Topic : 10/07 The Latest Debates

Oh my goodness! I had forgotten about that.  I could run to a store just for a quick break from my newborn - think about her and BOOM!  My body would react and the milk would start to leak - my shirt would get wet because my breast pads would get full before I could get to my baby. 

Or I remember once I was standing in a line at Meijers after my third baby...and someone else's baby started to cry.  And my breasts got hard, then started to leak.  I laughingly asked my companion if she thought the mom of that baby would let me feed him. (I was kidding!) I was HURTING!  And nothing stops that uncomfortable feeling except to feed your baby. 

1.  If a woman is breastfeeding in a restaurant and doesn't want her child to eat in the bathroom....if you have a problem with it, ask them to move your table to the bathroom if you think it's so enjoyable to eat in there.  I had three kids breastfeed and 9 times out of 10, you couldn't tell they were even doing it in public.  People need to get a grip when they think it is possbile to go somewhere else and do it.  Bathrooms are not sanitary, cars are not comfortable if it's hot or cold, etc. 

2.  My daughter wanted to get birth control pills in case she decided to start having sex.  I explained to her that it's harder to say no when there is no fear or excuse about not wanting to get pregnant.  She agreed.  She wants to wait until she was married but was afraid that she might give in.  She realized that not having protection available makes it easier to keep her goal. 

3.  How can a pastor ask someone not to bring their children to church.  How insensitive!!! I'd be finding a new church.  What's wrong with the rest of the congregation that they haven't offered to help out.  Have each child sit with a different family.  Offer help instead of isolation. 

I just wanted to respond to your last sentence. We don't really need a law to protect us. Even in the states that haven't passed a law, there is no law against nursing in public. The Supreme Court has upheld that it is unconstitutional for a state to impose feeding restrictions of any kind on breastfeeding. It is the MOTHER's choice how she chooses to breastfeed. 

Some women think they have to cover up, some women want to cover up, some women only do it in private. I personally do it anywhere and everywhere and I have only had to deal with 1 time when I felt I was offending someone, and one time when someone asked me "if I would be more comfortable in the dressing room" to which I said, "No, I'm good here, thanks." 

I don't try to flash people but I do think it is impossible to get the baby latched on under a blanket. For those of you who have a problem with it, why don't you stop whining and do something better with your time. Because I am not on this board to try and solve the debate, I am here mainly to inform all of you looney tunes that what you are doing if you try to oppress women is wrong. This is EXACTLY like segregation. I refuse to go to a separate BFing area just to give my son his comfort or his snack or a meal. 

Philadelphia passed a law making it illegal to try to force any sort of segregation on BFing moms, and the Congress is currently looking at adding nursing moms to the Civil Rights Amendment as a protected class.  

It is sad that there are people who get so mad about it. Why don't you do something more productive with your time and go help all those teen moms you keep talking about. 

I think it is highly ironic that some of the people on this board don't condone public nursing, but they think condoms in school are fine. I personally think condoms are ok in schools if they are made available, but not necessarily handed out, but I just don't see how that is consistent with trying to oppress women in the form of making them feel like breastfeeding isn't the normal way to feed a baby. 

If you don't have a problem with women feeding their babies a bottle but you do with breastfeeding, personally I think that is sinful. Especially considering breastfeeding is healthy and formula is sub-par, tastes like crap, causes babies to spit up, leads to more sick babies, hurts babies in the long run, etc. etc. etc.. 

By the way you will be seeing more BFing moms in public as they get used to the idea of their freedom, more often, because their babies won't be at home sick or in the hospital really very much at all, and they will be free to go out all the time! But you will probably still see more bottles because sadly, formula marketers have done such a good job and taken over our country. 

I am a mom to 3 children who have all been breastfed. Honestly the woman who was against nursing in public showed more of her breasts while on the show then I have done nursing my children. Her comment about wiping your breast on the toilet before feeding your baby showed her ignorance. How about having her eat her dinner in a stinking restroom? Defication, urination and eating shouldn't be happening all in one confined space. I've seen people with more skin showing just walking around in public. Should it be my right to choose their clothing because I find it offensive? Not in a million. Breasts are for feeding babies. God intended for us to nourish our children that way. You can do so discreetly in public and most people won't even notice what you're doing. If you're staring that hard then you have boundary issues of your own.  

The woman with 3 children shouldn't be expected to take her kids one by one to church. She does need to set some limits and learn some discipline techniques so that she isn't so overwhelmed. I get the same dirty looks when I try to reprimand our children in public. Damned if you do and damned if you don't.  

I am only 23 years old and I had my oldest son when I was 17 years old. I was the high school student in love and I was going to spend the rest of my life with this boy, and yada yada yada. What these students don’t under stand is that it fades very quickly. For me, two years after I had my oldest I found my self pregnant again and going through a divorcé with my high school sweetheart.  I don’t believe that schools should be handing out condoms. I can under stand maybe a sex Ed class but there would have to some boundaries with it. I believe that students need to see the other side of the fence, I under stand that these students are all in to it because it’s something new to them. Like a new car they want to drive it around every where until it gets into a wreck then it’s not so nice to look at any more. I desperately believe that parents now a day need to seriously be more involved in the discussions with their children. My mother had the “talk” with me but it only lasted 10 minutes. Parents should be more up front and too the point about it. My son is only 6 years old and I don’t sugar coat anything with him. And I think that in the long run that will go far with him and my other children.