDT

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I'm surprised that more people have not disciplined other people's children.  I should say, 'correct' other people's children.  I cannot tell you how many children I have had to correct in the baby pool this summer when they were splashing away, swimming in the 8 inches of water that was supposed to be for toddlers and they are school age children.  I don't know where their parents are and I don't feel like it's my job to go get them.  I just ask them to stop doing whatever it is that's bothering the toddlers.  The other toddlers' parents are thankful that I've spoken up.  I've done this at playgrounds as well.  If parents would take more involvement in their child's well being they would be more intuned to realizing when their child is annoying others.  I don't think you can sit back and allow your child to run wild, while bothering others and consider yourself a good parent.  It's not my job to find you to tell you that your child is obnoxious.  My job is to protect my children and ensure they have a pleasant experience, in spite of your child.   

I'm the one that is surprised that there is so many people like you that think it is there right to disciplined other peoples children. If you have a problem with someone else's child you should go to that child's Mom or Dad never take it upon yourself to say something. It could make some Moms and Dads very upset....I know it would me... 

  

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October 7, 2005, 7:55 am PDT

support breastfeeding

Since this is World Breastfeeding Week and I am a former breastfeeding mother, I am very interested in the recent debate over public breastfeeding. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends exclusively breastfeeding for the first six months of life. On the UNICEF website nutrition page, it states "If every baby were exclusively breastfed from birth for six months, an estimated 1.3 million additional lives would be saved and millions more enhanced every year." In 1993, North Carolina's General Assembly passed a law declaring that public or private breastfeeding is not indecent."G.S. 14-190.9(b)- An act to clarify that breastfeeding does not violate decency laws. (b). Not withstanding any other provision of law, a woman may breast feed in any public or private location where she is otherwise authorized to be, irrespective of whether the nipple of the mother’s breast is uncovered during or incidental to the breast feeding." With such recommendations and legal support for breastfeeding, I believe our culture can be more encouraging of mothers and babies that breastfeed in public. Many women are discouraged from ever breastfeeding by this debate which calls publicly feeding a child indecent and rude, while our society accepts the much more common intrusion of cell phone usage in restaurants, classrooms, movies and meetings. Public breastfeeding nourishes a hungry child with the best food available, keeps the child healthy, and allows mothers and babies to get out of the house. So, if everyone that complains about public breastfeeding will only use their cell phone in the bathroom or their car maybe we could stop this debate.
 

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October 7, 2005, 7:55 am PDT

debate - condoms

I am a firm believer that condoms SHOULD NOT be handed out in the schools. I think that is just another excuse for kids to have sex and say, well they gave me the condom so I thought I would use it. It would be like handing a teenager a alcoholic drink and tell them that they can't drink it. If you leave the room, most teens will taste it just to see what it is like. How and why would that be different then giving them a condom. I do believe that education in the schools is a good thing because parents are busy with their own lives now a days and either don't have the time or they don't have the right educational tools to teach their kids about safe sex and why you shouldn't have sex before you are married.
 
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October 7, 2005, 7:56 am PDT

10/07 The Latest Debates

I'm a man, and yes breast feeding is public is natural and a way of life.  At the same time a woman should respect others and cover up while breast feeding.  For a woman to say her child would throw the covering off them is the child teaching the parent.  So yes it is natural and acceptable as long as they respect others.  As far as condoms in school, yes.  A child should be able to go to say the nurse office and confidently get condoms.  I first think that sex should be talked about, and explain at home, but as a parent you have to trust that your kids would believe and trust in you.  Peer pressure is another issue, because you can't be with your kids 24/7.  You have to hope, trust and believe that your kids will do the right thing, and if they do something else, at least be safe.  No, other people should not discipline other people kids, unless given permission.  I believe the government has gotten to involved in parenting.  It some case it is needed, but in others it not.  To this day I love, respect and listen to my parent because when I was a kid they treated my as a kids.  If this included putting a hand or belt on my behind it was done.  Now that I'm an adult I listen and the final decision is mine. 

