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Dr. Phil and his guests strike up heated conversations as they debate the latest hot topics. Should women give up their right to breastfeed their babies in public so other people don't feel uncomfortable? Will passing out condoms in schools prevent unwanted pregnancies or just send the message to kids that it's OK to have sex? And, is it acceptable for others to discipline your kids if they see them acting out in public, or should they just mind their own business? Dr. Phil weighs in on these controversial subjects. Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

 

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October 7, 2005, 12:45 pm PDT

Pro public breastfeeding

I think that it is just crazy that some woman with no kids is on stage on Dr. Phil with her so-called opinion on breast feeding...her whole argument is that it isn't flattering...well what if i think that her top/or hair for that matter is just not flattering on her.... do i even have an argument, no.... thats not my business.... as breast feeding isn't her problem.. however i think the other woman who says she doesn't even try to cover up.. that is crazy too... i breastfed both of my kids and often times we were in a restaurant or walking in the mall or wherever..and i always tried to somewhat cover up, but when it comes down to it... if nursing makes your baby happy, or stop crying...than you're going to do it... and no one should have a say in it... plus.. if your husband doesn't speak up and try to have you cover up.. you are both just crazy.. my husband used to open my bra for me if i was holding the baby, that way my boob didn't just flop out, and he would hold a blanket for me.. whatever it takes... but it is in a way a compromise... just as you would wish that  a 215 pound girl not wear a halter top and a mini skirt in public.. you should at least try to cover while you nurse, but as least make an effort!!!
 
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October 7, 2005, 12:45 pm PDT

Today's Debates

My opinion about breastfeeding in public is that it should not be done out of respect of other's discomfort about it.  Places these days are starting to put family rooms and other areas that are accessible to breast feeding mothers that allow them to feed their child in privacy.  I feel that women who breastfeed their child in public, are disrespectful. I understand that their child has to eat but mothers can be more discreet about how they do it. I just don't think it is appropriate. 

  

My opinion about condoms in school is that I think it is a great idea.  I can understand how people may think that it will encourage kids to have sex, but the kids that are taking the condoms were already thinking about sex in the first place and now they can do it and be protected. 

 
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October 7, 2005, 12:45 pm PDT

Re: Public Breastfeeding

I don't believe in public, unshielded breastfeeding.  A mother who breastfeeds her child in public has choices about where and when she feeds her baby.  The people who surround her when she unexpectedly begins to breastfeed have their choices taken away about whether or not they wish to see a breastfeeding woman.  This leaves the breastfeeding woman as the only person in the situation with a choice. 

 
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October 7, 2005, 12:45 pm PDT

10/07 The Latest Debates

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Dr. Phil, 

  

I have to comment on the breadfeeding issue right now on your show. I agree with both ladies. Yes you have a right to feed your baby when they are hungry but there are ways around breastfeeding in public when your child is hungry. My friend just had a baby and if she has to go in public, she pumps and puts her milk in a bottle. Its called respect for others, especially if you want to give your baby breast milk there are other ways. The one lady is just rude.  

  

So what happens if your baby gets hungry on a road trip and you are the only other person in the car. You gonna get the baby and breastfeed while driving putting everyone else at risk???? because it sure as heck seems she could care less respecting others so why would she start while driving and actually pull over? 

  

If your baby is hungry BOTTLE FEED IT... It's amazing this wonderful thing called a bottle gets around the issue! 

  

Thanks Dr. Phil 

Devoted watcher 

 Ummm. You have to pull over if you want to feed a baby in a car. You shouldn't be feeding a baby while driving, breastfeeding or not.

What's your point?
 
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10/07 The Latest Debates

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  I tried to breastfeed my children. Only to be met with hard looks and I can't believe you are doing that! I had to hid in nasty bathrooms. Like I was doing something wrong. What about all the exposed breast on tv. Women can dance nude and it's ok. You do something that takes the breast away from the idea that it is for sex and everyone is all over you. They are put there for a reason and it is not for men! They are there for having babies and feeding them and giving them a good start in life. It's ok to have a girls gone wild video and having underage girls pulling up shirts and exposing themselves. No one gets tired of that! 

Let me just say: *applause* No one has any problem with Pamela Anderson's boobs hanging out all over the place or Britney's or whoever's. But put a nursing woman into the picture and hell freezes over. Go figure. I just don't get it.
 
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October 7, 2005, 12:45 pm PDT

Breast Feeding in public

I just think that if mother want to breast feed in public why not. I just think it has to be done why not let the mother do it. And if someone doesnt like it dont look. And people saying they should go to the bathroom well why should they have to why should they leave what there doing just to go breast feed wen they can just stay were they are and do it. I think breast feeding in the bathroom is dirty because bathroom are dirty. And some mother put a light blanket but the point is JUST DONT LOOK!!!!
 
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October 7, 2005, 12:45 pm PDT

Condoms in School

Schools should concentrate on teaching our kids how to read, write and count.  Until schools can do this consistently and effectively, I don't think we want them teaching our kids about sex and condom use.  Kids need a nurturing environment where they can learn, they do not need condoms.  Basic "health" classes are sufficient in schools, and it is the parent's responsibility to pass their values and beliefs onto their kids.
 
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October 7, 2005, 12:45 pm PDT

Get Real!

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I don't think that that breastfeeding should be done in public places. It is illegal to show your breast in public, right? I think some females use breastfeeding as an excuse to expose their breasts in public. If they're  so worried about their babies getting the right nutrition, then they already know 'when' it's going to be hungry again. Why would they choose to run to walmart or another public place just when it's time to feed the baby? The baby don't just 'all of a sudden' get hungry when you get to the store.  Does the smell of the store make them hungry?  New borns eat every three to four hours. That's how it's always been. Or even if it's every two hours. The mother knows about when it's going to be time to feed the baby, Like I said.. why run to walmart or any other store, just when it's time for the baby to eat again?  I don't think that it's right for other little kids to have to see some womans breast hanging out,  or for other womens husbands to see them either.  Jealousy can cause rage in some people, ya know?  Someone could end up getting hurt, exposing their breast in public.              Sincerely, Dolly

Miss Dolly, 

  

Babies are unpredictable.  Sometimes they get hungry every 2 hours, sometimes not.  SO it is not possible to predict when they will get hungry again.  What do you mean why run to walmart?  Nursing parents do have errands to run besides taking care of their child.  I mean they want a breath of fresh air and want their child to get some too.  If a man oggles and gets aroused by a woman as she breastfeeds, he needs professinal help. 

  

Amy 

 
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October 7, 2005, 12:45 pm PDT

Why?!

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It's not appropriate in public.  It's crass, uncouth, and uncivilized.  Put a wrap over yourself.  That's all, it's quite simple. 
I have never covered myself. I've never completely exposed myself either. Most people couldn't even tell my child was eating. The few times I did try to cover him he pulled the light blanket off. He gets hot. I certainly don't see how breastfeeding is crass, uncouth, or especially uncivilized! Please explain that one.
 
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October 7, 2005, 12:45 pm PDT

So what your saying is....

If I am in a restaurant and the person at the next table is chewing in a manner that I find offensive and they are ruining my meal because of the way they are eating, I should be able to tell them to go to the bathroom with their meal?   or...  If I am at a restaurant eating and the person at the next table continuously blows their nose I should ask them to please go to the bathroom when they have that need?  I am the mother to three very healthy children, all breastfed for 12months, 22 months and 16 months.  Breast feeding is natural, what makes it unnatural are the people who think that breast are sex objects, they were created as a natural way to give sustenance to our offspring before MAN made them into SEX objects.  I am always amazed at the people who think of them as SEX objects first and the woman on the show today who was anti-breastfeeding could never give Dr. Phil an answer as to why she found breastfeeding offensive. 

theKSCmom 

 
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