 
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October 7, 2005, 7:56 am PDT

Public breastfeeding

I am shocked to hear such lunacy coming from people (esp women!) who dont understand breastfeeding!  It is a mothers right to feed her baby when he or she is hungry.  If you as an adult are running errands all day and have hunger pains, you drive to the nearest drive thru establishment and feed yourself, right? I will nurse my baby when and where I need to, if it's in a resturant, mall, or park, If he is hungry he is getting fed.  Now having said that, I also believe what Dr. Phil said is very true...social sensitivity.  I do not want everyone to see my fully exposed breast and that I why I have several tops that all me to breastfeed with our baring myself fully.  I have a small cloth that is used to throw over my shoulder.  Sometimes my son does toss it off and if that happens, then maybe the upper portion of my breast shows...NO MORE THAN WHAT WOULD SHOW WITH A LOW CUT SHIRT AND A PUSH UP BRA!!!   Support breast feeding mothers it is healthy for mom, and the best nutrition for baby bar none.
 
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Nothing is wrong with public breast feeding, but in relations to public indecency, there has to be a fine line or a set boundary.  As an evident example of indescresion, the womans Oriola (the brown part around the nipple) must be hidden from the veiw of people in the enviornmental audience. If the nipple is in full veiw of the people around the woman, it would be a mental shock and the female  must understand that 9 out of 10 people in public have an undeniably sense of Tabboo when it comes to visual contact with a persons nipple.  

Cover up with a towel, like true women have done since the beginning of time. Everyong knows that your nipples are probably fine looking, but to see them would even shock a pervert. 

 SHOCKING??   WRONG! Do you ever tell a women to wear a long skrit or a longer shirt or even put a bra on?? NOPE you just walk on by and ignore it So do the same with NURSING! NURSING IS NORMAL! 
 
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October 7, 2005, 7:56 am PDT

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I am not opposed to breast feeding. I am not opposed to breast feeding in public, although I would prefer those doing it to go somewhere private. I agree with Dr Phil that breast feeding is a sacred bond but should be done with some modesty in public. Please cover up! I have always felt this way, prior to the issue I will state later.  Modesty is the best policy, this is to ensure that the babies can be fed, and to ensure that it is not as uncomfortable for those you do it in front of. I say this not just because people are uncomfortable with breasts exposed. I want to throw another reason in the mix. We are going through fertility treatments. We have tried for years to no avail except for a miscarriage this past summer. My point being, can the public breast feeders please be sensitive to those of us who want a baby but cannot have one? It is a heart stabbing sight to see it in public so blatant. Please consider the childless. Thanks
I am very sorry for your loss.  But to say that bf'ing in public is not being sensitive to you is a crock.  Seeing anyone with a baby would seem to cause that feeling, I would think.  Not just a breastfeeding child.  Not sure I am understanding the connection.
 
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October 7, 2005, 7:57 am PDT

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Quote From: mieshagold

My opinion on the breast feeding.....it is o.k. to breast feed in public but as Dr. Phill said respect the people around you by covering up nobody said to stop breast feeding but there are alternative ways of feeding the child......remember the breast milk is what the child wants not the breast. Using breast is a way of bonding but honestly bonding can be done at home.  That is why breast pumps exist you pre-pump...and you take the bottles with you.  and if you don't have time..then you use a blanket...the key is here IS THE RESPECT FOR OTHERS FACTOR............... 

 

And about the condoms I have only one paragraph to say.................... 

 

I am 27 years old...believe me if your child is going to have sex and you say no THEY ARE GOING TO FIND A WAY REGARDLESS!!!!!!!!!!!!.........I grew up in a strict household and I didn't start until I was 18 but I was concentrated on track but only by my influence my mother didn't have nothing to do with it!!!!  For one... you should speak about sex as young as possible this is 2005!!! sex is everywhere. And if it isn't handed out in the school THE CHILD IS GOING TO GET THE CONDOM FROM A FRIEND......Believe me if they are going to have sex.....it is going to happen!!!! 

 I grew up in a strict household and didn't start until I was 18 but...you just contradicted yourself!  You can't say that you don't think not having sex until 18 had nothing to do with a strict household.    
 If condoms aren't  handed out in schools the child will get it themselves...........exactly!!!  No way no way no way, should it be premoted by handing out condoms.   Educating your children on diseases, babies, abortion and so on and telling them why they shouldn't have sex is the only thing that should happen.  If condoms are handed out children may feel like they are suppose to be having sex. If they have to have it they will and they will get the condom themselves...they don't need any promoting and for those children who aren't  sure won't feel pressured and will have a better chance of saying no for when they are ready.
 
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